Heal Your Mind- Heal Your Heart

IT’S ALL UP TO YOU

I believe the heart and mind can heal itself just as efficiently as the body heals itself. I believe it, because I have seen it. It is nature, it is meant to be that way.

Once the christianization of Europe started, which in turn resulted in the destruction of the natural religions where we were in touch with the earth and ourselves, we began to lose the mind set of being responsible for ourselves.

We were taught to “turn the other cheek” in other words ‘be a door mat, and don’t stand up for your self’. We were taught, ‘put everyone else first, and after paying your taxes to the government, give what you have left to the poor’… etc. This paradigm has made the masses passive.

What I see in society is that a lot of people see through that particular twist on religion now and have risen above this to some extent, but the passive mindset and brainwashing still remains. Then the ones that are the most mentally ill are the loudest, pushing extremely unhealthy agendas, because they are insecure in themselves. They are panicked, desperately scratching and clawing at life and other people to find just a modicum of validity and self worth. It’s time for people to start looking in the mirror and worry about changing themselves, instead of worrying about what everyone else is doing, that is not healthy.

I believe instead that we should take care of ourselves so that we can efficiently take care of others. Be responsible, and stand strong in what you believe ( first you need to know what you really belive and why you believe it), and not be lead by every new whim that comes along.

Each and every one of us, has a different story. Each one of our lives is like a different song played by a whole different set of instruments. We are on this earth learning our own set of lessons. Therefore what is good for one person is not necessarily good for the next person.

It is important for people to spend some time alone, and truly get to know themselves. It will likely be very uncomfortable at first to spend time alone if you are not use to it, but so beneficial in the long run. I have a family member, I am very close to who is absolutely mortified of being alone, as a child she was left alone way too much. Though she has spent many years in counseling, she still has the crippling fear of being alone, with no progress toward healing from the trauma of being left alone as a child.

Even though I may have an opinion on how to heal from that particular emotional wound, it would only work if the person with the wound was thoroughly determined to rise above the pain and free themselves. And it starts with facing the fear, recognizing it, accepting that your feelings are valid and then deciding that you are going to heal and overcome it.

Growing up as a missionary/preachers daughter, I have seen so much emotional pain, struggle, mental illness, and very few instances where individuals actually do the work it takes to heal. I have seen many instances where people use religion as a copout. It’s so easy to deny responsibility for your own mental condition, when you can “give it to the Lord”. Let me make it very clear that I am in no way mocking anyones God. I am saying quite clearly that each of us is responsible for our minds, what we think, what we feel, our actions, and how we come across to other people. Nothing outside of ones self should take the place of being responsible for your own mental health.

Every single morning when we wake up, we have a choice for a new mind set, a new attitude, and a new and improved way to present ourselves to the world. We have either, a parent, spouse, sibling, child, friend, co-worker, or pet to interact with, and a choice on how we are going to do that.

The words, “ I can’t help it” should never leave someones lips. If you make the choice to act in a way that does not make the other being want to be with you, that is on you.

If a person becomes aware of themselves by observing their own actions and adopts the attitude that they are responsible for not only their own actions, but that they are responsible for how they think and feel, then that person is on their way to healing their past wounds.

It is like any other habit, it takes dedication, focus and determination to change. It can be done, I know because I have done it and know others that have overcome atrocities that most would have ended their lives over.

Our current societal structure is not conducive to the mindset of being responsible for their own selves. The masses of followers have a mindset of being entitled. They are worried about what everyone else is doing and how “someone else has made them feel”.

I believe that if every person took responsibility for themselves starting today, the snowball effect would be astounding. We would see a positive change like never seen before.

There are many steps to truly healing your mind, taking responsibility and having the determination to change is only the first step. This process starts by taking time to yourself, getting quiet, reflecting on your feelings and actions. When you continue to do this you will see how your feelings and desires evolve. Every person has their own set of obstacles to overcome. This isn’t a problem, it is human nature. One theory is that we are on this earth to grow and evolve. If this is true then we need to embrace it, own it, and become all that we can. Otherwise we are wasting this very fascinating and wonderful existence.

Make time to be alone, and be in nature to connect with the earth. Quiet your mind, own your feelings. Slow things down and re-evaluate life. Schedule time to do this regularly. What have you got to lose? Some time you would have spent in front the television or scrolling through social media designed to control your time, thought process and beliefs? We can all find things in ourselves to improve upon. Improving the world starts with each of us.