Grammarly is Ruining My Passion.

At least it feels that way, but maybe it’s me?

I began writing on Quora ten months ago. I was in an abusive, manipulative relationship that had me questioning my sanity, reality, and life in general. I began by asking questions on Quora, and I asked a lot! I asked over 200 questions in a short period, but I wasn’t getting the answers I needed.

I was hesitant about answering questions, but I said, “fuck it” I have nothing to lose! I began the search for questions that related to what I was going through and answered those.

Finally! I started making sense of what was going on. I’ve had three therapists tell me what I was experiencing was Narcissist Abuse. And I’ve watched enough Youtube videos on abuse to last a lifetime. I didn’t believe any of it! I couldn’t fathom the girl who told me all the nice things and the commonalities we had to be Narcissist. Nope, not going to believe it!

With each question I answered, I got more and more validation of what was going on. So many readers were going through identical abuse! In the ten months on Quora, I racked up almost 10K followers and over 27 million views, so someone relates to what I’m writing.

I began to enjoy it. I started writing on other topics such as Psychology, Mental Health, Dating, Relationship Advice, and Mindfulness. I started getting the most viewed writer notifications in each of those topics. I seriously thought something was wrong. My grammar is terrible. When I first started with Quora, there was a feature where readers could suggest correcting grammatical mistakes, and I loved it! I could choose if I wanted to change the format of my writings.

I listened to all kinds of self-help and motivational videos on YouTube. All I heard was, “once you find your passion and can make money from it, you will never work again!” I agree with that statement!

I love to write even though I need improvement, and I like sharing my experiences in hopes of helping others. And if I can get paid for it, why not?! I found Medium because Quora wasn’t paying at the time, and I read an article from Sean Kernan about it. Quora is paying now, but that’s a whole new can of worms to write about!

I feel more pressure writing here than on Quora. Medium is much different than Quora. I compare Quora to an Applebee’s, and Medium is a much more fine dining restaurant if that makes sense.

I never use any editor on Quora. I write. And to be honest, I never thought much about it.

Once I started on Medium, it was more professional. I need to mention articles, where my pictures come from, use proper grammar and seek the almighty Curation!

I know I have to adapt if I want to continue my passion, but it is very frustrating when I put my article into Grammarly, and it says 54 suggested corrections and sometimes more! It’s painful going through every click making corrections that I am unsure if it’s needed!

I have the type of personality that seeks instant gratification, and maybe that’s some of my problem.

In my three months on Medium, I have received Top Writer in Psychology and Mental Health. I also received a $500 bonus for most engaged writers, 485 followers and earned around $2000 in my short stay thus far. Is that good? Maybe, but I’m hard on myself at times.

I feel Grammarly can take the character and personality of who I am out of my writings with all the corrections. And to be honest, I’m not sure if the revisions are needed or are correct!

Maybe I need to shut my mouth and adapt and see where it goes. Practice my patience and writing form. Take some classes on how to use correct punctuation and grammar. It sure as hell couldn’t hurt.

If you have any suggestions or comments, please feel free to tell me about your experiences.

I really appreciate any suggestions you can provide