A Year of Extraordinary Living — Flying Lesson #1–2023

Getting Off 3D Autopilot to Live Fully

Are You Doing Life, or Is Life Doing You?

“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.” Pema Chodron

It has been said that most people live almost 100% on autopilot.

And I suspect this is very true, based on my many years as a therapist in private practice. However, I wanted to escape that reality for as long as I can remember. And I worked to do just that from an early age.

I have always believed that the unexamined life is not worth much to a conscious individual.

In fact, that is what autopilot is to me — living in a way that dulls our senses and makes us forget that we are extraordinary and majestic beings, mystical in nature. Spirits having a human experience.

That’s how our wings get clipped. We are programmed to take the easy road instead of the road less traveled. We let our minds get lazy and become unaccountable for our grandeur, if we even recognize it at all.

This is why I became a psychologist in the first place. If I could understand what makes us so prone to be sick and tired of everyday living while having the opportunity for a magical life, I could understand how to overcome it. I could find a way out of the ordinary and often unfulfilling life I saw playing out around me.

One memory that often pops up reminds me of the day, the very moment, when I knew I’d never settle for an ordinary life. It began on a sunny spring day in Missouri.

I was 9 years old. It was my habit to play in the neighbor’s apple orchard alone. It was filled with four leaf clovers and other wildflowers. For a curious girl, this was perfect.

We lived in the woods. Turning over rocks to find exciting bugs, smelling the air around me, watching the birds in the trees, and hearing the sounds of nature as the wind kissed my face… absolute heaven.

On this particular day, I found a cute friendly inchworm. I was so drawn to this tiny being as if I knew him. And he knew me.

Watching him leave the tree near me and inch along my leg, I thought of how simple his life must be. And yet, one day, he’d become a beautiful butterfly. He did not have to make that happen; he just had to allow it.

I carefully placed him in one of the containers I used to make mud pies and ran home to my dad, full of excitement. We placed him in a clean, clear jar. I put in lots of lovely fresh green leaves, poked holes in the lid, and we patiently waited and watched as this little critter transformed into a beautiful yellow butterfly right before our eyes.

It was fantastic.

The time came to free him. As we opened the jar to let him fly out, I kept thinking about how, as humans, we put ourselves in a kind of prison of our own making with our thoughts and ideas, full of limitations. We are not very allowing of the incredible creatures that we are.

Instead of flying, we get bogged down in the 3D world of our own making. We believe it has control over us. Instead of doing life, we let life do us. Not a good plan.

In my heart, I believed that we could fly spiritually if we could just realize that the key to opening the jail cell was right in our hands the whole time. All we had to do was to unlock that door and be free.

I was determined to live outside of that self-imposed prison of beliefs.

For many decades, I’ve strived to live an extraordinary life beyond the typical lies of the ego.

This meant going against just about everything I was taught via my religious upbringing and the typical drama and trauma of the usual world. I wanted to find the secrets hidden behind the traditional education of the ordinary child.

I developed a practice of thought awareness and transformation called The Tender Art of Extraordinary Thinking (™). I used this in my practice to help clients move forward and beyond what they thought was possible.

As 2022 ended and a new year approached, I thought about how I wanted it to look. And I had a few surprises.

After hackers got into my computer on Dec. 15th and then got into my bank accounts, I realized that I could have used that situation to make myself a victim of another's greed. However, I realized that there had to be something in me that allowed this to happen.

In other words, some old program living in my subconscious created this event. I don’t believe in accidents. I think in outcomes. Now I was even more dedicated to revising this outcome.

It worked. All funds were recovered, and all accounts, as well as my computer, were secured with Rambo-style protection. Then I went into my subconscious mind, using Neville Goddard’s revision technique, to take care of the emotional impact of the act.

If I was going to get off autopilot, I had to find the sneaky little ego-based culprit living in my memories. After going into a deep meditation, I found it, excavated it out, and sent it back into the nothingness from which it came.

I was a little shocked to find that I had bought into the idea that this is a dog-eat-dog world and somebody’s always trying to rip you off. This idea was instilled in me as a small child and never removed. Even though it was not a part of my daily reality, it was still secretly present and active.

Somehow, on Dec. 15th, I drew it right to me. I was hacked.

I decided that 2023 would be a great year of going even deeper into the work of knowing myself better beyond the 3D world around me. Since I tend to be a rebel writer, I knew I’d want to write about it, starting with my journey off autopilot.

Part of that also included the act of understanding the hacker’s motivation.

Since this 3D world is based on a program we create, placed in a virtual simulation or matrix, I could see that these thieves were like the people in a self-imposed prison, unaware that the key, the way out, was already in their hands.

So instead of believing that wealth was not only possible but already theirs, they thought they had to steal from others to get what they wanted. Pure ego. That was their program.

I’ve chosen a different program. I had total faith that I’d come out of this thing better than ever. And I have. Sadly for them, they will now be hunted down by federal agencies worldwide.

Just think. All they had to do was allow wealth to flow to them.

Like the inchworm, they just needed to understand that what we are willing to accept as truth must become so. They could have transformed their lives if they believed wealth was a natural birthright and allowed it to appear in this 3D world.

I’m no victim. None of us really are… but that’s material for future writings.

For the moment, I look forward to a great year with lots of joy. I’ll write about the journey, along with my typical work, and I hope you’ll join me.

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