Does Pain Help, Or Hinder You?

All of us add pain consciously or unconsciously to our lives.

“I don’t get it,” Bonnie said too loudly, using her index finger to scratch under her chin, her eyes on Wendy. “How can pain help anyone!”

“Yeah,” others in the audience agree.

“Come on up and explain,” Grace Linton suggested as more than one hundred pairs of eyes turned to Wendy.

“I am going to get you for this,” Wendy warns her best friend as she slowly and unwillingly drags herself on stage.

“Relax,” Grace read her discomfort as she eased closer handing her a cordless microphone, then asked, “How does pain help you?”

“Pain helps me because I refuse to allow it to hinder me,” Wendy shares with the audience.

“How does pain help you?” The audience demands impatiently.

Wendy’s eyes swayed towards Grace to her right, who nodded.

Then Wendy poured out from her past and heart, “After a horrible divorce, losing my dignity, security, home, life and everything else, pain taught me how to live and avoid repeating anything and everything that will put me back in the same bad situation I was in.”

“Will you get to the juicy part before we all die?” Bonnie taunts, as the audience erupts in laughter.

“I learn from my mistakes, keep the pain alive, so it prevents me from repeating all of the things that hurt me in the past,” she explained her eyes on Bonnie.

“Wow!” Grace exclaimed, easing closer to her. “But doesn’t it hurt?”

“Not if you learn from your mistakes,” she said.

“So, because you learn from the horrible things that pain adds to your life, it doesn’t hurt any more?” Someone in the audience asked.

“Learning from life, and what I experience and must endure, helps to lessen the pain, handing control to me,” she explained.

“So, you control who or what hurts you?”

“After lessons learned. Nothing can hurt me that way again,” she educates.

“So, I must learn from my mistakes before I can control how I handle my pain?” Someone asked.

“That’s what I do,” Wendy said. “I psycho-analyze the situation and causes, learn my lesson, then address my pain.”

“But what if life send you back to certain situations or place where you have limited control?” someone quests.

“No matter where life sends you, you have a choice. I have a choice. All of us have a choice. I chose not to put myself into any situation or circumstance that will add pain to my life that I can see. If I can’t see it, I have the strength to fight it. But if I can, I intend to stop it!” Wendy educates.

“Damn!” Many in the audience sang in unison.

“Pain hinders me,” a female in the front shares.

“How does pain hinder you?” Grace asked, signaling her up on stage.

She stood up, and nodded, then someone handed her a cordless microphone. She then, explained after taking it, “by simply not doing what she does,” pointing at Wendy on stage. “I place myself in many situations that increase the pain in my life. I hold on to humans who hurt me over and over. I create my painful instances by not learning from its causes.”

“Me too,” several persons agreed.

“Learning from your mistakes should guide you on a better path to better decisions,” Grace educates.

“Choices too,” Wendy adds.

All of us add pain consciously or unconsciously to our lives. You have a choice.

For 2024, stop creating instances, situations, or circumstances that will add unnecessary pain to your life! You have a choice.

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