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could only dream of possessing — kindness, warmth, optimism. This was so threatening and sickening to them; their only option was to character-assassinate you. Since they could never be you, they had to destroy you.And they’ve thrived throughout the whole process. You see, narcissists feed off your misery and love watching your life fall into chaos. That’ll teach you to be happy.And yes, all those ‘good deeds’ they’ve done for you — whether you think they were generous or thoughtful, have been carefully calculated for maximum return.Nothing comes without strings attached. And although they might pitch it as these ‘favors’ came from the bottom of their bountiful heart, it didn’t.They kept tabs on everything. And came to collect.Their whole relationship ‘strategy’ has been designed to make you feel indebted, incapable, and guilty. And guess what? You do feel guilty. That means their grooming has worked! Now, since you’ve stuck up for yourself, they're waiting for you to come crawling back tail between your legs.Don't do it! You deserve a whole lot of happiness and real connections. There is really nothing for you to feel guilty about. Nothing.Turn that guilt into disgust (for them) and stand on business.<h2 id="74a3">How many chances have you given them now?</h2>Do a quick stock check of your relationship with this narc. How many times have you asked them nicely, fought with them, or pleaded with them to be more…human?Have they made amends? Made real changes? Rectified behavior? Or has the narcissist thrown out a vacuous apology and continued to steamroll you at full pelt in hopes a flat human being creates le

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ss friction on their way to their goals?Flat with fewer feelings.All while they have you on a perpetual foot pump working hard to keep their ego inflated. But it’s like an air mattress that’s been stuffed in a closet for decades, that refuses to inflate because of all the moth-eaten holes.Step away from the foot pump. Drop the toxic shame and guilt.If nothing changes, nothing changes. Either you can keep being the narcissist's ‘yes man’ doormat and continually disrespect yourself in the most soul-crushing way — or you can stand up for yourself. And own it.<h2 id="1d79">They’ve been pretending this whole time.</h2>You might think, ‘They do have feelings!’ ‘We were so in love!’ Or ‘we had such an amazing period in the beginning, and it is just about to snap back to that. I can feel it!’This was all a lie. Being devoid of feelings, the narcissist has faked genuine interest or positive emotions until they can hoover. All those good times you can think of? Created by mimicking and mirroring you to then craft a highly effective manipulation strategy.<h2 id="e6a7">Don’t let them win</h2>We’re moving into a new year. 2024!! It's time to put yourself first (this is NOT selfish, by the way). Cut whoever you deem necessary and move towards the life you’ve always wanted.A life of genuine smiles, belly laughs, and the warm glow of happiness.<a href="https://nottodaysatan.beehiiv.com/subscribe">Sign up for my newsletter,</a> where I unpack narcissist’s manipulation tactics. This’ll help you be on guard, preemptively prepare counter moves, and, better yet, sidestep them completely.</article></body>

Don’t You Dare Feel Guilty About ‘Hurting’ a Narcissist

Here’s Why You Should Have a Worry-Free Conscious

Happy (nearly) New Year!

For all you big-hearted, empathic people who feel guilty about ‘hurting’ a narcissist's feelings, please read this. Because you can’t.

You don’t deserve the guilt. They don’t deserve any more airtime.

You can’t hurt a narcissist.

As these people are really just empty shells fueled by other people's misery, there are no real feelings to hurt.

They’ll only be bummed by the loss of control over you.

Also, they’ll lack energy (which could be seen as sadness) because their petrol comes from triggering and annoying you. So the vampire will have to retreat to find someone else's blood to suck.

You owe them nothing.

Think of what you’ve given up for them. Time, happiness, friends, family, tears… your health. Your confidence. And what have they given you in return?

Anxiety. A crippling lack of self-confidence. A deep sadness and buckets of toxic shame and guilt. Isolation.

You do not deserve this. You’re an insanely kind person who, unfortunately, has met one of the most destructive humans on this Earth. This has always been the narcissist's grand plan for you — to turn you into a coat hanger of who you once were.

Why?

Because from the moment they saw you, they felt envy. Burning envy. You had qualities they could only dream of possessing — kindness, warmth, optimism. This was so threatening and sickening to them; their only option was to character-assassinate you. Since they could never be you, they had to destroy you.

And they’ve thrived throughout the whole process. You see, narcissists feed off your misery and love watching your life fall into chaos. That’ll teach you to be happy.

And yes, all those ‘good deeds’ they’ve done for you — whether you think they were generous or thoughtful, have been carefully calculated for maximum return.

Nothing comes without strings attached. And although they might pitch it as these ‘favors’ came from the bottom of their bountiful heart, it didn’t.

They kept tabs on everything. And came to collect.

Their whole relationship ‘strategy’ has been designed to make you feel indebted, incapable, and guilty. And guess what? You do feel guilty. That means their grooming has worked! Now, since you’ve stuck up for yourself, they're waiting for you to come crawling back tail between your legs.

Don't do it! You deserve a whole lot of happiness and real connections. There is really nothing for you to feel guilty about. Nothing.

Turn that guilt into disgust (for them) and stand on business.

How many chances have you given them now?

Do a quick stock check of your relationship with this narc. How many times have you asked them nicely, fought with them, or pleaded with them to be more…human?

Have they made amends? Made real changes? Rectified behavior? Or has the narcissist thrown out a vacuous apology and continued to steamroll you at full pelt in hopes a flat human being creates less friction on their way to their goals?

Flat with fewer feelings.

All while they have you on a perpetual foot pump working hard to keep their ego inflated. But it’s like an air mattress that’s been stuffed in a closet for decades, that refuses to inflate because of all the moth-eaten holes.

Step away from the foot pump. Drop the toxic shame and guilt.

If nothing changes, nothing changes. Either you can keep being the narcissist's ‘yes man’ doormat and continually disrespect yourself in the most soul-crushing way — or you can stand up for yourself. And own it.

They’ve been pretending this whole time.

You might think, ‘They do have feelings!’ ‘We were so in love!’ Or ‘we had such an amazing period in the beginning, and it is just about to snap back to that. I can feel it!’

This was all a lie. Being devoid of feelings, the narcissist has faked genuine interest or positive emotions until they can hoover. All those good times you can think of? Created by mimicking and mirroring you to then craft a highly effective manipulation strategy.

Don’t let them win

We’re moving into a new year. 2024!! It's time to put yourself first (this is NOT selfish, by the way). Cut whoever you deem necessary and move towards the life you’ve always wanted.

A life of genuine smiles, belly laughs, and the warm glow of happiness.

Sign up for my newsletter, where I unpack narcissist’s manipulation tactics. This’ll help you be on guard, preemptively prepare counter moves, and, better yet, sidestep them completely.