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standards way too high. If you have been searching for someone for a long time but you just cannot find anyone that comes close to your standards, maybe its time to rethink and consider lowering them. Maybe your ideal partner just does not exist. Not everyone is going to have the same interest or hobbies as you.</p><p id="3fca">TV shows and movies have set such an unrealistic standard about love and romance. Seeing a “perfect” relationship on social media can also set your standards higher than they should be. The posts people share on social media are just parts of their lives. Real relationships all have ups and downs and it takes tremendous dedication to be seriously committed to a relationship. Sometimes you can find yourself falling for someone you least expect.</p><h1 id="e670">3. Self Love and Identity</h1><p id="759e">You may be the kind, most caring person but still finding the wrong people that continuously break your heart. A little self-love can help people realize what kind of care they need in their relationships. The people that don’t practice self-love rely on their partners for it, commonly leading to an unhealthy, co-dependent relationship.</p><p id="0bcf">Not knowing yourself well enough can stop you from finding who you want in your life. It would be harder for you to know what you want in a partner. Searching for love as a way to fill the emptiness you feel can be harmful. Mistakenly believing that being in a relationship can fix all your problems and make you whole are harmful. The truth is you could be in a relationship and still feel lonely and sad, the emptiness you are trying to fill is likely due to being disconnected from yourself. Finding yourself again can be a big step to filling that hole. Renowned psychologist, Erik Erikson, believed that without a sense of identity, it would be impossible to form a healthy relationship with someone else.</p><h1 id="368f">4. Still hung up on an Ex</h1><p id="3bd9">You might still be heartbroken, still sad from a recent breakup. You might think that finding a replacement can solve all your problems but rushing into things is never a good idea. Rebound relationships are never going

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to last. Allow yourself all the time you need to heal and let the person go. Being single isn’t always a bad thing, learn to love it and wait until the time is right. After all, recovering from a breakup can lead to self-growth.</p><p id="1740">When your Ex is still on your mind, you automatically compare your new dates with them, and with that, it makes it so much harder to fully connect with someone new. You might unintentionally project their ex’s traits onto their new partners, and won’t be able to get to know them truly.</p><p id="45bf">You shouldn’t be looking for a new partner when you are still mending a broken heart.</p><h1 id="a37f">5. You don’t give people chances</h1><p id="203f">When someone starts to turn down people because of awkward experiences or trauma, it is time to figure out what the real reason is. Is everyone that you meet that bad, or are you just making excuses? Sometimes we create these walls because of fear of having a tremendously high expectation. The first date doesn’t mean you need to commit, you should be opening yourself to opportunities. To love you need an open mind and an open heart.</p><h1 id="4c64">6. It just isn’t your time</h1><p id="78de">Sometimes it just isn’t your time, not everyone is always supposed to be with someone. This doesn’t mean you’re never going to find the one you love, but it just means now isn’t the best time. Until it is, just keep on improving yourself, and soon the right person would come to you.</p><p id="d7a3">At the end of the day, a relationship is a want, not a need, and you should want it for the right reason. You don’t need a relationship to be happy, you don’t need to rush in. Once you understand the reasons why you are still single, you need to do something about it. Only then you can truly start to connect better with other people.</p><figure id="6215"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*0YdGwGmyhlGverjY"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@judebeck?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Jude Beck</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></article></body>

Finding love can be hard

6 Reasons why it may be difficult for you

Do you ever feel like everyone else in your life is already in a stable relationship except you, finding yourself wondering why you still have not found the one person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? Despite being successful, attractive, charming, and financially well off, you still can’t find the right person to settle down with.

While careers and jobs give us something to do and financial support we need. There is so much more to life than working, like the love and support from others. Without this, life can be dull. Asking anyone that is done with dating guys that keep breaking their heart or someone that is still waiting to meet the perfect girl. Whether they are still young and looking for love or someone in their 50’s after a divorce, it is always ok to feel frustrated that they can’t find someone they love.

What might be keeping you from finding the right person? Here are 6 reasons why that might be the case.

1. You’re not looking in the right places

Bars and parties aren’t the place to find the love of your life, but sometimes, life isn’t as black and white as that. Maybe someone is looking too hard, making moves on the first person that acknowledges their existence. They are scoping out the crowd and looking too hard when maybe the answer is right in front of them. Forgetting the people that are already in their lives. Sometimes you can find love in the most unexpected places.

2. Your standards are too high

It’s always healthy to want someone that you deserve, and not settling with someone that you don’t think is good enough. But sometimes people just set their standards way too high. If you have been searching for someone for a long time but you just cannot find anyone that comes close to your standards, maybe its time to rethink and consider lowering them. Maybe your ideal partner just does not exist. Not everyone is going to have the same interest or hobbies as you.

TV shows and movies have set such an unrealistic standard about love and romance. Seeing a “perfect” relationship on social media can also set your standards higher than they should be. The posts people share on social media are just parts of their lives. Real relationships all have ups and downs and it takes tremendous dedication to be seriously committed to a relationship. Sometimes you can find yourself falling for someone you least expect.

3. Self Love and Identity

You may be the kind, most caring person but still finding the wrong people that continuously break your heart. A little self-love can help people realize what kind of care they need in their relationships. The people that don’t practice self-love rely on their partners for it, commonly leading to an unhealthy, co-dependent relationship.

Not knowing yourself well enough can stop you from finding who you want in your life. It would be harder for you to know what you want in a partner. Searching for love as a way to fill the emptiness you feel can be harmful. Mistakenly believing that being in a relationship can fix all your problems and make you whole are harmful. The truth is you could be in a relationship and still feel lonely and sad, the emptiness you are trying to fill is likely due to being disconnected from yourself. Finding yourself again can be a big step to filling that hole. Renowned psychologist, Erik Erikson, believed that without a sense of identity, it would be impossible to form a healthy relationship with someone else.

4. Still hung up on an Ex

You might still be heartbroken, still sad from a recent breakup. You might think that finding a replacement can solve all your problems but rushing into things is never a good idea. Rebound relationships are never going to last. Allow yourself all the time you need to heal and let the person go. Being single isn’t always a bad thing, learn to love it and wait until the time is right. After all, recovering from a breakup can lead to self-growth.

When your Ex is still on your mind, you automatically compare your new dates with them, and with that, it makes it so much harder to fully connect with someone new. You might unintentionally project their ex’s traits onto their new partners, and won’t be able to get to know them truly.

You shouldn’t be looking for a new partner when you are still mending a broken heart.

5. You don’t give people chances

When someone starts to turn down people because of awkward experiences or trauma, it is time to figure out what the real reason is. Is everyone that you meet that bad, or are you just making excuses? Sometimes we create these walls because of fear of having a tremendously high expectation. The first date doesn’t mean you need to commit, you should be opening yourself to opportunities. To love you need an open mind and an open heart.

6. It just isn’t your time

Sometimes it just isn’t your time, not everyone is always supposed to be with someone. This doesn’t mean you’re never going to find the one you love, but it just means now isn’t the best time. Until it is, just keep on improving yourself, and soon the right person would come to you.

At the end of the day, a relationship is a want, not a need, and you should want it for the right reason. You don’t need a relationship to be happy, you don’t need to rush in. Once you understand the reasons why you are still single, you need to do something about it. Only then you can truly start to connect better with other people.