Every Disappointment is For Good

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Disappointment is a feeling we all know too well. It can be disheartening, demoralizing, and downright frustrating. I remember when I was really looking forward to a special event, and it didn’t turn out as expected. It was disheartening and frustrating, but over time, I learned to cope with such disappointments by focusing on what I could control.

When faced with misfortune, there is an old saying that can offer a pearl of profound wisdom: “Every disappointment is for good.”

Viewing it from a Philosophical Standpoint

I heard a friend say this to me in a comment session a while ago: Every disappointment is for good. These are such empowering words that I started thinking about them in a philosophical sense.

So I researched stoicism and learned that it is a form of ancient Greek philosophy founded in Athens in c. 300 B.C.E.

I was fascinated to discover that influential figures like

• Adam Smith,
• George Washington,
• Theodore Roosevelt,
• and Ralph Waldo Emerson were all deeply influenced by Stoic philosophy.

The prominent philosophers are

• Marcus Aurelius,
• Seneca,
• and Epictetus, to name a few. They are generally referred to as the Stoics.

1. The Stoic Philosophy:

If you are pained by any external thing, it is not this thing that disturbs you, but your own judgment about it. And it is in your power to wipe out this judgment now. -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

The idea that disappointments can be for the good finds its roots in Stoicism.

• Stoics held the belief that accepting what cannot be changed and cultivating wisdom and growth in bad times was a part of their philosophy.
• They argued that our response to disappointments, rather than the disappointments themselves, shapes our character and well-being.

Thus, every setback becomes an opportunity for inner strength and wisdom.

Understanding the Nature of Disappointment

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. -Robert Kiyosaki

Stoicism encourages us to recognize that disappointments are part of the natural order of life.

• It tells us that we cannot control external events or the actions of others.
• What we can control, according to Stoic principles, is our response to these events.

This fundamental concept lays the groundwork for dealing with disappointment.

Acceptance and Stoic Resilience

Do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life.” — Marcus Aurelius

Stoicism teaches us something really important: accepting what we can’t change gracefully. Disappointment happens when what we hoped for doesn’t match what actually happens.

• Stoicism says, “Hey, life can be unpredictable. Let’s not expect things to always go our way.”
• This way, we become stronger when things don’t turn out as planned.

The Role of Virtue

In the context of disappointment, Stoicism encourages us to view our response as an opportunity.

• When we respond to disappointment with wisdom and courage, we transform adversity into an opportunity for personal growth.

Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing. -Epictetus

The Dichotomy of Control

Stoicism introduces the concept of the “dichotomy of control,” which distinguishes between things we have control over and things we do not.

If you want your children and wife and friends to live forever, you’re a fool, because you’re wanting things that aren’t within your power to be within your power, and the things that aren’t your own to be your own. -Epictetus

Disappointments often fall into the category of things we cannot control, such as external events or the behavior of others.

• Stoicism advises us to focus our energy and attention on what we can control – our thoughts, emotions, and responses.

This shift in perspective can alleviate the suffering associated with disappointment.

The Stoic Response to Disappointment

Here is the rule to remember in the future, When anything tempts you to be bitter: not, ‘This is a misfortune’ but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune.’”– Marcus Aurelius

From a Stoic perspective, dealing with disappointment means taking time to think rationally and reflect on oneself.

When faced with a disappointment, a Stoic practitioner might ask themselves:

• Is this disappointment within my control?

• What steps do I need to take to align my perspective with the Stoic virtues of wisdom and courage?

• What lessons can I draw from this disappointment to strengthen my character and resilience?

By applying Stoic principles, we can transform disappointments into opportunities for personal development and inner peace.

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