EFT Tapping to Heal Low Self-Love

EFT tapping for self-love is a great way to heal any negative relationship that you have with yourself.

A negative relationship comes about if we are constantly in self-criticism and if we have difficulty embracing ourself. Just imagine, being friends with someone. If we are criticising our friend repeatedly, the relationship can become toxic.

We erode our sense of self when we repeatedly affirm “I am not loveable” or “I am not good enough to be loved”. Doing so can only weigh us down. It impacts our ability to function well, be confident, and to achieve success in the world. By creating and believing in these stories, we are in self-sabotage.

There was a time when I would be particularly harsh inwards. I can’t say that I no longer criticise myself but things have improved a great deal. These days, I am more mindful about what I do say to myself. The result is that I am a lot happier, more forgiving and accepting. Amazingly, I also found out that the positive shifts I made internally translated to improved relationships with my loved ones too.

Since then, I have decided to help women who have challenges with loving and accepting themselves as they are. I noticed the tremendous benefits that happen once a person starts the process of healing. One great therapeutic tool that I have found has helped others tremendously is EFT tapping.

If you struggle with self-resentment or are constantly downplaying, doubting or degrading yourself, I highly recommend that you give EFT tapping a go.

Self-resentment can lead to eating disorders, making unhealthy choices, undertaking addictions and so on. Deep self-resentment can cause you to have existential issues. There is far too much at stake when you are not loving yourself.

EFT tapping is known as the emotional form of acupuncture. It involves using your fingertips to lightly tap on specific meridian endpoints on your face and body; thereby neutralising negative emotions and overcoming limiting beliefs. EFT tapping is a great salve for self-love as it promotes the healing of your wounded self.

The Set-Up Statement That Incorporates Self-Love and Acceptance

The beauty of EFT begins with the set-up statement that already helps you to address self-sabotage. A standard phrase that you vocalise while tapping on the Karate Chop for step 1 goes like this…

Even though I am or have this issue, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

This set-up statement was suggested by Gary Craig, the founder of EFT or the Emotional Freedom Technique as part of the therapeutic process. It is a brilliant statement to affirm in that you acknowledge that you’d love yourself anyway - no matter what the situation is.

You are practicing unconditional self-love when you say the set-up statement. Just think about a friend or child who perhaps have made a mistake. Would you not love him or her despite the mistake made?

No one is perfect in this world. We all make mistakes at one point or another. We screw up sometimes. Or we don’t do the things that we are supposed to do. Yet, to tear ourselves down will only make things worse. Why not try love and acceptance instead?

Loving and accepting yourself does not mean giving yourself the permission to undertake unhealthy actions or bad behavior. On the contrary, I believe it means that you recognise that you are human. You accept that you have imperfections even as you intend to grow from your mistakes, while saying positive and supportive words inside.

The Tapping Sequence

Steps 2–8 constitute the tapping sequence where you tap on your face and body. Refer to the picture on the EFT tapping points.

As you tap, you now vocalise and acknowledge the negative emotion, belief or situation that you are in. Very importantly, you are tuning into what is going on in your body.

Instead of being in resistance, you allow yourself to sense and feel the energy of it in your body. This is especially healing because you are not fighting with yourself but to simply observe and free yourself to experience your response. You begin to understand that your body is only trying to protect you. Invariably, you become aware that you are not in present danger. It’s in freeing yourself that you release your disruption.

When tapping for self-love, you are working through the blocks that put you in resistance to accepting, forgiving and embracing yourself completely.

The Self-Love Scale

To track how you are doing with EFT tapping, an intensity scale is being used. With the intensity scale, you are asking yourself: On a scale of 1–10 in intensity, how disrupted do you feel about your issue or situation?

You take a measure on how resistant or how disrupted you feel before, during and after tapping. As you tap through the EFT tapping points, you are likely to feel better and hence you can start to experience a move in the intensity scale positively.

What I have found useful is to apply a Self-Love Scale. The Self-Love Scale can be applied to track how you are doing with loving yourself. The question to ask yourself:

On a scale of 1–10, how much do you love yourself?

Rate it a +10 if you love yourself unconditionally. On the other hand, rate it a -10 if you absolutely resent yourself. Most people will fall somewhere in between.

Great questions to also ask yourself…

Are you generally kind to yourself? Are you generally self-critical? Do you believe that you fall in the positive or negative region of the Self-Love scale?

If you did not give a +10 rating, what’s stopping you from loving yourself absolutely? What is in the way for you?

Is there a part of you that feels ugly, stupid, like a failure or unsuccessful and therefore you are not lovable?

If so, therein lies another opportunity to tap through whatever blocks there are.

In the event that you are not getting positive results even after tapping, it may mean that you have deeper issues that needs to be dealt with.

It is possible that an inability to shit positively could be due to your past. Perhaps you got abandoned, rejected or did not have the opportunity to form a close bond with your parents or caregiver. All these circumstances can lead you to conclude “I am not lovable”. Should this is the case, I suggest that you seek the help of a certified EFT practitioner to assist you with self-love healing.

As mentioned, I have observed the tremendous benefits that come about after tapping for self-love. Others have reported to a real shift in confidence, an increased ability to attract clients, improved sales, attracting soul mate, enhanced relationships with loved ones etc.

All these positive benefits were experienced after they realised that they deserve to be healed and then taking action — with EFT tapping.

Always remember… You are worthy of being loved. You are lovable and so much more!

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