Gender and Equality in Spirituality
I firmly believe that to attain enlightenment, understanding life is crucial, and there’s no better way than through love, which breaks down inner reservations and restrictions including our biases based on gender, sex, race, colour etc.
This perspective is found in the best of Buddhist philosophy and has been echoed in the Shahajiya tradition for years.
So, how did we come to associate spirituality with a solitary journey devoid of family?
This misconception traces back to how we perceive enlightenment. In most religions, enlightenment is reserved for men. In the Buddhist/Newari tradition, Durga gains a third eye as long as she remains a virgin, granting her insight. However, as women age, they are no longer considered Buddhas because "Buddha" is a title reserved for men.
Consider the story of Tara, often regarded as the female counterpart to Buddha. Yet, she didn't attain Buddhist enlightenment; she became a goddess. While this might seem similar to enlightenment or nirvana, it's not quite the same. Tara became a goddess because she couldn't become a Buddha due to her gender. This gender bias is not unique to Buddhism but is present in other spiritual traditions where women cannot be Imams or achieve moksha.
Jainism appears to be a more equal spiritual practice that recognizes women as capable of reaching great heights spiritually. However, even in Jainism, the revered heroes are primarily male figures.
Why are women marginalized in the pursuit of enlightenment? It challenges the traditional concept of family, hierarchy, and domination that often stem from family structures. This is why, for instance, Buddha can seek Nirvana under a Bodhi tree while his wife tends to their children.
The most significant gift of our generation is the ability to challenge such biases. When we use terms like "supreme ego" or "God," they are often associated with masculinity. There are more significant battles to be fought, and for that, we need the feminine perspective. Durga is an excellent example – when the gods couldn't defeat Mahishashur, the embodiment of darkness, it wasn't Shiva (representing divine ego) but his partner, an equal, who vanquished the monster and brought peace to the world.
I suggest breaking a few traditions if you genuinely want to embark on your spiritual journey. At its core, spirituality is an accessible path for everyone, regardless of gender – man, woman, or non-binary. It's fundamentally a human journey transcending the self, sex, and gender.






