Don’t Ditch Your Old Friends As You Change

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hey do. They are married and in long-term partnerships and I’m not. We are different in other ways too, ways that don’t necessarily resonate and are potential sources of conflict.The truth is that I have changed. Now I am smug and superior about it and they remind me of someone I used to be. When they see me they don’t see the work I have done on myself or the person I am now, they see the clunky insecure over the top kid I was once when we were all close and the world was small. They still love that kid. I find it hard to.I realised my resentment wasn’t about my time. It is that they remind me of my past which makes me sad and brings up deep feelings of nostalgia.. but that shouldn't be feared or avoided. It sh

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ould be embraced for its beauty and how it reminds us of who we once were and what we have become.Shared history is the strongest bond maker and cements our relationships, good and bad. It is what keeps you close to people you haven’t seen for years and it is why it is very hard to make true friends later on in life. You have to build memories into the relationship. You can’t fake it and you can’t rush it.These friends were a big part of my journey and we went our separate ways. We are now coming back together for a few hours to reminisce about the old times. Special times. Remembering where I came from is the theme of the day. Accepting the old me that I once couldn’t will be its challenge.</article></body>

When we are evolving it’s easy to drift apart

I have a bunch of old friends in town this weekend and I’m meeting up with them today. Yesterday I was full of resentment about it. I felt I had too much to do and this would eat away at my precious time.

We are different people now. I don’t drink and they do. They are married and in long-term partnerships and I’m not. We are different in other ways too, ways that don’t necessarily resonate and are potential sources of conflict.

The truth is that I have changed. Now I am smug and superior about it and they remind me of someone I used to be. When they see me they don’t see the work I have done on myself or the person I am now, they see the clunky insecure over the top kid I was once when we were all close and the world was small. They still love that kid. I find it hard to.

I realised my resentment wasn’t about my time. It is that they remind me of my past which makes me sad and brings up deep feelings of nostalgia.. but that shouldn't be feared or avoided. It should be embraced for its beauty and how it reminds us of who we once were and what we have become.

Shared history is the strongest bond maker and cements our relationships, good and bad. It is what keeps you close to people you haven’t seen for years and it is why it is very hard to make true friends later on in life. You have to build memories into the relationship. You can’t fake it and you can’t rush it.

These friends were a big part of my journey and we went our separate ways. We are now coming back together for a few hours to reminisce about the old times. Special times. Remembering where I came from is the theme of the day. Accepting the old me that I once couldn’t will be its challenge.