Guilt and Fear are Utilized by Others to Put You Down

Summary

The article discusses how guilt and fear, instilled by societal norms, are exploited by individuals of different character types to belittle others, and advocates for personal belief system alignment with one's natural tendencies to overcome this.

Abstract

The text explains that societal expectations impose a sense of guilt and fear in individuals when their natural inclinations conflict with their programmed belief systems. It highlights that people tend to befriend those with similar character types to avoid exploitation of these emotions. However, individuals with different character types may use guilt and fear to demean others, driven by underlying feelings of hatred and

This is mainly done by people of different character type

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Society induces a lot of restrictions on people. This causes people to have a certain form of guilt and fear. This guilt and fears make their way into the person’s mind because his tendencies do not match his belief system. The belief system is in turn formulated by societal programming.

Who takes advantage of this guilt and fear?

A person generally makes friends with another person who is of his own character type. A masculine man would like to make a connection with another masculine man as that person would understand his state of mind better and won’t use his feelings of guilt and shame against him. This happens because similar guilt and fear might be in the other person of a similar character type and he has sympathy rather than hatred.

People who are of a different character type than you would like to utilize your guilt and fear to get back at you. They would try to demean you and put you down and since you are a slave to your belief system so you would be affected by it. Every act of demeaning you has an underlying feeling of hatred and jealousy and the presence of guilt and fear within you provides a way for them to get back at you.

What is the solution?

The only solution to not be put down by others is to make your belief system in tune with your tendencies. If you are able to achieve this then you will be free of guilt and fear and even if someone who is having a different character type would like to get back at you, you would be unaffected.

Example: Shyam is a masculine man who had an interest in the opposite sex since his childhood. Shyam grew up in a conservative society and hence held a belief that marriage is sanctimonious and that he should not get involved physically with a girl before marriage. Thus his natural tendency and his belief system were in direct conflict and that caused him to have feelings of guilt and fear.

Shyam made friends with other masculine men who would not instigate his feelings of guilt and fear but somehow he got involved in a difficult situation and people of other character types tried to get back to him. This caused Shyam to get disturbed.

Shyam was advised by his friend Ram to undergo catharsis and refinement of the inner child and get rid of his feelings of fear and guilt. Shyam first removed emotional charges from all major incidents from his childhood where he felt fearful for having sexual feelings against girls in his class. Thereafter he changed his belief from what was formulated by his society to one of his own. He believed that marriage is just a social construct and it is the duty of society to cater to the needs and tendencies of people within it. Suppressing the desires of a certain section of people would cause society to become unstable. After changing his belief he brought to focus on his own inner child and imparted enough confidence and faith to face the world.

The above process was carried out multiple times by Shyam and eventually, he became quite free of guilt and fear. This caused him to become unaffected by people of different character types.

Conclusion

No one can put down a person who is fearless and free of guilt. It is only when we have feelings of guilt that people of different character types than us would try to put us down. Even in this situation, one does find solace with people of his own character type but I would suggest not being restricted to this boundary. One should apply the process of catharsis and refinement of the inner child to remove one emotionally charged impression after another and bring about a complete transformation within yourself. This would ensure that your level of happiness reaches another level and you are more inclusive of the kind of people with whom you can have bonding with. I still don’t believe strong bonding is generally possible with people of different character types but one thing this process of self-improvement will ensure is that you will be respected irrespective of your difference in opinion with others. Good luck travelling this path of self-growth and becoming a more open and happy person.