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to by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@jamesoliverbarr?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">James Barr</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/man-wearing-red-sleeveless-shirt-ooGh9jAP5l8?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="de59">The first threshold is the point you can always get back to if you feeling less happy in your life.</p><p id="4707">The anchor point is something that is a voluntary action belonging solely to you, such as going to the gym and pushing yourself to the absolute limit or grabbing a Starbucks and sitting in the coffee shop.</p><p id="f01d">It’s personal, and it’s something that has always elicited a feeling of happiness.</p><p id="163f">It is like ballet dancers fixing their shoes to be perfect for the theatre; it is like opera singers practising their vocal runs before getting on stage. The anchor point is used to trampoline yourself into your life.</p><h1 id="4c78">3. Self Affirmation</h1><figure id="90b4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*sDwRkqmTST94KP8J.jpeg"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@austriannationallibrary?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">Austrian National Library</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/man-in-black-and-white-striped-polo-shirt-nadev-SZmVU?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="3034">Throughout this process, it is important to self-affirm and interpret situations out loud to oneself. Keeping it in can be detrimental and create an echo chamber. So, it’s important to say it (under your breath if need be, but always out of your mouth), whatever the feeling you are going through.</p><p id="c363">For instance, when I am feeling anxious, I say it out loud along with a self-affirming interpretation of my feelings: “I am feeling anxious, which is normal and happens to many people, and I will be alright.”</p><p id="a948">I recently wrote an article where I expanded on this practice by including a mirror.</p><div id="a1cb" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/looking-at-myself-in-the-mirror-for-10-minutes-every-morning-cured-my-sadness-716c4a72694b"> <div> <div>

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            <div><h3>Loving oneself is often the hardest thing to learn, but also the most important.</h3></div>
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    </div><p id="0ba2">By verbalising, we affirm ourselves in stressful situations. As you progress on your journey through self-discovery, you can guide yourself toward situations that elicit happiness.</p><h2 id="e396">Conclusion</h2><figure id="1807"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*ohn09pbhFI0tIA3Z"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@frostroomhead?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Rodion Kutsaiev</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="2769">“Happiness is not a goal” does not mean it’s not possible to intentionally elicit more happiness in one’s life.</p><p id="3e3d">It simply means that to do that, practices have to be in place, using intentionality to place the individual in situations that could elicit that feeling. And even then, it’s important to know that happiness will fade and be replaced by the opposite now and then. But by using intentionality, we can get back to a place that helps bring happiness back to the forefront.</p><p id="9352">And we can also create a life where happiness is more prevalent than its opposite.</p><p id="e5db">Thank you for reading!</p><div id="53b3" class="link-block">
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            <div><h3>In a world where victors are celebrated, it’s often difficult to say otherwise.</h3></div>
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Happiness Is Not a Reasonable Goal.

You’ll drive yourself crazy.

Happiness is a fleeting feeling like anger or any other emotion humans feel. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.

However, beyond treating happiness as a goal, there is intentionality — a tangible practice that can help navigate situations that could elicit that feeling.

This article is intended to serve as a map to achieve this by utilising a three-step process.

1. New Beginnings

Each week is a new beginning.

Each day is a new beginning.

Each hour is a new beginning.

This is a transformative mindset; there are do-overs because you get new beginnings if you fail at something.

As humans, we collect memories, and sometimes we can use them to propel us forward, but sometimes, they serve as ankle weights, pulling us down.

So it is important to know that we can choose to start again if something is not going right.

Set an alarm for the new beginning when you need it and wait, maybe close your eyes. And when it rings, get up, knowing you have another go.

2. Anchor Point.

Finding your first threshold.

The first threshold is the point you can always get back to if you feeling less happy in your life.

The anchor point is something that is a voluntary action belonging solely to you, such as going to the gym and pushing yourself to the absolute limit or grabbing a Starbucks and sitting in the coffee shop.

It’s personal, and it’s something that has always elicited a feeling of happiness.

It is like ballet dancers fixing their shoes to be perfect for the theatre; it is like opera singers practising their vocal runs before getting on stage. The anchor point is used to trampoline yourself into your life.

3. Self Affirmation

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Throughout this process, it is important to self-affirm and interpret situations out loud to oneself. Keeping it in can be detrimental and create an echo chamber. So, it’s important to say it (under your breath if need be, but always out of your mouth), whatever the feeling you are going through.

For instance, when I am feeling anxious, I say it out loud along with a self-affirming interpretation of my feelings: “I am feeling anxious, which is normal and happens to many people, and I will be alright.”

I recently wrote an article where I expanded on this practice by including a mirror.

Looking at Myself in the Mirror for 10 Minutes Every Morning Cured My Sadness

Loving oneself is often the hardest thing to learn, but also the most important.

medium.com

By verbalising, we affirm ourselves in stressful situations. As you progress on your journey through self-discovery, you can guide yourself toward situations that elicit happiness.

Conclusion

“Happiness is not a goal” does not mean it’s not possible to intentionally elicit more happiness in one’s life.

It simply means that to do that, practices have to be in place, using intentionality to place the individual in situations that could elicit that feeling. And even then, it’s important to know that happiness will fade and be replaced by the opposite now and then. But by using intentionality, we can get back to a place that helps bring happiness back to the forefront.

And we can also create a life where happiness is more prevalent than its opposite.

Thank you for reading!

Could Your Morality Be Holding You Back from Success?

In a world where victors are celebrated, it’s often difficult to say otherwise.

medium.com