Why Worrying is the most hurtful thing these days

What matters in life is not to worry! Everything will improve. At some point, things will improve and let them seem for the time being painful and prohibitively irreversible.

Everything is to change the way you think and the way you see things. Over time, shape your perspective, how you deal with a problem. See it as something inevitable that could happen to everyone, even the luckiest, even the richest. Maybe it does not come to your mind right now, but they are ordinary people. They have the same 24 hours as you, and whether they like it or not, they will have an unpleasant experience in life, like the death of a parent, the death of a child, or a severe health problem, which affects them or their families. Unfortunately, even for the richest, the result is the same as for the poorest (they may have some temporary benefits, but the result will be the same again) death. This is how you begin to see life with a different eye.

→ You start to see life as something temporary.

→ Do not waste your time on useless things.

→ Think about what you would like to do right now and how you dream about yourself.

→ Do not look at what others are doing. They live in their own lies and imagination.

→ Be authentic.

→ Help everyone! Is Happiness, is the pleasure you get when you “really” help someone who needs it.

→ From the material world, the best is social World

→ Relationships and friendships will be what will remain in the end

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→ Enjoy life

I will start by analyzing these ten things that I think are a good start and start changing yourself.

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— 1. There is no living organism on planet earth that does not suffer from birth. Everything that’s born at some point dies. This is the only sure thing in the current era of the 21st century. I hope the future is more optimistic. Life ends, and you are not eternal. You have the good round about 80 years, subtracting, of course, the 20. Until then, in your first 20 years, you will not care enough because there are parents of each one who occupy their resources for you. We have 60 in which, to be honest, almost 80 years now is difficult enough to do whatever you want and whenever. So it is good to get another 20 years out of there, we go to 40. This, of course, provided that you will be lucky to live for so long and nothing tragic will find you. Steve Jobs, for example, did not succeed. Governors, senators, politicians, celebrities, and the rich, many of them also do not manage to reach these years. From the middle man, they and their children are in much better situations. Imagine now that you are on the opposite side of the world, where most of the billions are. Well, as I said above, Steve Jobs didn’t make it. Even though he had a lot of money, they didn’t help him. A senator who also had a lot of money did not help him overcome the malignancy he had in his brain. A famous Youtuber who has traveled almost all over the world has driven the fastest cars and has made the most beautiful way of life imaginable, and he lost his brother in a car accident. I saw a different Youtuber yesterday who mentioned that he had just been diagnosed with testicular cancer who already had lung metastasis around the age of 30. Many of his subscribers say that how it is possible for such a young person to have such an expensive car, to live in such a house and yet he is in a phase of his life at this time that if he could exchange all this to have his health, he would do it with his eyes closed! Personally, a month ago, I underwent surgery that I did not even expect something like this to happen to me in my life, and yet as the years go by is very likely, and in fact, these chances increase rapidly! In conclusion, what I want to emphasize with the above examples is that: It does not matter who you are, life is short, about 40 years, so it is good to look to live it as best you can. Unfortunately, we are not gods to change that, but neither has our technology today reached such a level that it can overturn it.

— 2. Of course, writing the above makes sense to emphasize the second object, “not to waste your time on useless things” since we say that life is small natural, and next is to try to spend your life on things that matter. Spending your time on Social Media, Facebook on Instagram, and watching hours on Youtube in “set jokes” or “Pranks” in cats and dogs is one of the time you waste and do not gain back! Imagine 2 hours on Youtube for almost an average person is equivalent to 50 pages from a boo. This book, which you want to read for so long and do not have time, but if you measure the real-time you waste on Social Media or look at Story on Instagram, it is the same thing. From my point of view, many books write nonsense and are not worth reading, but it would be good to start with something like this, rather than looking at models on Instagram, most of which are lies and have the impact of reducing your psychological wickedness. Instead, you could go for a walk, organize your house, decorate your house or move its furniture. You can even call relatives with whom you have too long to talk or even your parents. If you have a bicycle, you could easily do this or a motorbike to explore parts of the city in which you live that you have never seen before. All this is much better than sitting on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube, etc. you will immediately feel that you are doing something productive and good for yourself. I know that it is not easy to change in one day, but it is good to start immediately.

