avatarJessey Anthony

Summary

Men's frequent smiling can be perceived as unattractive and less masculine by women, who prefer more stoic expressions, while women are often encouraged to smile more, which men find attractive.

Abstract

The article discusses the contrasting perceptions of smiling between men and women in the context of attraction. It suggests that men are typically drawn to women who smile often, interpreting it as a sign of interest or affection. Conversely, women tend to find men who smile excessively to be less attractive, associating it with a lack of masculinity and potential desperation for sexual attention. This preference is rooted in psychological and evolutionary factors, where non-verbal cues like smiling convey femininity and submission, and where qualities such as pride, sadness, or shame can signal competence and trustworthiness. The article concludes that while smiling can enhance male attractiveness for long-term relationships by expressing trust, men should balance their smiles to avoid appearing unattractive or untrustworthy to women.

Opinions

  • Men find a woman's smile indicative of interest or affection and rate smiling women as more sexually appealing.
  • Women interpret excessive smiling in men as a sign of femininity, desperation for sex, and lower attractiveness.
  • Non-smiling individuals may be perceived as proud or overly confident by the opposite sex, which can be attractive to some.
  • Shame is linked to trust in social environments, potentially influencing partner selection when self-confidence is low.
  • Evolutionary theories suggest that certain non-verbal cues, like pride or sadness, are associated with desirable masculine traits such as competence, status, and the ability to protect and provide.
  • Women are traditionally attracted to 'bad boys' or men with stoic expressions, as they may represent strength and reliability.
  • Smiling can enhance a man's attractiveness for long-term relationships by signaling trustworthiness, but it should be done judiciously to avoid negative perceptions.

Heads Up Guys! Smiling Too Much Freak Women Out and It’s Unattractive

If you are wondering why every girl you ask out turns you down, this could be the reason.

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Too often, women are told to smile more. “You look pretty when you smile,” “You have a beautiful smile, you should smile more,” “Your smile makes me happy, always smile,” are a few but familiar compliments women get all the time.

Men like seeing women smile. They are attracted to a woman’s smile because it expresses interest and affection.

To a man, if a woman is smiling at him, then she must like him or maybe even want sex with him. While they find women who do not smile less desirable and prideful.

Women on the hand, find guys who smile too much a turn-off. They assume a guy’s smile is a sign of desperation for sex.

Also women like more masculine features in men, and when you smile it can be misinterpreted that you are a feminine man.

So if you want to look more attractive to that gorgeous girl you admire next door, you might want to turn down your smiles.

The psychology behind smiling

Although smiling is a key to friendly social attraction, men and women react to it differently.

According to psychologists, non-verbal expressions and body language play a big role in defining how we feel about people.

One study revealed that men rated women with a big, cheesy smile on their faces as more sexually appealing than women who do not smile. They see women who don’t smile as proud and overly confident.

Women, however, find men who did not smile to be more attractive sexually, while those who smile appeared creepy.

The same study found that both men and women are attracted to people that appear shameful. Shame has been linked to trust in a social environment.

People trust you more when they feel ashamed of themselves. This could be the reason men and women choose a partner they can trust when they don’t feel confident about themselves.

The psychology behind the smile is the expression of femininity and submission. How we judge attractiveness and unattractiveness can be attributed to tradition and cultural norms.

Evolutionary theories, for example, suggest that pride and sad gestures represent competence, status, protection, and ability to care for the family.

Since these qualities are traditionally attributed to men when it comes to gender roles, some women may be attracted to these men.

This is why women prefer strong and quiet men. Whereas a happy guy with a smile on his face comes off as creepy or worst, a serial killer.

Final thoughts

Most men view smiling as subservient, weak, and vulnerable- a cultural norm that pushes women into a traditional stereotype.

However, while men tend to find smiling and receptive women sexually attractive, women don’t.

Women find happy guys significantly less sexually attractive than swaggering or brooding men. Which explains why they are drawn to “bad boys” with straight faces.

Does this mean you should stop smiling?

Not really. Matters of the heart can be different for everyone. Besides as much as women frown at smiling guys, they also want a trustworthy man, and smiling expresses trust.

Smiling enhance the male attractiveness for long-term relationships. So if you want to look attractive and trustworthy, don’t be a stone-cold face. Smile when you compliment her, but don’t smile too often to the point you freak her out.

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