Lies, Lies, Everywhere
Real eyes, realize, real lies
Some of us know that lying is an integral part of our social interactions, although it is often looked down upon. Despite this fact, all people lie at one time or another. But why do we do it? What causes us to deviate from the truth? Does lying make you feel better? Maybe momentarily.
“ -Stop lying…you make me sick. Don’t tell me, you’re a terrible liar!” I told him one day. I knew I hated lies and I expected to find out the truth from his mouth, not from other people and that was very painful for me. But that’s what happens when you trust someone too much or maybe out of pure naivety.
I can’t explain it, but it’s as if I have an innate ability to sense when people are being untruthful. I notice the subtle changes in their demeanor, the way they fumble or show signs of guilt, or how their eyes avert or change direction all of a sudden. Some might consider it a flaw, but it’s just something I seem to have. Everyone lies, it’s not as if there is any human being who has never felt the taste of a lie on his lips.
It hurts to know that the people you least expect are lying — but this is something inevitable. I pay too much attention sometimes or maybe it’s just my imagination.
“- Must seem odd to you, but you like to twist my words and comment on everything I say!” he said annoyed by the fact that I was too preoccupied with the words he used. And I let my guard down. What else would I have said when he got so angry and worried about my attention for a few moments?
Lying involves the deliberate intention to mislead someone by presenting an untruth as true. We know why we lie and why we choose to do so; we are perfectly aware when we do this. It’s just that lying requires intention; a mere error or misunderstanding does not constitute a lie. And this must be differentiated quite easily. Well...in some cases.
There are many reasons why we choose to lie. Some of them are obvious, while others are related to traumas and fears. So I’m going to tell you a few reasons:
- Self-protection: One of the most common reasons we lie is to protect ourselves. This may include protecting one’s image, avoiding punishment, or avoiding unpleasant situations.
- Manipulation: Sometimes we lie to manipulate the perceptions or actions of others for our benefit. And this is quite a painful reason.
- Personal benefit: In some cases, lying can bring us a personal benefit, such as getting a job or a promotion. It can make us seem more confident.
- Protection of others: We sometimes lie to protect other people’s feelings, also known as “white” lying. We are often used to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or to maintain harmony in a relationship. But we honestly know that we cannot protect anyone that way. You’ll still end up disappointed in one way or another.
And the impact of lying can have long-term negative consequences, even if it can bring short-term benefits. It is known that lies can erode trust and damage relationships. It happened to us at least once in our lives. Also, maintaining a lie can be stressful and lead to feelings of guilt and anxiety, and living full of remorse is not a solution. It can impact you in so many ways. Been there, done that…But how many of us admit it?
Being honest with ourselves and the people around us is much more constructive and truthful.
As I said, I can tell when someone is lying or about to lie, as if I can anticipate this possible action. “ -Why are you trying so hard when I already know? ,, . There must be 1000 reasons why we lie in general.
I was lied to by grandparents, parents, relatives, by all of them. And not because they don’t love me or don’t care about me, but they had their reasons I think.
Sometimes I heard: “- You are too young to know a certain thing. Leave it, you will find out later. ’’ and all kinds of reasons. Of course, instead of telling me the truth, they told me a “little lie” to compensate their lack of honesty and to make me stop asking questions. And they usually shut my mouth, because I realized that I was being lied to.
And it’s completely fine, I lie, you lie, we all lie. Yet, it’s very unpleasant when you find out the truth from someone else and not from the person in question. It is enough to realize that a person is cowardly and reckless. I mean it sucks. This shameful act can destroy your integrity. For some, it’s a way of life, a part of their routine. “ I mean, what a heck?! Do you see yourself as a God? ,, .
Oftentimes, I have the impression that I am much too sensitive to tolerate lies, even if I feel like a lie detector or a detective, ready to destroy someone with my “ big snout”. In the end, I do not harm. Ultimately, lying is a complex behavior of the human species. No one escapes unscathed, so to speak. It may be difficult to accept the truth, but it is essential to a healthy and functional society. Honesty is royalty! ღ
Thank you for reading and being here with me! ❤
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