Forgiveness is Learned

Summary

Forgiveness is a learned skill that involves overcoming the natural human tendency to seek revenge and instead embracing acceptance, understanding, and compassion to heal and grow.

Abstract

The article emphasizes that true forgiveness is not a simple act but a complex process that requires time, patience, and a genuine intention. It involves accepting one's emotions such as anger and pain, understanding the perspective of the offender, and ultimately letting go of the desire for retribution. This process leads to personal transformation, resulting in a wiser and more compassionate individual who views past transgressions with a hopeful outlook. The author argues that forgiveness is not instinctive and that society does not typically teach us to forgive, making it a skill that must be developed over time.

Opinions

Revenge perpetuates a cycle of pain and does not contribute to personal healing or growth.
Forgiveness is not an innate response but a conscious choice that arises from deep within.
The act of forgiving involves a profound acceptance of one's own emotional responses to hurt.

When someone uses your kindness and love, you do not take revenge.

You forgive and leave. It is easy to offer malice to the one who brought you down, but it is more complicated to forgive and leave where you no longer feel loved. It is difficult to forget the ugly words, betrayal, and indifferent attitude of the man which you loved.

Instead, it’s easier to return the same coin he offered you. When you choose revenge, you do nothing but sink into the darkness. Because the desire to cause pain satisfies your pride and ego. In his soul, he remains wounded. Your wounds continue to bleed. You continue to blame, to rebuke, to look for the culprits. It is hard to forgive because we humans are not taught to forgive. This process of forgiveness takes time and patience. First of all, there must be an intention to forgive. A simple “Forgiveness” does not change anything, because forgiveness comes from within.

It takes acceptance!

Accept your anger, pain, and shame. Try to position yourself in the place of the one who wronged you and gains deep understanding, followed by compassion and the release of the one who hurt you. This new process of forgiveness will give birth to a new You. You will be wiser, more calculated. You will look with different eyes at those who have caused you pain.

You will look with more hope towards the horizon.

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Forgiveness is Learned

When someone uses your kindness and love, you do not take revenge.

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