Having a Sex Doll Should be Celebrated

A sex doll is an asset, not a reason to judge people.

The other day, a friend of mine told me that she would be furious and run away if she found out her boyfriend had a sex doll. I don’t recall how this topic came up, but she expressed a very strong opinion about a sex doll being a reason to yell at a guy and run for the hills. While I understand the initial shock, I believe we should have a lot of respect and even admiration for individuals — both men and women — who choose to own sex dolls.

I understand this topic being controversial, and many people may feel turned off by someone owning a sex toy. But I see several reasons not to stigmatize sex doll owners. Without exaggeration, we should celebrate having such a doll, as opposed to jumping to conclusions and judging. I would like to explain the reasoning behind it.

Sexual stigma is still problematic

Society still judges women who talk openly about owning sex toys. Even in progressive countries, many people still act judgmentally towards those who bring up the subject of sex and sex toys. The chances are, even if you make conservative decisions regarding your personal life, people may still judge you for bringing up sex.

It should not be this way. No one deserves to be slut-shamed for their personal lives. Other people have no right to stick their noses into your bed, and even If they hear you talk about sex, they still shouldn’t be judging you. If they don’t wish to listen to your opinions about intimacy, they should voice their unwillingness to discuss it, and ask you to change the topic. Establishing boundaries is crucial: if someone isn’t comfortable with what you have to say, they should let you know — politely, of course. And if they judge you behind your back — it’s their problem for being judgmental and perpetuating the stigma. It is not your fault.

Maybe, one day we will live in the world without judgment and destructive criticism. But all we can do for now is to surround ourselves with accepting, kind and open-minded people.

A sex doll is just a sex toy

What is a sex doll? It is a sex toy. That’s all it is! We are finally talking about sex toys, although many people still feel extremely uncomfortable around this topic. But at least we have some sort of acceptance and education regarding the need for such “tools” in our lives.

Granted, a sex doll is a “next level” toy compared to vibrators and other sex products. But we define it as a “realistic, adult-sized sex toy which resembles a man or woman and has anatomically correct parts.” It’s insane that a sex toy dates back almost 30,000 years when ancient people were carving 8-inch-long penises out of siltstone; yet, Alabama’s sex toy ban wasn’t overturned until 2018. Sex toys should be accepted by society, and dolls deserve to have the same “treatment.”

Why a sex doll is a great idea

Throughout my life, I have observed a lot of couples who enter relationships for the wrong reasons. I don’t judge people for their decisions, but I’m a firm believer in learning from other people’s mistakes.

Some of us start relationships because we are lonely, others are bored, and some are lost. But many of us want to have intimacy — both emotional and physical. Certain people prioritize physical intimacy and start dating for that reason. Now, when two people wish to focus on sex and don’t get involved emotionally, a casual relationship takes place. And that’s fantastic! They aren’t lying to each other about wanting a serious, love-based connection, and are being upfront with each other from the very start.

Unfortunately, we all know couples where one person wants something serious, and the other one is seeking a casual connection. These relationships can go on for years, while one party mostly desires sex, and the other one is constantly hurt and unhappy due to the lack of emotional intimacy and seriousness.

Why break someone’s heart? Getting a sex doll is a great alternative, and that way, no one gets hurt. People who purchased sex dolls left the following reviews: “makes a great companion,” “helps with sexual health, “ and “adept at healing the soul.” There was even an elderly customer who shared quite an emotional experience:

“Nice lady. I tucked her in to be my sleeping mate since my wife passed away. At 92, I am one of those who find these lifelike ladies a welcome companion without any caveats.”

Society should stop seeing sex dolls as unacceptable and dirty. They serve as a solution to loneliness, emptiness and other emotional needs, on top of assisting with physical ones.

We should celebrate the decision to get a sex doll

I believe that people who opt-in for a sex doll deserve a lot of respect and admiration. Instead of using someone for their sexual needs, they are purchasing a product and are utilizing it. No one’s feelings are getting hurt, and no one gets used. As opposed to a couple, where one person cowardly leads the other one on and focuses on sex, and the other one is being deceived and constantly unhappy; we see a single happy individual with a sex doll. Well, to be fair, we seldom see the doll or even suspect its existence. But it’s there, hidden somewhere in the closet.

Therefore, if you find out that your acquaintance owns such a toy, there is no need to judge them. Getting a sex doll constitutes taking care of physical needs instead of using someone to do so. We are all human, we crave intimacy, and sex dolls exist to assist with that.