Summary

The author discusses personal growth in relationships, emphasizing the importance of maintaining inner harmony and not allowing oneself to be drained by others' emotions.

Abstract

The article titled "Giving From a Full Cup" delves into the author's journey of self-discovery and transformation within relationships. The author, once prone to absorbing others' emotions and altering themselves to please others, now embraces self-compassion and stands firm in their identity. Recognizing past patterns rooted in trauma, the author has learned to manage their energy and emotions, turning perceived weaknesses into strengths. The piece reflects on the challenges and triumphs of owning one's power, drawing parallels with the Magician card in tarot, and expresses gratitude for prompts that inspire personal development.

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The author believes that relationships can only drain you if you allow them to by taking on others' emotions and becoming too invested in specific outcomes.
They acknowledge that in the past, they felt pressured to conform to others' expectations, which was driven by a need for love and acceptance.
The author has come to understand that their behavioral patterns were a result of past wounds and now focuses on honesty and clarity in their interactions.
Self-compassion is a significant change the author has incorporated into their life, contrasting with their previous lack of it.
The journey is ongoing, with the author still learning and sometimes feeling impatient with their progress.
The author views vulnerability as a superpower, citing it as a source of strength and openness.
They recognize that their abilities to relate to people are gifts that were previously hindered by unresolved issues and trauma.
The author equates owning their weaknesses and limitations with unlocking their potential for growth and success.
They express appreciation for the prompts provided by Diana C., which have contributed to their growth in the month of June.

Giving From a Full Cup

Relating to others from a place of inner harmony

Thursday: Owning the very places I leak out my own power

Promptastic June: Week 1

31st of May — 4th of June

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Relationships. They shape us and allow us to grow. They are beautiful mirrors to our souls. They make life magical and meaningful.

But they can be so hard.

As a sensitive, empathetic, intuitive person- relationships can drain me. It is only relatively recently though that I have learned they can only drain me if I let them. If I take on other people’s emotions and feelings and become too invested in certain outcomes and results.

In the past, I felt pressure to be what others needed me to be. I would meld and contort myself to please and be there for others. I resented doing it often too- but believed it was necessary for survival- to be loved and accepted.

I believed it was something I owed others.

Now I recognize the wounds of my past and how they created the behavioural patterns I was living with for so long.

Now I don’t change to suit other people. I stand firm in who I am and I am clear and open about my limitations and what I can offer. I aim to be as honest and truthful with others about who and how I am.

This is a huge shift and life is sending me many opportunities to practice these changes I am trying to make.

When I slip up now and allow my power to be leaked out and given to other people, I try and have some compassion for myself. This is also a change I have made. Self-compassion didn’t used to exist in my personal vocabulary.

It is a journey and I am still learning. Still trying to put into practice all the changes I am trying to create.

Some days I get impatient with my progress and want to give up. Sometimes I want to go and live on an island by myself where I don’t have to worry about the ways I let my power leak out. But then I remember how far I’ve come.

I remember how my openness and vulnerability are a superpower as Marcus so beautifully wrote about in this article.

Vulnerability is My Superpower

My courage to expose myself leaves me invulnerable

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In the past, other people saw the ways they could manipulate my energy to take my power away from me. But now I recognize that there was no way all along they could take it- if I stopped willingly giving it to them.

The very places I leak out my own power sometimes are also the parts of myself that I am gifted in. I just had to work out how to manage my energy and emotions first.

This prompt also reminds me of the Magician card in the rider wait tarot. In this card, the magician is pictured with all the tools he needs. When the card is in reverse he has not mastered all his gifts and therefore they often trip him up, or get misused which can lead to being abused or abusing other peoples power.

When in the upright position he is a master of his gifts, he can manifest and create abundance- he holds the key to his success and skills. He is magic.

I believe I have been gifted with my abilities to relate to people, but my unresolved issues and trauma always got in the way of my true potential. Now I am wanting to explore my abilities more by working with people and using my people skills to help others.

Owning the very places I leak out my own power helped me to create change. Owning my weaknesses, pain, trauma, and limitations allows me to truly see the limitless light in myself too and focus on it so I can grow and flourish.

My once perceived weaknesses are actually strengths and my difficulties in life are the stepping stones towards my successes.

Thanks Diana C. for your beautiful prompts to start the month of June 🥰👏