Feminism Is Stupid

You don’t even know what you’re fighting for…

Ahem!

Hello.

My name is Khadijah and I’m your new strongly opinionated and controversial teen writer on Illumination.

Today we’re going to be talking about feminism.

As a thriving member of the Gen Z community, many of my peers are ‘modern women’ and as such, I’m expected to fight for women’s equality and equal rights. But if selling your feet pics on Only Fans is a sign of empowerment to you, this article may not be your cup of tea.

There was once a time for your feminism. Now is not that time.

Let me just start by saying that the girls in the photo above are beyond stunning. To me, seeing young girls of a similar age with fire in their eyes and determination in their hearts is empowering. This picture makes me feel a type of way. Representation at its’ finest.

This however is not empowering to me.

Now, I’m all for women being able to do, say, and wear what they want — don’t get me wrong. The problem is that a photo like this on your Instagram with the hashtag #badbitch does not earn you respect from the high-value men you so desire in any way, shape, or form.

When the first wave of feminism began in the 19th and 20th centuries, it was to create opportunities for women with a focus on suffrage. The suffragettes fought for the chance to vote on political decisions that affected them.

Feminism in these times was there to combat the idea of ‘a woman’s role’ — that a woman’s sole purpose was to be present in the house, look after children, and support her husband.

We’ve come a long way since then. Some countries have arrived in the modern world quicker than others, but women can now vote, drive, run a business, and make more money than their husbands in most countries in the world.

Feminists still aren’t happy.

In this day and age, the victim mentality is a trend. Being oppressed is now considered “edgy” and my generation always feels like they have to fight for something.

I have never been told by a man to put down my physics textbook and learn to cook instead. For the record, the only time I have been told that my gender makes me ineligible to do anything was by a woman.

My P.E teacher told me in secondary school:

“Don’t choose football. You’re a girl — the boys won’t pass to you”.

Do teenage boys even pass to other teenage boys? All I know is I would’ve made a great defender.

What even is feminism anymore?

fem·i·nism

The advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.

Men and women are different. Therefore, the word “equality” should not be taken lightly. There is no one size fits all. Not all women can handle things that most men can. It’s useless trying to convince women that they can do anything a man can. Even if they could, who says they want to?

Personally, I’m not too interested in getting on one knee and proposing to my man. Neither am I interested in my husband staying at home all day while I work a 100 hour per week 9–5. There’s nothing wrong with those things. But feminism — contrary to popular belief — is not for everyone.

Feminists believe they are fighting for equality, but why would you want to be equal to men?

If anything, Feminism should be putting more of an emphasis on equity over equality. Feminists should be prioritising and promoting awareness of a lack of girls adequate education for girls, or discrimination against adolescent women at school for wearing a dress that male teachers deem too short.

But women in the 21st century wholeheartedly believe that being a woman is a prize in itself — that their gender alone determines their worth. Modern women believe that being pretty is a personality trait. They also “hate all men”. This is what feminism has become.

Women do not respect themselves. And many women do not question their beliefs, their wants, their decisions, and their identities. The high-value man you want does not respect you flaunting your body around and calling yourself an “Insta Baddie”. But feminism teaches women that it’s okay to do whatever they want — there shouldn’t be consequences for your actions, regardless of whether the things you do have positive connotations or not.

Whenever my boyfriend holds a door open for me or grabs onto my wrist when walking in the street, I don’t say, “Ew, no. I’m an independent woman, I can do it myself”.

I usually just say thanks.

Women don’t know what they want

It’s no secret that most women are indecisive.

But girl, please. Do you want your man to be chivalrous or do you not need protecting — Which one is it?

Men and women complement each other. There is no need for women to be “equal” the way you want to be equal. We all have a role to play in society. I believe that women have the power to do whatever men can and more. It doesn’t mean they should.

In order for the home and for society to continue functioning, these roles should continue to be established. Women have proven time and time again that they’re a force to be reckoned with. We’ve proven that we can do what men can do.

If you’re being paid less than your male counterpart while working the same job with the same roles, it doesn’t mean we need feminism. Men are frequently the breadwinners and have been associated with working hard and making money. If you want to be paid more, assert yourself and ask for a pay rise — don’t jump on Twitter and complain about it.

The problem with feminism

I’m usually the first person to say ‘Everyone to their own and move on.

Why am I talking about this?

Because being a woman does not hinder me from doing anything in my daily life. Modern feminism is bullying young girls into thinking that wanting to dress modestly is outdated or that not voting for Hillary Clinton is against the matriarchy.

Like, what does that even mean?

Women are not men. We are not physically as strong, or as fast, and we tend to make emotional decisions while men generally think logically.

There are lots of issues in our society that don’t work in our favor. There are instances where we have the short end of the stick and men have it so much better. But that’s expected when this world was built by them. We’re still learning, and progressing and we’re more powerful than ever.

But you can’t control other people. You can only control yourself. And “hating all men” is not the way to equality — if that’s even what you want.

….

If you have an alternative opinion, pop it into the comments below. 💬

Let’s have a friendly discussion. 🌎

For the Karens who want to proclaim that they “don’t need a man” — please exit stage right❌

…

🌷Learn more about the author here

🍄Sign up to read my stories here

…

You might like…