Finally, A New Way to Forgive Someone
You should do it for you
Have you ever been hurt by someone close to you? Of course, you have, we all have. Most of the time, though, the person is apologetic. You forgive and life goes on. But what about when the person isn’t sorry? How do you forgive someone that doesn’t apologize or even think they did anything wrong? Do we even have to forgive them?
The saying goes “forgiving someone is more for your benefit than theirs” or something like that. I’ve heard it numerous times. I could never wrap my head around how to forgive someone that hurt me deeply and is not in the least bit sorry. Why should they be able to get away with that crap and be forgiven for it? No Way! I’m not going to do it! Even if it’s supposedly better for me blah blah blah…
Well, 40 years later and the pain from this betrayal was definitely eating away at my insides. Let me explain this betrayal in a little more detail. The perpetrator in the story is my mom. In my early preteen years, there was some sexual abuse happening that involved my soon-to-be stepdad. When my mother found out, she basically blamed me.
She said if I told anyone my made-up stories, she’d tell everyone what a slutty 11-year-old I was. So little 11-year-old me didn’t want my dad or brother thinking I was slutty, so I never said another word. The abuse stopped then, but she still married him and swept the whole thing under the table. The pain of her choosing him over me has never left.
A few years ago, I started learning about reincarnation and soul groups. Then I discovered books on between-lives life planning. How souls work together, planning for certain events to happen so that the souls can experience the feelings from those events and grow. They are even willing to plan for serious or “bad” things to happen — disease, drug abuse, physical abuse, just all kinds of incidents, in order to help another soul flourish. And it’s all done out of love! A deep, deep love that is hard to fathom on a human level.
So, I wondered — did my mom’s soul agree to hurt me? To disregard her own daughter’s cries for help at such a tender age? And if so, why? How in the world would that “help” me? Help my soul grow? Meditation seemed like the best way to get some type of answers to these questions. It took a long time, a lot of deep meditations, but the answers finally became clear!
She did this so I could learn to love myself. To know my own self-worth. For 40 years I felt like I wasn’t good enough. If my own mother couldn’t love me, why should I love myself? Why would anyone love me? Why would anyone be interested in me except for sex? I had to learn that I am enough. I am worthy of self-love and to be loved by others. I Am Enough.
With this awareness came a bigger realization — my mom’s soul loves my soul so much that she is willing to spend this entire incarnation as a mother whose daughter wants nothing to do with her. Understanding the depth of love on a soul level has finally enabled me to forgive her. In a profound meditation, my soul spoke to her soul and forgave her physical body for the emotional pain she caused me. And with that, I fully benefited from forgiving her.
Now I ask you to think of someone that has hurt you deeply. Search within your soul to see if you can find a reason why the situation may have occurred. Meditate on it. Pray about it. Speak to your Spirit Guides and ask them for help. Take the time and dig deep to find the answers as to “why” so you too can reap the benefits of forgiving someone that isn’t sorry. It is undeniably worth it!
Namaste my friends