LOVE YOURSELF

Forgive Yourself and Move On

Everyone makes mistakes, even you

When a situation calls for forgiveness, we often forget to forgive ourselves too. We assume that as we have forgiven the other person involved in said situation, all will be okay, that we’ll heal and that we’ll simply move on.

But I don’t think that’s true.

Have you ever forgiven someone and then found yourself going over said situation in your head repeatedly, asking yourself questions like:

“How could I have let that happen?”

“[said person] must think I’m stupid.”

“I guess I deserved it.”

“Other people don’t have these issues, it must be me.”

This happens because we don’t forgive ourselves for our own involvement in said situation. It’s unlikely that one person carries the whole blame for any situation so why don’t we forgive ourselves at the same time that we offer our forgiveness to someone else?

We have complete control over our reactions to situations others present to us. We have control over our emotions.

When we feel angry, sad, or disappointed, it’s not the other person making us feel any specific way.

It’s us.

We are letting our emotions get the better of us, which leads us to not think straight, sending us into a frenzy of negative emotions.

Fight or flight.

So when we forgive others for the way we think they’ve made us feel, let’s forgive ourselves for having felt that way at that time. We aren’t perfect, but who wants to be perfect?

Give yourself a break. Forgive yourself. Heal. And learn.

Next time, you’ll do better.

Forgiving yourself will hush those unwanted questions in your head and will allow you to feel happier and more at peace with said situation, but most importantly, at peace with yourself.

Do you forgive yourself with the same grace that you forgive others?

Shine bright.

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