Giving Yourself Space To Grow

How to become your true self

“Every one of our thoughts needs freedom and space in order to bloom and express beauty.”

― Debasish Mridha

Until the pandemic in 2020, I was so caught up in being a caretaker for others that I did not allow myself room to grow as a person. I am grateful for the boundaries and space that create a home for my true self.

In my family, there was always a strong emphasis on the obligation to attend and host events.

I felt the pressure to always go to family gatherings or to create one myself. The last party we hosted was in December 2019. While it was beautiful to be with family, my soul needed to be alone.

After that gathering, I decided to be more intentional with my time and who I spent it with.

I realized I had not allowed myself enough time to become me. By constantly allowing myself to be pulled in different directions by my family, I had no boundaries.

Here are the ways I nurtured my growth by giving myself space.

Space In Our Words

I have a ceramic plaque written in Swedish that says: Talking is Silver, Silence is Golden. When we create space between our words and communication, they are more meaningful.

Sometimes, when we do not speak to someone for a while, it can be considered bad. However, I feel that giving your words space is a loving thing to do.

We can show our love beyond words.

I felt I had become so emotionally entangled with my parents, I did not know who I was. All I knew was being a caretaker, trying to make things right, and keeping the peace.

In creating space between communications, I allowed myself the expanse to grow. I have to trust with my heart and know that my parents are on their own path too.

I can love others through a whisper in the wind, an intention made with love, and a prayer sent with sincere thoughts.

I now communicate on my own terms, being quiet when it feels right, speaking with my heart when it feels best. I trust my feelings more than the voice of pressure in my mind. The space between my words is golden.

Love Your Space

When you first give yourself the room to grow, it can feel uncomfortable. You will feel guilt for not doing things for others at every moment.

Those feelings still come up for me from time to time. Allowing myself to know that my loved ones are happy and traveling on their own journey puts my heart at ease. I cannot do everything for everyone.

Each person has their own unique evolvement in life.

We have to let the universe unfold one day at a time. Loving your space means that you are growing into yourself. At each moment, you are becoming who you were meant to be, an eternal, beautiful soul.

Today I relish the quiet time I have. I have room to roam, walk outside, silent in my thoughts and feelings. Stepping away from the drama of life has its rewards.

When you embrace the expanse you build around you, there are no limits.

I now feel more confident in my ability to become myself. I can be the writer, author, and resilient person I want to be.

Universal Space

We are all part of an ever-expanding universe. Every day, it creates more space. It is difficult to wrap our minds around how big it is.

It is our destiny to once again be part of space when we pass on.

We must create space for ourselves so that we can fulfill our purpose. If we crowd our lives with obligations, guilt, and negativity, it will consume us.

This universal space is one where we are all free. We have the liberty to be ourselves, to love ourselves for who we are.

Give yourself the space you deserve to become who you are deep in your heart. You will never regret that choice.

Do you have a story of creating boundaries and space for yourself? Please share them in the comments. I appreciate you!