Five Hard Truths That I Learned While Healing Emotionally

Coping with mental health is significantly an underestimated task.

Some facts nobody told me earlier:

• A doctor can never heal the pain inside your heart
• No such thing as “limit” exists
• You can only sell the pen to literate

I face my struggles alone like a lone wolf.

Unfair. That’s what I always told myself.

Whenever I used to walk around the town buying some craft vendors, I could look into the eyes of people feeling pity for me. For them, art is for the weak soul.

Yet I was strong and always stuck to my growth. When people tried to bring me down with my past issues, I flinched, suffered, and got out of this mess. I became a writer.

What happened to me (wasn’t my call). You see, people want a subject to tag you and make a statement about your life. They need a point, and my life certainly gives them.

I was healing from the (unconformable) unhealthy patterns. Instead, I chose to step away from the chaos and took a road of healing.

• Know where that path leads? Success
• Success is a key that shuts many mouths

I know being successful and mindful is on your to-do list (mine too), but it’s not for the faint of hearts. It’s a struggle that never ends.

Often, you hit the shore, omit the bridge, and start walking on someone else’s path, but you learn.

Remember, “sunsets are proof that endings can often be beautiful too, Beau Taplin.”

You just need to know how to leverage your ugly suffering. Below, my article will provide a series of truths I learned the hard way.

1. People drain your energy

Vampires may not exist in real life, but energy-sucking people do.

They play the same role as a vampire. Only you don’t invite them to your house, but they ultimately make a way towards your mind.

I, too, have a lot of people in my life guilty of stealing my energy. But I realized it sooner enough to kick them out.

I read a quote somewhere that helps with this point:

“Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.”

Here are a few signs of energy vampires to watch out for:

• Criticize you
• Avoid any responsibility
• Always jealous
• Care about their so-called image

Emotional energy vampires come in many shapes and sizes.

If you find more than 2 of these qualities in any person, you’re surrounded by an ugly person. They emotionally damage you.

Avoid nesting around toxic people who always mess with your soul. It took me some time to move past unhealthy people, but slowly, I achieved it.

#1 Start with deleting them. Unfollow them first. Then if they choose to come around, slap the truth in their face and let them know you have mixed feelings about them.

#2 Take time to think about the relationships. If it’s not worth the time, throw it in the wheelie bin.

#3 Or confront them by saying: “It’s not you, it’s me.” Make their exit easy as possible.

2. Make an outer shell

• A boundary is not a rejection.

When I keep my distance from people, it’s because I know my worth. I cannot help seeing people crossing my boundary.

Enjoy the moments when people walk you off or take you for granted. Go and make a “wall of their name.”

People always hit your soft spots and keep hitting you if you give them a chance. If you’re tired of people intervening with your framework, there are two possible solutions,

• Take away their only power — your attention
• Face it

Many of you will choose to go with the number (2) as it provides relief and aid. When I have to confront many friends/family members, I go with number 2, but it’s not my first priority.

Here’s what I don’t tolerate:

• Joking about me
• Comparing me
• Funny attempts to disgrace me

Although I don’t choose to tell people in their faces that I dislike the attitude, my body language helps — shaking off my head in disbelief or trying to change the subject works.

Remember: your shell protects you from the outer world. To escape the external world, your inner world has to be perfect.

How about the time you spend building the walls is also the time you find comfort within yourself?

Like me, you build a home inside of yourself. This way, there’s no need to indulge with people who constantly crack down on your frontiers. True.

3. My knowledge serves

Honor the space between no longer and not yet.

Insert problems into the basket of “no longer” and “not yet.”

Here are the options:

• Is ___ still with you (no longer)
• Are you a famous writer (not yet)
• Do you go to a sports club (no longer)
• [Insert] your own

See? easy peasy. Sometimes, our thoughts tangle us because we don’t know the answer. However, the answer has to be either no or yes.

Dealing with people became so easy when I classified them into simple baskets. The idea here is to tap into your knowledge realm and let them create easiness for you.

If you’re reading this article, I can at least expect you have a (10+) experience in Education.

Now, let your knowledge & experience help you in dealing with people. Let it create easiness for you.

See, I had to. All that I’ve learned would be wasted if I hadn’t tapped into my years of experience. Never do that.

• Put your learning into practice. Now

4. I don’t owe anyone anything

My family and friends — have a history — of robbing me of my inner peace.

I don’t remember allowing them to owe me anything. Mostly they’re talking about my upbringing, being friends with me when I was alone, and guiding me in life.

Most things were out of my control. Also, because I didn’t ask them for a favor.

• And yes, that’s where everything settles.

Most people you meet in your life will tell you they did a favor to you. Reward their repose by telling them, “I never asked for it.”

You’re not confused. You need the courage to do what you know is right [→]

People love pulling toward you because they see the repetition of the word “help.”

Credit the people for the things they do and do not. Classify their actions so they can never misuse them against you.

Also, for this trick, you must have an A) good memory and B) present a mindful stance. If you possess these tricks, try to improve them from time to time.

5. Falling down is an accident. Staying down is a choice

I listen to many podcasts and read new books every week.

I understand that healing is my process, my responsibility. No one can do it for me. This is not something bought with money. (YUP!)

A lot happened to me, but with each day, I am rubbing it otherwise. The method is to:

• Move forward from time
• Go with the flow
• Learn what life teaches you

“Sometimes in life the lesson will keep repeating itself until you learn your lesson,” Brigitte Nicole.

That’s why I give myself permission to get up, heal, and become better every day.

Avoid these negative acts, always:

• Blaming
• Forgiving
• Forgetting
• Confusing

When you heard these words in less than 24 hours, take a deep breath. Positivity attracts positive things.

Catherine Moore suggests: goal-oriented people achieve more in life than purposeless people. So if you need an answer, this article is your wake-up call.

Final thoughts:

I took responsibility and signed a petition with myself to analyze the problems presented before me.

It is the same as when life offers you lemons, you give them back and ask for chocolate because you deserve it.

The key here is to put the problems to practice. Amongst the problems, if you find yourself, the fire within you, then everything is *worth the pain*.

And as Aristotle said:

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

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