Getting Rejected Isn’t a Catastrophe, Ask Her Out for God’s Sake

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n a conscience level, but somewhere deep in your brain. You’re thinking that rejection is inevitable and it will kill you. I can assure you that you will not die if she says “NO.” I will place the bet that you interest her as much as she interests you.</p><p id="6090">If I’m wrong what have you lost? I came to understand late in life that overthinking complicates everything. If I had it to do over again I would talk and smile more often. I would swallow the fear and do it anyway.</p><h2 id="59e0">Change your inner narrative, believe in yourself</h2><p id="feb9">Look at it logically. Do you think you’re fatter and dumber than your classmates and unworthy? That’s nonsense. You’re as insecure as your classmates, but they hide it better than you do. Your inaction makes things worse.</p><blockquote id="dd8a"><p>“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”</p></blockquote><p id="f6fb">Helen Keller</p><p id="d111">Self-confidence is a muscle you can develop, but you can’t develop it if you don’t use the little you have. You might be where I was a few years ago. I made a determined effort to lose my shyness. I did something right.</p><h2 id="1e06">You can’t fly if you don’t launch, get out there</h2><p id="7de7">I marr

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ied my wife almost seven years ago. I didn’t start dating until late in life. I was lonely for a long time. It didn’t have to be that way. Get out there and get hurt. It’s the only way to find the woman you’re supposed to be with.</p><p id="1aed">Getting rejected will not kill you, but loneliness might. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can change your beliefs by changing your inner dialogue. It’s not easy, but I’m living proof that you can do it.</p><h2 id="71bc">Everything good is on the other side of the pain</h2><p id="9778">I can’t think of a good thing that happens without going through some pain. Getting rejected will hurt for a minute. You have to shrug it off and get back in the game. Can you think of any good thing that happened to you, anything you did that scared you the first time you did it?</p><p id="d7e6">What happened after you did it the first time and survived? you did it again. Now you do it without thinking about it. Relationships and dating aren’t any different. So, get out there and get rejected, don’t be alone for the rest of your life.</p><h2 id="5dec">Final Thought</h2><p id="a0c2">Live without regrets and have some fun.</p><p id="29e0"><a href="https://lawsonwallace.medium.com/subscribe">You can receive my stories in your email</a></p></article></body>

Conquering fear is the only way to grow

I have been where you are right now. I saw her walk into the theatre alone, or she was sitting alone in the library. I made eye contact with her several times. We smiled at each other. The second the thought formed to go speak to her the nausea set in.

I never knew what I was afraid of. I could talk to girls in high school and as an adult as long as I didn’t romantically think of them. Once they began to interest me it was all over. I don’t understand why, I know that I didn’t get past the fear until I was a grown man.

“He who is not conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Rejection will not kill you, but loneliness just might

You might be thinking the same thing I was, not on a conscience level, but somewhere deep in your brain. You’re thinking that rejection is inevitable and it will kill you. I can assure you that you will not die if she says “NO.” I will place the bet that you interest her as much as she interests you.

If I’m wrong what have you lost? I came to understand late in life that overthinking complicates everything. If I had it to do over again I would talk and smile more often. I would swallow the fear and do it anyway.

Change your inner narrative, believe in yourself

Look at it logically. Do you think you’re fatter and dumber than your classmates and unworthy? That’s nonsense. You’re as insecure as your classmates, but they hide it better than you do. Your inaction makes things worse.

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”

Helen Keller

Self-confidence is a muscle you can develop, but you can’t develop it if you don’t use the little you have. You might be where I was a few years ago. I made a determined effort to lose my shyness. I did something right.

You can’t fly if you don’t launch, get out there

I married my wife almost seven years ago. I didn’t start dating until late in life. I was lonely for a long time. It didn’t have to be that way. Get out there and get hurt. It’s the only way to find the woman you’re supposed to be with.

Getting rejected will not kill you, but loneliness might. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can change your beliefs by changing your inner dialogue. It’s not easy, but I’m living proof that you can do it.

Everything good is on the other side of the pain

I can’t think of a good thing that happens without going through some pain. Getting rejected will hurt for a minute. You have to shrug it off and get back in the game. Can you think of any good thing that happened to you, anything you did that scared you the first time you did it?

What happened after you did it the first time and survived? you did it again. Now you do it without thinking about it. Relationships and dating aren’t any different. So, get out there and get rejected, don’t be alone for the rest of your life.