Getting Through Your Quarter Life Crisis

I do not know who needs to hear this but it’s normal to not have it all figured out by now just keep going, or re-route if need be.

Turning 25, like many of my friends in this age range, had made me question all my life choices up to this point. Not only that but I came to the slow realization, that most ‘adults’ do not have it all figured out — we are all just floating on a big rock making the best out of whatever god given talents (or lack thereof), and situation we were dealt with, and that’s okay.

Being Mediocre is Normal and it is Enough

The very definition of mediocre is encompassing of what most people are. The world would not function as it is, without mediocre people getting shit that needs to get done — done.

Mediocre people work normal jobs that we need to function in our current society — I’d rather be trapped on an island with an engineer or a nurse than an influencer (no offence if you’re an influencer).

I’m not saying don’t dream big, if that is what you aspire for yourself, but it’s also okay to feel that work is a job and to find inner happiness or joy of things outside of work, like family, relationships or hobbies in other words its okay to be content with being the ‘average’.

That is ‘mediocre’ and normal and sometimes being good enough in some areas of your life, allow you to be great in other areas of your life that don’t always hold a monetary or status associated value.

Ghandi an internationally acknowledged peace symbol, was not considered to be a good father to his sons. Einstein was an amazing physicist but a philanderer and absent father in his personal life.

Being great at one thing often entails sacrifices in another thing and people are often dynamic, filled with inconsistencies and can be at times both Jekyl and Hyde depending on different areas of life, it’s just a matter of prioritization.

It is Never too late to Reinvent Yourself and not all Success is Quick Success

A generation of TikTok stars and influencers gaining very early and widely visible success. Makes it increasingly, feel like 25, has become the new 40. People are comparing themselves to a larger amount of people than they would have had in previous generations, and are giving themselves anxiety, when they expect immediate rapid success on projects.

Some paths are not always possible to achieve in a short time frame.

Conversely, I have friends who did all the ‘right things’ landed their goal job and think ‘now what’, or feel stagnant then question whether they made right decisions in life based on other peoples metrics.

My thoughts on overcoming the feeling of feeling like an early failure, is that beauty and physical prowess ultimately fades, while your mind and skillset whether it be creative or intellectual can constantly evolve and grow.

By all means if you want to take advantage of your youthly beauty or athleticism go for it. But keep in mind life does not end in your twenties so success in other areas of life can, and are possible over time!

We live quite long lives and changing careers or starting new is okay if the current job is making you miserable.

I’ve met a really cool divorced stay at home mom who after 30 years out of the workforce, is now a successful real estate agent in her 50’s. Another lady who started her own e-commerce scarf buisiness in her 30’s after a trip to Nepal. She was able to quit her day job and now makes enough money to fund a hospital and school fees from the village where she sources her scarf material from in Nepal. I’ve partied and run marathons next to 60 year old men.

Again, I repeat life does not end in your 20's!

Thinking like this gives me hope (and hopefully I can share that with you!) and optimism for the future, as it full of unexpected twists and turns. At the same time gives me permission to feel that it is okay to try something new without feeling like a failure for letting go of things “built up/invested in”, in the past.

I see some people who feel that they have invested too much into what they are currently doing to quit, but then continue to not enjoy what they’re doing. Or do not feel like they have the opportunity for growth in their situation, and don’t do anything to try and change their situation, despite feeling unfufilled which makes no sense to me! Find something that you are good at and work at it enough to become a professional at it.

25 is not old, if you don’t like what you are doing change it, or find a way to incorporate something you do love into your daily routine.

Just execute, make mistakes, learn from mistakes and try again.

Life continues on, and “Execution is Worshiped”

Historical Examples of Late Bloomers in Life:

Einstein: wrote his breakthrough papers at the age of 26

JK Rowling: Published Harry Potter at 28

Leonard Cohen: Began his musical career at 33

Eugène Ehrhart: Started publishing his mathematical theorems at 40 and finished his PhD at 60

Takichiro Mori: Dropped out of academia at 55 to go into real estate

Anna Mary Robertson: painter who started painting at the age of 78