Falling In Love With You
Self-Reflection
Have you been in and out of relationships for as long as you can remember? Do you keep falling for the wrong type of man/woman? Does each break up leave you feeling more insecure than the last? Do you already have somebody waiting in the wings, a backup plan, in case it doesn’t work out in your current relationship?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions then you don’t love yourself. You have been so disillusioned for so many years that you forgot what it was like to actually be happy being alone with you. Something is missing within your being. I know because I used to not love myself either. It took me quite a few years to learn what true self love is.
I am writing this article to give you some advice as to how to be happy being alone and relearning how to love yourself. If you are currently in a relationship please make sure you feel you are being treated right and that you are happy. If you feel like you are settling for less then please move on.
The first step to loving yourself is learning how to be alone with yourself. Find out what it is that makes you happy. It could be anything from cooking, reading, writing, watching television, exercising, etc. Regardless you must go back to basics. To what you liked to do before you decided to go relationship hopping.
I am a big stickler about filling the void with getting to the root of why you feel a void in the first place. Think back to your past relationships, do they have a common theme? Do you always attract the wrong man/woman? If the answer is yes than you have some soul searching to do. You are attracting the same kind of person…an unhealthy person because you have issues being alone. You are settling. Draw yourself a long hot bubble bath, light some candles and pour yourself a glass of wine, relax. When you are relaxed make a list of what things you would like to do while you still are single. Don’t get into a new relationship until you have crossed out everything on that list. By the time you cross out your last venture…you will have found out who you are again. Self-love.
How do you learn to love yourself? It is never too late to find out who you are and what you really like. It might be uncomfortable at first as your first instinct will be to want to go out and meet new people. It feels like it would be so much easier to get over your ex if you could just meet somebody new. That method of thinking is unhealthy. I know you are in pain and sad, but in order to grow you must grieve the previous relationship as you would the death of a person.
It won’t be easy. I will not promise that, but it will be worth it. “Time heals all wounds” is a relevant saying for a reason. You cannot rush when it comes to matters of the heart. You must establish love for who you truly are. It is then and only then that you will attract the right partner for you. Why? It will happen because as your self confidence grows you will make better choices for a long term partner. I would trade the rest of my life for a couple of years any day.
I hope I have helped to guide you in the right direction when it comes to finding out who you are and finding your love within. Once you do that you will be unstoppable. Your inner beauty will shine outwardly and attracting the right people won’t be hard. You will notice those red flags and be able to walk away. I hope next time you see this article you have fallen in love with yourself.