ACCEPTANCE

Don’t Be a Twatwaffle

Be kind, rewind, and share the love

I suppose it’s time I get some frustration out.

Humans can really suck.

Why is it so hard for other people to be kind to others? Why don’t more humans try to be accepting? I have experienced my fair share of hate. My mother was my first bully and is still the worst one. I’ve been bullied for simply being unique. My purple hair, tattoos, and piercings are still an issue for a lot of people which baffles me.

I can’t imagine why people don’t want to be better. I know that balance in life is fundamental. Yin and Yang. Darkness and light. Good and bad. That’s why racists, murderers, rapists, pedophiles, and other vile humans exist.

I don’t believe we are meant to “balance” anything in our daily interactions with other human beings. If everyone who isn’t one of the aforementioned horrible people were to only be kind to everyone around them, there would still be plenty of negative shit to create a balance.

I strive to be a better version of myself every day. To remain teachable, open-minded, and accepting. Why don’t other people want/do the same?

I will never understand why people choose to hate.

It takes absolutely nothing from me to let someone love whoever they want to love. The only negative feeling I experience around that is jealousy. I am jealous that someone, anyone, could find such a beautiful love. Someone who accepts them just the way they are. That is a ME problem, those people haven’t done anything wrong.

Listen, I may not understand why people are the way they are.

But that isn’t my job and it is none of my business.

It doesn’t mean I can’t still be supportive of them. It doesn’t mean that I can’t still try to understand. It makes sense to that person, it makes them happy, and that’s all that matters.

Women who are attracted to other women have given me compliments. Yes, lesbians wanna get with Quinn! I think it’s my boobies, but I’m not trying to toot my own horn here. My point is how I respond, not react.

Some of those ladies may hug me just a little too long or too tight. I just simply say “Thank you, I’m flattered.” There are even times when I wish I WAS into women because of how gorgeous they are.

Ahem….Kate Beckinsale, anyone?

Did you know that you can love people and not be IN love with them? Yes, there is a difference. I may tell some of you I love you because I try to love everyone until I’m given a reason not to. That doesn’t mean I want to bang you or stalk you, or that I’m even interested in you physically at all. I can still love your soul. I can love how you are as a human.

I want to be clear, I am an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community and minorities. I find they are kinder people in general because of what they have to endure. The exception is if you’re just a rude person, I’ll treat you like a rude person.

I don’t receive the same judgment minorities do. I will never claim so.

I don’t know what it’s like. I can sympathize, though. I have been judged and bullied for the color of my hair and the way I express myself. Apparently, I’m weird. How does MY purple hair directly affect you? Tell me!! Maybe I’m missing something and need to change my perspective.

Oh, you can’t think of a reason? Then shut the fuck up.

Are these people jealous?

While I don’t have the same experiences as some people, I can relate to how they might feel. Hurt. Unaccepted. Judged. Less than.

If I don’t understand something, or if I think I may be offending some people, I would rather “look stupid” and ask for the right answer or way to say something. I’d rather try to understand instead of saying something insensitive.

Don’t get me wrong, I can and will offend certain people. Those people are not the ones I want in my tribe. If you’re offended because I support people being themselves to every extent, then you might as well just stop here.

You’ve heard it before. Being kind is free.

We each have our daily struggles in life, why do we need to add more negativity to that? I have the attitude that where ever I go, I will always try to be kind to people.

This doesn’t mean I am a doormat. If someone says or does something rude to me or someone else, I’ll call it out. Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness.

I’ll tell them to quit being dicks. Whether they have one or not.

I guess this is why I prefer animals over most humans.

Maybe they’re afraid of showing they care. Maybe they wish they could be honest and open about themselves and in turn, take it out on those who already are that way.

Maybe it is learned behavior. I’m so glad I’m not racist or homophobic like my mother. My dad was born when separation still existed and by the time he passed, one of his best friends was a man of color. A very good man who I am still in touch with to this day. I took after my dad. Thank god for that.

I’ve been spending many minutes here on medium. I’m reading just as much, if not more than I am writing. I have done the research, taken advice from multiple people, and come up with my own little way of doing things.

I have read about some of the awful things people have said in comments and that authors have had to block people. I haven’t experienced this yet. Most people are either positive or silent.

Some of you don’t follow your followers back. Some of you follow EVERYONE. Some only follow the people that follow them. Some have a variation or no specific method.

I follow anyone who posts an article/story that I like. I follow most of the people that follow me, especially other authors/writers. I clap for a well-written piece even if it wasn’t something I enjoyed simply because I admire how it is written.

If I see someone who is even fresher than I am on this platform, I support them. If I have something specific I want to share regarding what they’ve written, then I leave a comment. Leave a compliment. Clap! 50 times!

Maybe not all writers, but most, have taken much of their time to write about something. They take the time to both feel and relay emotions, or they do research to back up their facts. Some people put a lot of effort into their writing, fight their fear, and spend time actually putting the pen to paper. Or fingers to keyboard.

I thank everyone who takes the time to comment on my writing.

I will always try to be kind and supportive.

I will also get crazy when I need to.

I’m a passionate person and there is no getting around that. I embrace it.

How can you avoid being a twatwaffle today?

Love, Quinn