— 3. The third issue usually concerns the most profound emotions. It is good not to spend your time on useless things, but there are also objects you want to change, such as your weight, body, knowledge, to make or start something new. How much better your life would be than sitting on Facebook instead of cooking something tasty with low calories. Something you have never done before! To cut yourself the salad, or even in the Supermarket instead of shopping hastily, sit down and think about what you’re buying and if this will help you in your health or in your life, to see how many calories? How much fat? How many carbohydrates it has? Now start slowly observing things you did not do before and have weight loss. You do not need to go to the gym right away to get started. Many times I wanted to expand my knowledge in history since I closed Social Media, I began reading books about the history of my area but even further back (for example, Harrari Sapiens is a good start). Still, it does not happen in one day. For example, when I was 20, I was very “hooked” by the psychological part and the part of self-improvement! I read passionately on how to become better and how to improve myself. And I realize that many of these books say the same thing, and many of them take from one another for-profit, so I changed, and I understand the “game.” At 25, I started reading a lot about Marx. At 26, I read a lot of fiction. At 28, I turned it into history, and now I’m into politics. You can not do all this in one year! Even if you are the smartest on the planet! I also read a lot about training a dog. I finally managed to get my dog to leave the ball ​​right in my hand and how to be patient before I started eating. Most importantly, I started reading behavioral books, which significantly improved the way I communicated with other people and helped a lot in my work and sociability. It also helped me realize what exactly I want to do with my life and how I would like to be from now on and what behavior I will have with people who interest me and exist in my life. You can also start the achievement you would like to do. Starting your own business or writing the book you wanted, or taking the courses you owe if you are still a university student, how much better your life would have gone if you had finished. Your manager has assigned you to do a job, and you postpone it all, with excuses! Making you seem incompetent but also unreliable, which also has an impact on your psychological life. Now you will tell me why all this is important. You could do nothing about it and sit all day drinking coffee. Because in life, you have to do some things, now it will be up to you. Humanity has not progressed to the level it is today sitting. On the other hand, it will help yourself to be useful in society, in your family.

— 4. This one is of the essential things that affect your psychological life — comparing yourself to others who may be better than you serve no purpose. I, too, would like to read 150 pages per hour and memorize 90% of what I read, but I am not Bill Gates. I started reading a medical book, and as soon as I read a sentence, I forgot it in the next line and said it is not possible, but if you are not trained, Bill Gates reads from 4–5 years old. I started reading only 2–3 years ago in my routine and not to do it out of necessity like in university to pass the courses in which I had a hard time. Also, comparing yourself to others does not help anywhere. I remember my parents doing that. They said, look what a good student “tom” is, of course, that I am not. That, of course, does not matter because, as a result, after 20 years, the one who wrote 10' he’s in prison at the moment. I prefer it to be mediocre than to be behind bars — also, better students than I turned out to be failures in their lives. Plainly if I tell this to my parents, it will no longer matter because they will not remember it and only look at the result. Many of my old friends also fell victim to drugs, debt, and divorce. Also, by cutting Social Media, you do not compare yourself with the models, men, women, or how much money they have, or fast cars they drive, or how successful their lives are. Everything you see in there is pure lies. Imagine now a model is photographed in a private Jet, and you wonder how this thing is possible, and yet it is not. If I remember correctly, a company in Russia or Germany that owns a plane and uses it for photos, it costs around 500–600 euros per person for a simple photoshoot. They offer you a make-up artist and a professional photographer. Imagine another company setting the whole scene for you to look like you spoke in a Havard branch and say it is possible? And I can not remember a line from a book, but it is likely because they are lies. How is it possible that some people have these bodies? Many of them made in Photoshop, but even those who are exercising did not do it overnight. Some people have been doing gymnastics for 2, 4, 5, even ten years if their bodies were awful. They certainly did something very wrong. But it is not impossible to become like that, starting today, it takes time and dedication like all things in life. You can’t become a doctor overnight. Entrepreneur, painter, writer, they all want their time, and above all commitment, it is crucial not to give up, and too many people do!

— 5. It does not need anything special for you to do that! You must be unique.

