Happiness and Love

Why So Elusive?

The conditions for a seed to sprout need to be good. There needs to be sunshine. There needs to be good soil. There needs to be water. If it is too hot, that’s bad, and the same with it being too cold. Is it the seed’s right to sprout? No, actually, it’s not. But, if the conditions are right, then the likelihood of a seed sprouting are good.

So, what about happiness? What needs to be in place before happiness can happen?

Nothing.

That is because happiness is not contingent on outside circumstances being just right. Happiness is something that happens. It’s like breathing. You breath. You live.

What about people who say things like, “Oh, my husband makes me happy.” Well, you might think he makes you happy, but it is not his job or responsibility to make you happy. It is your job to make yourself happy.

How, the double hockey pucks, do you do that?

You stop living as if the world revolves around you. Some people never do that, and when they are 87 and doddering around, all they’ve got to say is stuff like if this had happened, then I would have been loved.

Excuse me? Well, I know some people who are like that. I also lived part of my life doing it, so I know what I speak about.

This is what I recommend. Get over yourself. So what if you’ve had a bad life? Have a better one now. It is a choice. Go have some therapy. An outside opinion is going to help you face some hard truths. Or, just read what I’m writing about.

The same thing applies to anyone despairing of ever finding someone to love them. Hey, Peaches, I’m here to tell you there are a lot of people out there who love you. You need to love yourself first. You need to forgive yourself for whatever it is that makes you feel bad. Everything will start to get better a lot faster than you ever thought it could.

Just have some faith in yourself. You will have a good life.