Get Easier, Stronger Orgasms With This One Weird Trick
It’s all in the hand
Before having sex, I thought it would be a highly physical activity. I didn’t realize that it was extremely mental as well.
And don’t get me wrong, it’s got some physicality to it.
There’s all the vigorous stroking, the firm spankings, skin slapping against skin, and good old fashioned jackhammering.
A good fuck can leave you sweaty, sore, and extremely satisfied.
But the more sex I had, the more I started noticing that that physicality is only one part of it.
For one thing, it’s not physical in the way I thought it would be.
Yes, it’s still bodies doing things to bodies, but it doesn’t have to involve slamming hard into someone or rubbing a clit so vigorously it’s like you’re trying to scrub a wine stain out of a rug.
In fact, some of the best orgasms come from less intense stimulation. Your strongest one might have been given to you by a tongue slowly circling your clit. You might come harder if you fuck at a slow, steady pace instead of pushing your body to its limits. And what might really work for you is having a soft tongue lick your frenulum until you explode in a burst of come.
But it’s also less physical than I imagined it would be because so much of sex has more to do with the imagination than it does with stimulation.
Really good sex engages you emotionally and mentally. It makes you feel something deeper than just physical pleasure. It involves so many of your senses. And it inspires your mind to go to some really dirty places.
It’s also about the kind of person you get to be when you’re having sex. Part of the reason it’s so amazing is that you get to feel sexy, naughty, and powerful. You get to experience the euphoria of letting go and tapping into your animalistic side. And a great sexual encounter can make you feel wanted, desired, cared for, and loved.
All of it works together, too. Everything that’s going on at a purely mental level actually changes the way all that physical stuff feels.
Getting the emotions right and your mind excited can heighten all the sensations you’re experiencing.
Your pleasure can double or triple just from being in the right mindset.
Using your imagination can even take you from struggling to come to enjoying a powerful, bed-shaking orgasm.
And the best part is that once you understand this, you can use it to your advantage.
You can actively set things up so you’ll be in the right mental state to make yourself more receptive and get all that incredible pleasure.
If you mess around enough, you can even come up with a few mental tricks that will give you better, stronger, and longer orgasms.
Mental Shortcuts for a More Powerful Orgasm
I have three simple shortcuts that I use when I want to get even more pleasure out of sex or when I need help reaching a climax.
Aural Sex
One way I’ll do it is by paying more attention to all the auditory stimulus that’s coming from the room.
I’ll tune in and listen closely to the way my partner is breathing. I’ll take in his groans and grunts. I’ll let his dirty talk wash over me.
It’s one of the reasons I’m so turned on when I get fucked doggystyle. Part of it is the deep penetration, the intense feeling of hips slamming into me, and the fact that I’m showing off my best asset. But the sound is a really big part of it. Hearing the slapping sound of his body hitting against my ass just does it for me.
And when everything gets timed right, I’ll get to hear the hottest thing of all: the loud, satisfactory sound of him coming. That alone can be enough to send my orgasm off the charts.
I love the sounds of sex so much that it even works when I pay close attention to the ones I’m making.
I’ve experimented with a bit of sensory deprivation by wearing noise-cancelling headphones during sex. Being able to hear myself so clearly and closely was a major turn-on.
Pay attention to whatever sounds are filling the room when you’re fucking and I guarantee it will make the sex feel even better.
Fantasies Aren’t Just for Masturbation
Other times, I’ll lose myself in a fantasy instead.
It can be just about anything. Sometimes, I’ll dream up scenarios that don’t involve me at all — basically creating porn scenes in my head.
I might also dip into my spank bank to remember a really good fuck or relive one of those formative sexual moments that made me feel more alive than ever.
Mental roleplaying works, too. I’ll go through all the action while privately imagining it’s my first time doing any of this and Mr. Austin is introducing me to all of it.
When he gives me a pussy massage, I’ll often keep my eyes closed and picture another woman sucking his cock while he pleasures me.
If the blindfold’s across my eyes, I’ll pretend there are two people touching me instead of just him.
And I’ll occasionally picture his cock pounding hard into my ass — harder than I could actually take it in real life, but hey, it’s my fantasy.
All of those things unfold in my head, but it never feels like I’m escaping from the situation. If anything, it makes me feel even more present and in the moment because it helps me focus more closely on all the things that are being done to my body.
The Hand Trick
Dirty talk, sex sounds, and fantasizing are all quite common and get discussed a fair bit.
But there’s one trick that works every single time for me, but I never see it come up.
It’s putting your hand on top of your partner’s hand while they’re getting you off with it.
And that’s it. That’s all it is. Not using your hand to guide theirs. Not pressing down on it to increase the pressure. Just resting your hand on top of theirs.
Whenever I do it, it makes it easier for me to reach an orgasm and makes me come harder.
Feeling his fingers move under mine, being immediately aware when his hand shifts position, and knowing the exact rhythm he’s using all make the physical sensations more vivid.
It’s like my touch doubles the pleasure I get from his.
Even though it involves my hand, I don’t think it’s a physical thing. It’s not the tactile sensation of feeling his skin that does it for me. It’s about the way it engages my imagination.
When Mr. Austin uses his fingers on me, it feels fucking great. He’s got some skills and he knows my body really well. But I’m never exactly sure what he’s doing.
I mean, I know roughly where his fingers are, how fast they’re moving, and what they’re touching, but it’s hard to get really precise.
It’s like that game I used to play when I was a kid where we would trace letters on each other’s backs and see if we could figure out what they were.
We couldn’t. We never could because without seeing the motion of the fingers, it was hard to pick up on the little movements that go into shaping letters. P’s would feel like D’s, you couldn’t tell an X from a K, and your own name felt unfamiliar when it was being run across your skin.
It’s the same with this. When Mr. Austin is running his fingers across my clit, when he’s fingerfucking me, when he rubs my labia — I know what he’s doing but I don’t pick up on the nuances of his movements. The exact way his fingers glide across my pussy, the rhythm his fingers have found, the way his wrists and palms are involved — it all gets washed out a little in the pleasure that’s coming from my clit.
But when I rest my hand on top of his, I can feel every tiny movement. I can picture exactly what he’s doing to me.
And that feels so fucking hot. It makes the way he touches me feel even more intense. And it makes me come harder than he would if I just let his fingers do what they do.
Get Your Mind Involved
Sex is always at its best when the mental and physical parts of it work together.
If you’re getting great physical stimulation but you’re emotionally disconnected and there’s not much to get your mind going, sex is going to feel too mechanical.
And no matter how far you lose yourself into a fantasy, it can’t make up for terrible sex.
But when they tune in together perfectly, that’s when you get the kind of sex that’s so good it’s worth adding to your spank bank.
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