Fuck Narcissistic Parents For Destroying The Concept Of What Love Looks Like

Being a parent is perhaps one of the greatest accomplishments and jobs that a person can ever achieve or have in life.

It is an honor to be a father to your child. To be that protector, that guide, that role model for your kids.

It is an honor to be a mother. To be that warmth, that assuring unconditional love that never wanes, that healer.

Being a parent is the best job a person can ever have, as you are helping to guide a human experience in this crazy existence that we call life.

Unfortunately, there are some people, these narcissistic entitled kidults, who will bring a life into this world with NO INTENTION to guide them to a better life than they had.

They bring kids into this world without the child’s consent and then unload all of their troubles, hatred, insecurities onto their child.

They teach their children that they must constantly fight for their (the narcissistic parents love) and that everything the CHILD DOES is to make the narcissistic parent look good in the eyes of…strangers.

To a narcissistic parent, the role, duty, and purpose of their child in life is to make their parent happy.

Damn if the child has their own life to live, their own goals they want to accomplish, or their own purpose they are looking for in this thing we call life.

To a narcissistic parent, the only thing their children are here for is to make them happy.

And it is this mindset that causes so many people to not only get into toxic relationships but never understand how to be happy on their own.

Children who grow up with a narcissistic parent never understand how to find their own purpose, their own path, or follow their own hearts.

They have been so conditioned to believe that their ONE LIFE is for the service of their narcissistic parent.

This is why “momma’s boys” and “daddy’s little princess” have a hard time in relationships with other people because they have become so attached to their parents.

They place their parents so high in their lives and do so over the chance of living their one life the way they want to.

So many children of narcissists get into relationships with other narcissists in life because their PERCEPTION of what love looks like has been so greatly distorted that they do not understand what real love looks like.

A parent who yells, berates, teases, and mocks their child but then tells them, “I love you,” makes the child believe that this is what love looks like.

And then many of us wonder why girls have daddy issues or why some guys grow up to date women who need someone to take care of them.

This twisted understanding of love causes many people to stay in long-term relationships with narcissists thinking that “if I try a little harder, then they (the narcissist they are dating) will change because they will see my devotion to them as real love.”

Many people LOSE months to years to even decades of their life…DECADES of their lives…trying to make things work out with the narcissist in their life because they have been so conditioned to believe that it is their duty and job to make everyone around them, except themselves, happy.

And this is why I say, “Fuck Narcissistic Parents.”

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Fuck Narcissistic Parents For Destroying The Concept Of What Love Looks Like

It is not the child's job to be the adult to the narcissistic parent.

Let me repeat that.

It is not the DAMN child’s job to be the adult to the narcissistic parent.

It is our job to learn from the mistakes of our parents, make our own mistakes (lessons) in life and learn from them and grow from them with their guidance.

What narcissistic parents do is stifle their children.

They criticize everything their children do.

They push them into studies they may NOT have a passion for.

They demand that they make them (the narc parents) look good by outshining everyone around them.

They place the world and their toxicity on their children's shoulders and then bitch and complain when their child buckles under that type of weight.

All the while, they never even come half to measuring their children in the areas they demand their children shine in.

They expect far too much from their children and use the innate desire and need of wanting to be loved by the parent as a tool to control their children.

As much of an introvert as I am, getting the love and admiration from my parents is one of the best feelings I can feel.

I have said in the title, and I will repeat it.

“Fuck, narcissistic parents, for daring to twist the concept of love in the eyes of their children.”

Love NEVER requires you to suffer for it.

Never!

And for them to ruin one of life’s most amazing emotions and feelings for their OWN pleasure is fucked up beyond reasoning.

If a narcissistic parent has raised you, I highly recommend that you download my ebook “Empathic Warriors Survival Stories: Vol. 1”.

You are not the only one to have grown up in a toxic family, and it is possible to heal from narcissistic abusive parent's drama and chaos.

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