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Grief — A Cycle That Keeps Coming Back
The ways we can deal with Grief and the ways it sneaks into your life
Grief can hit you at any moment of any day.
Grief is circular. ⭕
Grief can come and go at any time.
Grief from the past can sneak up on you. Grief from recent losses can overwhelm you.
Grief creates a void in your life. A not knowing. It brings up the uncertainty of life: It can end at any moment.
Grief can be a loss of life and it can be a loss of other things, it can be a loss of a relationship, loss of friendship, a loss of a job and more. We can all grieve about different things in life. Most commonly known grief is when someone looses their life.
We enter a grief state. This can look different for every person.
How does grief look like to you?
If grief is a color I would say Grief is Gray like Clay. If grief would be a plant I would say it is a thistle. If grief would be something you can taste. I would say it tastes like metal and dirt.
Grief can cause a lot of sadness, feeling lost and pain for the people who are gone and also for the people who stay behind.
It is hard to bear the losses of loved ones, family, friends and people we care for.
I have had a lot of losses recently in my life.
I have been sad for those who passed on, trying to figure out what to do with all the grief inside me.
Grief can feel like an empty space inside you. An empty place you do not know what to do with. where to place it. What shelve to leave it on.
I knew I needed support. I reached out to friends, colleagues and had some wonderful conversations.
I spent a day in nature with a friend to create some space for something different than grief to be in my life.
A good friend reminded me yesterday to smile even in sadness.
Today I was doing things to bring the smile back into my life.
Tomorrow planning to plant a tree or a few…in honor of the people lost and in honor of the surviving family, friends and caregivers.
Reminding yourself that life is here for you this moment can help with grounding yourself and bringing moments of peace in grief.
It is ok to be sad, it is ok to cry and let the grief out. It is ok to scream and release the pain. It is ok to take time with your grief.
It is your grief nobody can tell you how long it can take.
Grief can bring people together and drive people apart. Grief is a very powerful emotion.
It is important not to make any quick decisions while in grief.
It is also important to allow yourself to smile and have happiness in your life even in grief.
Remembering the happy moments with those we lost can bring a sense of relief in grief.
I like to remember my grandmother’s cooking. My grandfather’s stories. My adventures with my aunt. The fun times with my uncle. The stories my patients told me.
Please check out this short video I created about Grief
Thank you for reading, watching.
Please share your thoughts on grief and how you have dealt with grief in your life.
Gabriella
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