Giving Up, Saves Our Lives

Learn to give up to feel better

I want to ask you a life question. You’ve worked hard, worked hard, got up day and night for ten years, and you’ve really come to an incredible conclusion.

You’ve accumulated 10 kilos of gold, and with that 10 kilos of gold, you’re walking your way. You have to go through the woods.

As I walk through the forest, you’re in a very good mood, your mood is very high, and you say that with this gold, I will make all my dreams come true.

I’ve worked for ten years, worked hard. Maybe I’ve given up my fun. I even gave up on myself, but it was worth it. And I finally got 10 kilos of gold. You’re saying My Life will be different from now on.

As you pass through that forest, you unwittingly take a step and fall into a deep hole there. You’re holding 10 kilos of gold in a bag in your left hand. Suddenly, when you fell into that well, you clung to an Ivy there.

The Ivy doesn’t break, but you’re with 10 kilos of gold in your hand and you’re trying to get up. But the more you try to get out, the more you see, the gold is seriously burdening you. And here you have to make a choice.

You’ll have to give up some of the gold. But it’s a serious renunciation for you. But if you don’t put it under, if you don’t give up one, you won’t be able to go up because of that weight there. Maybe you should give up half.

Now you have to make a choice here to get it up with the help of Ivy, easing it. Would you give up in this situation? Otherwise, if you don’t give up, you won’t be able to go up because of the gold, and your arm’s stamina isn’t very long. After a while, maybe you’ll have to quit.

Your hand will weaken and you will fall. You don’t know what’s waiting for you down there. Because it’s dark down there and it looks like the bottom. A very long and deep well. What would you do in a situation like this?

Here, the event that we call giving up takes up a very, very important place in life. It’s a good example of this situation. We do a lot of things in life. We don’t want to give up on many issues, we don’t want to give up.

You’re saying I worked so hard for this. These can be relationships, they can be people, they can be situations that we are in. But is not giving up a success? What do you think about this topic?

Isn’t quitting sometimes the most basic key to freedom? Maybe what we can’t give up is a burden on our souls to this day. Here are some things you need to give up.

You’ll feel much better when you give up. Some people have an obsession with success. Something wants to continue to the end.

It could be a job, it could be a marriage, it could be a relationship. For these people to think that they are successful, it must go on forever. But do you think something has to go on forever for it to succeed?

I mean, imagine if the relationship had a good time. It’s been a great year, but now you’re hurting each other. A serious situation has arisen. To succeed in some way, you have to continue. Is it necessary to endure this situation forever?

For example, you work in a workplace. Yeah, everything was great at first. But now you want to quit. You want to get your way out of there, but you feel like if you let go, you’re gonna fail.

I think that the success of something is immeasurable by the fact that it lasts forever. There are good times when I live. Leaving it to taste is a measure of success. If it’s not, I’ve forced it once or twice.

All right, come on, I pushed it three times. Okay doesn’t happen anymore. Sometimes you have to leave it there. Let your direction clear. Let the space in that life be empty, let other things take their place. Actually, this is the key to peace.

The human brain is actually very lazy and doesn’t bother to perceive new things. He always wants to maintain his existing state, and because of this, he can choose situations that he is used to, rather than testing new situations or taking risks.

In our lives, sometimes this rule can cause something like this. It always seems to us that the things we are used to are good. But just because you’re used to something doesn’t mean it’s good for you.

For example, in places like a relationship where you always have to prove yourself, a relationship without love, a work environment that doesn’t care about you, it feels like you’re in the right place because you’ve always tended to behave the same way before.

It’s very uncomfortable for you to come out of a loveless relationship, to object.

It feels like you’re going to do something bad or you’re going to be a bad person. To give another example, for example, he always beats the right in the workplace.

You didn’t see any objections from your mother and father. But to be able to go and say to your boss, manager, or boss, “you’re eating my right,” it’s like being a very bad person.

And you always repeat what you’re used to, but in this case, your life will not progress. You always keep the things that hurt you in your life. Because of this, we need to question what we are used to.

Trying things that seem to bother us that we are not used to, applying different methods to our lives, will make us feel good. It’ll help us solve our problems.

When giving up on a person, he should not leave with a quarrel. Yeah, maybe that person put you through bad things.

Maybe he let you down at the point of life. But a belligerent breakup will leave an unfinished file in your mind. Even if that person comes out of your life, he will continue to engage your mind. Louis Aragon has a saying that says;

“Love me or hate me, both for my benefit. If you love, I’ll always be in your heart, if you hate, I’ll always be in your mind.”

In situations like this, when you give up on someone when someone separates it correctly, thank them. We’ve been through good or bad things. We may have been through both good and bad things.

I’ve learned from these experiences and you. When we look at this event from this point of view, when we give up on these people, the file in our minds will be closed, and we will continue on our way with more confident steps.

But if you leave with a fight, your mind stays there. Your life is elsewhere, your mind is elsewhere. It is unfair to you and to the person opposite me to maintain a relationship for guilt or gratitude.

Imagine that person you don’t love anymore. You just can’t leave. You’re worried that if I leave, what he’ll do if I don’t, he can’t move on, he’ll be too hard, and then you can’t leave because you’re a conscience.

Actually, you don’t love that person. Here’s how you feel it. You feel like you’re a prisoner there. That guilt is reflected on the other side as human anger. What you project to him in an internal sense;

“I don’t want to be here, but I’m here because of you because I made you a conscience.”

And the result of this is anger. Other people aren’t even aware of it. What did I do, he says, is show me anger. But you have good intentions, and he has good intentions, but the result upsets both sides. You’re not happy, and he’s not happy.

Or think, for example, there is a person who did you a favor in your time. You’re working with him. You feel m-grateful. Yeah, maybe you paid for that gratitude. But then you want to part ways with that person. Those people don’t want to live in the same place anymore.

You want to leave that job. But the voice inside comes out. And he says, “ he didn’t do that to you. Did favors for you.” Okay, he did it. And I paid him back somehow. It’s my choice not to agree with him right now.

And that’s my most basic human right. I don’t have to think about what that person will feel, what they will think when I leave a place. Everyone has their own gas brake.

Everyone has to heal his own wound. And I don’t have to hurt myself so he doesn’t feel a wound.

Unfortunately, many people waste a lifetime of guilt and gratitude. To give up is not an easy task. It bothers us a lot. We don’t want to give up what we’re used to. We feel like they’re good for us.

But on one side of us, we know that we are now very tired of something and we must give up. In situations like this, we can blame life, we can blame people, but don’t blame anything for nothing, don’t blame the circumstances, don’t blame the people, it’s the decision you have to make.

Just remember the story at the beginning. It’s a sack of gold. Yeah, I’ve worked hard, I’ve worked hard, but sometimes things change. And to achieve something bigger, we have to give up what we have, what we have worked for.

If we don’t make that choice and keep it going for too long. Maybe one day we won’t lose our lives by falling to the bottom of a bottomless well, but we’ll lose the sparkle of our soul, our life energy, our motivation for life, look around and even look at ourselves, and you’ll realize that a lot of people are like the one who clings to the Ivy in that well. Making decisions, giving up, Saves Our Lives.

Thank You!

This article was originally published on Populer Things on March 31, 2021, by Mr. Huseyin