Healing the inner child

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adult.</p><h1 id="3b2f">How can it be experienced?</h1><p id="61d3">It is a learned behaviour as a child who may have the fear of :</p><ul><li>Being invisible,</li><li>Left alone from conversations,</li><li>Left alone from minor appreciation,</li><li>Being left alone from an existence where it’s not acknowledged.</li></ul><p id="d867">Often this is experienced by a primary caregiver from either parent or both. This is also commonly known as emotional abuse, which presents itself as an abandonment wound.</p><ul><li>Possible scenarios :</li><li>A child is consistently being good to please.</li><li>They try to live up to an ideal but receive no recognition for it.</li><li>Being consistently ignored and developing a persona that; they will never be good enough.</li><li>They end up becoming a people pleaser.</li><li>They learn to survive.</li><li>They live in fear and are dependent on the person they seek approval from, which in turn results in them not being able to take risks.</li><li>As a result, their future relationships begin to suffer and they beg people to stay in their lives.</li><li>They live in this constant f

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ear of abandonment.</li><li>They were constantly rushed or given the silent treatment, so they lived in fear.</li></ul><h1 id="62b9">How can you begin to heal?</h1><p id="bc28">Write a letter to yourself :</p><ul><li>Acknowledge the inner child.</li><li>Forgive the inner child.</li><li>Hear your voice. Don’t believe the voice of the wound giver!</li><li>Don’t look for familiarity in new relationships as this means it’s going for emotionally unavailable people.</li><li>Be yourself and don’t be afraid of losing people. The good people will stay!</li><li>Don’t take everything personally.</li><li>Others’ treatment of you is their testament to their character, their flaws, not yours. Work on your self-care practices instead.</li><li>Allow people you meet for a romantic relationship to see your vulnerable side.</li></ul><h1 id="f3b3">Final thoughts</h1><p id="a359">It is a painful journey, allow yourself to acknowledge the pain and that what you feeling is valid. Work on yourself and allow yourself to take on new experiences, and relationships with a positive outlook and if it doesn’t work out it’s ok!</p></article></body>

Concept of the inner child

In some schools of popular psychology, the inner child is an individual’s child-like aspect. It includes what an individual learned as a child before puberty. The inner child is often conceived as a semi-independent sub-personality, subordinate to the waking conscious mind. It recognised that our behaviour as an adult stems from our childhood experiences. This is often the trauma we hold onto as an adult.

How can it be experienced?

It is a learned behaviour as a child who may have the fear of :

Being invisible,

Left alone from conversations,

Left alone from minor appreciation,

Being left alone from an existence where it’s not acknowledged.

Often this is experienced by a primary caregiver from either parent or both. This is also commonly known as emotional abuse, which presents itself as an abandonment wound.

Possible scenarios :

A child is consistently being good to please.

They try to live up to an ideal but receive no recognition for it.

Being consistently ignored and developing a persona that; they will never be good enough.

They end up becoming a people pleaser.

They learn to survive.

They live in fear and are dependent on the person they seek approval from, which in turn results in them not being able to take risks.

As a result, their future relationships begin to suffer and they beg people to stay in their lives.

They live in this constant fear of abandonment.

They were constantly rushed or given the silent treatment, so they lived in fear.

How can you begin to heal?

Write a letter to yourself :

Acknowledge the inner child.

Forgive the inner child.

Hear your voice. Don’t believe the voice of the wound giver!

Don’t look for familiarity in new relationships as this means it’s going for emotionally unavailable people.

Be yourself and don’t be afraid of losing people. The good people will stay!

Don’t take everything personally.

Others’ treatment of you is their testament to their character, their flaws, not yours. Work on your self-care practices instead.

Allow people you meet for a romantic relationship to see your vulnerable side.