Do You Want To See the Real Nature of a Man? See How He Behaves When You Hit His Ego

Disagree with a man if you want to know his true personality.

I went on a date with the typical nice guy.

He was the kind of person that everybody asked why he was still single with all the chivalry, success, and kindness he always showed.

The date was good. He picked me up at my house. We went to dinner and talked all night about his work and my interests. He even insisted on paying for everything because he invited me.

However, I did not connect with him the way I would have liked.

At that point in my life, he was not what I was looking for, and to not waste his time, I wrote him a text when the date ended.

“Hey, thank you for the date. It was great. However, I don’t think we should continue hanging out. I didn’t click the way I wanted, but I wish you the best, and I am here if you want us to be friends.”

Until that moment, he had treated me with a lot of love and respect and always looked for a way to make me feel comfortable and safe. However, after that message, his behavior changed drastically.

He responded to my message:

“You are not even a big deal.

I went out with you to do you a favor. You are not on my level.

I don’t care about what you think. I would never go out with you again anyway.”

And he didn’t stop there.

After that day, he told our friends in common that the reason the date didn’t go well was because he disliked the way I thought. That he didn’t like my personality. And that I was the kind of woman who took advantage of men for free dinners.

A man will never show you his real personality while you agree on everything.

Some men have two personalities.

The one they show to their friends and people he is interested in obtaining something, and the one they show only to the people they trust the most and the ones that hurt them.

The problem is that they will not show you their true personalities while you agree with them on everything.

The guy I went on a date with was friendly and a gentleman from the moment I met him through the whole date. He never showed me signals of being a jerk.

It wasn’t until I hurt his ego by not wanting to have a second date with him that he showed me who he truly was.

And I am glad I decided not to give him another chance just because he was nice to see if they were sparks because that helped me realize he was just a hypocritical who needed to heal some kind of trauma.

You are not going to change how a woman thinks by insulting her. You will only be reinforcing the opinion she had about you.

Unfortunately, many insecure men need to insult you to feel good about themselves when they feel hurt.

Many men feel the need to insult women to feel good about themselves. This happens because, deep down, they know they are not the good people they preach they are.

People who are insecure and angry need to put others down. It makes them feel powerful. Men with healthy self-respect don’t need to insult women just because they think differently or because they don’t wanna go out with them.

They know that a woman may not choose him because they are not ready, they are not what they are looking for, or because they don’t want to commit right, and not because they have a problem.

The reality is that those who try to bring you down are basically admitting to the fact that they are already below you. No one whose self-esteem is intact is going to waste their time being an insufferable arse.

I know that all the things that a guy tells me when he is hurt have nothing to do with who I am in reality but who they are and how they want to feel.

Because judging others is a universal pattern created to feed egos.

I know that what the guy I dated was trying to do was lower my self-esteem so that I wouldn’t reject a man the way I did again. But luckily, I have matured enough to know that his insults were not my reality.

True men know that all the women don’t have to like them and simply move on.

Many feminist women and I have the problem of generalizing our opinions about men on many occasions.

We say, “Men are bad,” “There are no gentlemen anymore,” and “Guys are trash,” which I know is bad, but we know there are good men. I had a lovely father, my best friend is my brother, whom I admire and respect, and now I have the perfect fiancee in the world.

When I say that, they know it is not about them.

Many women say these phrases because they don’t want to feel weak, pick me, or because they don’t want to be taken advantage of for being innocent.

Real men know this and don’t feel attacked by it. They know they are good and simply ignore women because they know we are being silly with that statement.

The other day, I wrote a controversial opinion about some men, and many guys felt the need to insult me to defend themselves by insulting.

However, my friend Neeramitra (my mom loves him, but he doesn’t know it yet) made a comment that made me change my whole opinion about the subject just because of how sweet and good he explained it:

So in a world of men who felt the need to tell me, “I need to grow up,” “I am a gold digger,” or that “I would die alone” because I hurt them with my words, be a Neeramitra, who understand my point of view and even if he doesn’t agree with my opinion, tried to make me understand the reality about what I said.

There are two types of men:

• The ones that believe they are the best and deserve the world will treat you like crap when you are not useful to them anymore.
• Those with good self-esteem who know their worth and will always treat you with respect no matter what. They will never lose their composure, even if they disagree with you. They will explain their point of view to you and will continue to treat you as you deserve, even if you don’t have the same vision.

The problem is that you will not know which one is the man you are talking to until you disagree with him or hit his ego in a way.

So before choosing a good man for what he shows to the world, try to have a strong opinion of your own that he may not agree with and see how he reacts after that.

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