Here’s how you can make someone fall in love with you instantly.

Are you single? Do you feel especially alone now that it’s cuffing season? Do you feel hopeless and annoyed wondering “where the fuck is he?” and “am I going to be single forever?”. Well, I’m here to help, but only the realistic people who are willing to hear me out and do something about their singleness.

With all my experience and wisdom, I want to provide you with what you need to know to attract what you want in your life.

First and foremost, I want to be fully transparent and real with you ladies and you need to be real and transparent with yourself.

DO THIS NOW: Take a moment, look in the mirror, and honestly rate YOU. Do you consider yourself a 6,8,10? Don’t kid yourself, and say you’re a 10 when you don’t fully understand what a 10 entails. A solid 10 is a woman who is considered to be FLAWLESS inside and out without makeup or noticeable surgical procedures. Most people are 4,5, or 6’s at best and let me explain…

To give you a REAL idea of what a 10 on the Richter scale equates to, here is a google search result of the most beautiful woman in the world (you can agree or not, but this a unanimous vote):

These women are not only beautiful on the outside, but they possess qualities that make them beautiful on the inside.

Personally, I consider a 10 to be Gisele Bundchen, Heidi Klum, Sandra Bullock, Julia Roberts, Tyra Banks, Michele Pfeiffer, Em Rata and YES, Ru Paul is fierce AF.

So, now, what does a 1 look like?

I’m not going to go there but if you choose to google the ugliest person in the world you’ll get the idea. Actually, I applaud that woman for being courageous, fearless, and emotionally solid to continue to live her life despite the public opinion of what “ugly” looks like. Seriously! People can be harsh.

Anway, now, where do you fit in?

Not just by looks alone, but the whole package, meaning…

Appearance: Is your skin clear and body tight? If not, you need to glow yourself up and fix your gut so you can look and feel confident which is the number one thing that men are drawn to.

Beliefs: Do you have complete trust, confidence, and self awareness? If not, reevaluate your positive and negative traits (your character traits define who you are as a person) and change your habits to align with a better version of yourself.

Thoughts: Are you someone who sees the positive outcome of every situation or a negative nancy who chooses to complain, attracts problems, and doubts herself? Well, no man wants that, so take your shitty negative thinking and start living with an attitude of gratitude.

Actions: Do your daily activities line up with your beliefs and your thoughts? It comes full circle, so, if you have a negative mindset which affirms your poor life choices then you need to fix yourself right quick to act according to a positive belief system.

Impact: Are you a supportive, helpful, and thoughtful contribution to this world? If you paused at this question, then you need to leave your selfish behavior along with your bad habits at your nearest garbage disposal immediately.

Ladies, you are what you attract. If you want a 10, be a 10. PERIOD.

Be real with yourself and don’t be out here looking like a 4 expecting a 10 to sweep you off your feet and make all your dreams come true because it aint gonna happen.

If you’re overweight, pretending to be something you’re not (living inauthentically), have a bad/negative attitude, and zero drive to create change in your life then fix yourself so you can attract a man who’s going to love you for who you are and stay with you. Meaning, don’t lead with lies, the truth will always come out, and even if you find “him” he’s going to leave your sorry ass once he realizes the bullshit he got himself into.

Do you get it? Reestablish and reinvent yourself, and once you’ve done that, then you can walk out into the world feeling fearless and confident which is what men are attracted to.

The choice is yours. You can choose to stay a sorry confused mess or change your life with a new set of beliefs, thoughts, and actions which will get you everything you want in life.

Here’s a link that might help you better understand what that process entails.

The only way to attract what you really want, and what wants you, is to transform yourself. So do yourself a favor and work on YOU.

Moving on…

Note, this next part will only work if you have done the work on yourself and are ready to receive a loving relationship because you truly love the imperfectly perfect version of who you are. Sit with that for a minute.

Here we go…

As a NEW version of yourself, here’s how you’re going to make someone fall in love with you instantly.

1. Make strong eye contact: If you see what you want confidently make eye contact. Look right into his eyes and with your eyes make it known you’re interested. If he walks over, then he picked up on what you put down, if he doesn’t, he knows you’re out of his league because baby, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH, and he’s not good enough for you so get that through your head. Rejection is a good thing, don’t think twice about it. If he’s bold enough to come over and you start a conversation, great, always look right into his eyes throughout the entire conversation, not to the left or the right. This shows your confidence and also will make him feel safe and comfortable by staring into your beautiful kind eyes. Eyes are the window to your soul, so let it be known how beautiful you are on the inside as well as on the outside.
2. Be interesting: Show a little mystery, share some mind blowing facts, things you’ve learned, and get him thinking. You want him to be impressed with your ability to carry an intellectual conversation, ask though provoking questions, and show that you have a brain. This will make him feel like he won by talking to you, you are a prize, the whole package, and you are someone who he can see being with in the long run.
3. Listen and pay attention: Be present in the conversation and interested in what he is saying. Don’t get distracted, be fully involved in what he has to say and make him feel heard. Men love to be noticed and appreciated, so acknowledge him for all of his impactful life and career contributions. Give him the feeling of being respected by hearing him.
4. Apply body touch: Just the slightest touching of the hand, a caressing touch on the back, running your fingers through his hair, gives him an idea of what it would be like to be intimate with you. Are you a soft sensual person, show him, subtly of course. Friendly, light body touch can make him feel wanted and give him a glimpse at what it would be like with you if you were intimate.
5. Play it cool: Wait for him to ask you for your number, and he will, because at this point you made him feel like he won the jackpot and he definitely wants more, he wants you. This is the part where you make the choice if YOU want him, so choose wisely.

Remember, this is VERY important, no matter what the “new” society standards are saying, men want a chase. PERIOD. Just like animals in the wild, they want to hunt, be challenged, and feel a sense of accomplishment before they obtain their prey.

Bob Marley once said…

“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy.”

With that being said, be a luxury, be a prize, be a queen that’s fit for a king, not a peasant. Know your value, know your worth, and know your boundaries, which also means knowing when to walk away.

Distinguish the jokers from the quality men, don’t kid yourself by choosing to not see the red flags at the first encounter. What you see, is what you get, and people rarely change because changing your subconscious beliefs is the HARDEST ongoing process in the world which few are willing to undertake.

Everything starts and ends with you, your inner world is your outer world, so the more you work on becoming a better version of yourself, the better versions of men you will attract.

You know what to do, now do it.

XOXO

Mariana Weber