Family is Not Blood — It’s Those Who Are There For You
A Good Neighbor is Often Your Closest Family
A person of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. — Proverbs 18:24 — New American Standard Bible
Dictionary.com’s definition of the word family includes “any group of people closely related by blood or marriage, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins” This is a technical definition based on blood relations.
However, when we speak of family we also mean those who love us and care about us; these are the people we can count on in times of difficulty. We know we can call on them with confidence. Family in this sense are not always blood relatives.
Family members drift apart over the years.
It takes a lot of time and effort to keep a family together. Unless there are common interests, and love, members of a family drift apart and end up hardly knowing each other.
A major factor contributing to family members drifting apart is the ease of relocation to other parts of the country, or other countries.
Families can be kept close and in touch with each other if there is love in the relationships.
A successful relationship is a two-way street. If one person is making all the effort it will fail.
Email and text messages have replaced handwritten letters.
In the old days people communicated with their families living in faraway lands by handwritten letters. They made the time to write these letters and it took weeks to get to their foreign destinations by boat.
Today, we have the convenience and speed of modern technology and yet a large number of families have lost touch with each other. I would argue that such families don’t care for or about each other.
How much effort or time does it take to email, text, or call a loved member of the family?
Many claim that they are too busy, their lives too hectic, to keep in touch with their families. I don’t buy it. People do the things that are important to them and keep in touch with those they love.
Who will help you in a crisis?
Your next-door neighbor can be your closest family, as can a close friend.
In an emergency, the first person you will call on is the person who lives next door, your neighbor, if you are on good terms with them. You will also call a close friend who lives in the same city as you.
It is unlikely that the first person you will call is a relative who lives in a distant city or a foreign country ten thousand miles away.
A wise elder once told me that your neighbor is your closest family. There is a great deal of truth In this.
My Family
My family is my wife and our three adult sons with whom we are in touch all the time. As for relatives and friends, most have fallen away, very few remain.
At the end of the day, family is more than blood. It’s about love.