— 6. After a long time and many years, I realized that one of the essential things in life is to help your fellow man and those who need it. Almost everyone who has done such an act has felt it. When you support a grandmother cross the street, as soon as you have done, you feel an inner pleasure. When you warn someone about something and immediately help him not suffer the unfortunate, there you also feel joy. When you teach someone something they do not know, there you feel a compliment again. I believe the feeling you feel when you help someone is better than any other. You will tell me that I would rather have a Ferrari and be alone and drive it every night in the corners of Los Angeles. Still, my personal opinion again, I believe that you will get more pleasure in your life from 100 people who will say thank you that you helped and improved their lives rather than being alone on the road with the Ferrari.

— 7. This is something that many people find confusing because of consumerism. Consumerism is a business of billions. These companies that make money bombard you with thousands of ads to buy a new cell phone, a new computer, a car, or even a house, all of which are intended to improve what exactly? Of course, your life! The new juicer cuts the oranges 5 seconds faster than the old one, which will make your life easier and get you to work 5 seconds quicker, but no juicer can do that because if you encounter a car accident on the road, you get stuck and you will be 30 ‘late whether you like it or not. I know that it is difficult to do, but as above, it takes time. It is not done overnight, to do this must be a powerful character in advance does not mean, of course, that you can not do and at a slow pace. Try to be happy with what you have! I know it isn’t easy. As I write this article, I was looking for a new car yesterday and believe I have a perfect car fast in red and convertible, but I was still looking for a new one! It is difficult, and I notice that those who try to become minimalists find it difficult. Although the term minimalist now on Youtube is to have a clean and modern space, I believe few are those who call themselves minimalists and do not have five different coffee makers. This, of course, happens because, as I write, you are irritated by external dynamics. You walk down the street and see new cars, beautiful houses, and open Instagram. You see the model wearing nice clothes. What you can say to yourself is that even “those” who have “them” have fallen victims to consumerism even though the 200,000 euro car passes me in the morning for work, we get to work at precisely the same time. We pay the same petrol both of us, to have this fast car mean he goes more times to the petrol station. His finances may indeed permit it, and he is comfortable doing it, but that does not change nor how much better he is at his job than me (if we do the same job) the smarter or more economical. We get to work the same, or if we make the same trip from the same road at most, it reaches 10 to 15 minutes faster than me with more chances of course to cause an accident. But think if you were handicap or had a final stage of cancer and six months to live, would you care about the 200,000 euros car? or another six months more?

— 8. It’ Obvious. We all have old childhood friends that we meet after years. At the moment of the handshake or the hug, we immediately feel a connection and happiness. Especially with people, you have been with since childhood. You feel this joy as soon as you see them. I also want to highlight in this thread some discussions I had with my friends about relationships. Specifically, 2 of my friends recently divorced and even ended up hanging out together because they express the same views! They say that they invested in the relationships they had with their “exes,” and in the end, it was a mistake that they invested in them as individuals but also as a relationship. Of course, I am against this view. Every entrepreneur invests both financially and emotionally in his business. When someone builds a bakery and finally is forced to close it, they say they made a wrong investment. I see it as a lesson. For sure to lose his business, he made some mistakes, so it is with relationships to lose the human you have, you made some mistakes. We are not saying that you are to blame for this. (But surely the businessman who lost his business, his mistakes are all his own) When dealing with a different person from you, yes, you make mistakes, but I do not believe that the blame is entirely yours. I also think that investing your best-self in a relationship is the best thing you can do because the alternative is only 2. — 1. Or in the end, this person does not appreciate it and loses you by breaking up. Sure it will be bad for her but also useful for you that you will not have to spend your whole life with the wrong person and — 2 if you are lucky and invest, you can find the right person or, as the dreamers say, your other half. Imagine how much worse the outcome would have been if you had found the right person and did not invest in him/her!

— 9. All these ideas and opinions that I have formed are through the books that I have read.

— 10. Just enjoy your life! You have only one!

Bonus

Live a healthy life! Apart from the above, I can not stop stressing this enough! Healthy living is everything. Stop eating sugar or fat. In contrast to sugar, but honey. Instead of fat, put quality meat and let it be more expensive! Put fruits and vegetables in your life. You will not believe how much they will help you. How many cherries I have eaten this summer, along with melon, strawberries, and watermelon, and grapes, are unbelievable! From the moment you make the right diet, you can exercise starting from walking, and then you can climb to any level you want.

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