Don’t just let life happen to you. . .
Make life happen for you, Love Mom
I’m one of those people who is extremely fortunate to have a very wise mother. She is a woman of few words, and each word she chooses to share, is generally sound. Circa 1986, on a dark night, while driving on Philadelphia Pike, in Claymont Delaware, my mother slowed the car and turned around to speak to me directly. She turned down the music and said the following sentence to me:
“Listen to me now and never forget this. Don’t let life happen to you. Make life happen for you. Don’t create a life where you are constantly responding to external stimuli. Plan your life, create goals for yourself, and accomplish what you set out to do.”
Just like that, she turned back around, turned the music back up, and left me with her words. Those words have never left me. Those three sentences cultivated leadership within myself and with the world community. Even though I was only 14 at the time, I was clear that she was dropping a jewel. That’s why today I am sharing it with you, and I felt like it was very necessary to share it on it’s own page in my book, “Starchild 000000088”. We all have to be nimble to the ups and downs of life. We all have to have a certain level of preparedness for the amazing rollercoaster that life can sometimes be for each of us individually. However when you have a mindset that contemplates, envisions, dreams, desires, plans, enacts, initiates, cultivates, creates, manifests, strives, succeeds, fails, and reworks, you set yourself up to have an amazing adventure that is full of fullfillment. Your plans can and will change. Your desires and responsibility will evolve and even devolve throughout the course of your life in accordance with your goals.
Each moment will be absolutely delicious as you engage in the dance of life. A dance where you choose the music, the ambiance, your apparel, the music genres, the DJ, and the venue. The beauty is that you get to change the music. That’s right, you have the right to change the music, the venue, or even the fact of whether or not you choose to dance, sing along, or listen to music at all. You can move to another country, you can move back to your hometown, you can choose to be a nomad and fully explore the world. You can go to institutions of higher learning, or you can embark on an extensive journey of personal education and cultivation. The world is literally your oyster. So get to shucking.
Turn down your music long enough to hear your inner creative energy and then take those visions and design your life. Practice meditation, sit in stillness. Explore the dark roads of your inner world and write down your dreams when you wake in the morning. Explore your imagination and your joy. Cruise through your contentment and peace and be sure to slow down to achieve full awareness in order to know exactly what it feels like. You’ll want to make it a priority to know what that feels like and keep it as a priority in your life.
Making life happen for you is a journey, a journey that will take the entirety of your lifetime to fulfill. Be patient with yourself. Be curious about the unknown and explore all the avenues that you can before making any permanent choices. Allow yourself time to explore and grow and explore again when life changes and needs change.
My Mom knew what she was doing when she turned down that radio. She knew that what she was saying was singularly one of the most important things she would ever tell her youngest daughter. I heard her loud and clear, and I pray that you, no matter your age or stage in life, will hear me now and never forget this. “Don’t let life happen to you, make life happen for you.
I love you ❤
Indirah Ambrose
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