Summary

The author reflects on the balance between internal dialogue and external communication, advocating for the importance of choosing when to speak and when to remain silent to avoid misunderstandings and foster genuine connections.

Abstract

The article delves into the intricacies of the human mind, emphasizing the tendency to overthink and how it can lead to silent suffering. The author shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the consequences of both overthinking and impulsive communication. Through these experiences, the author learns the value of discernment—deciding when to voice thoughts and when to keep them internal, thus navigating the complex interplay between thoughts and actions. The narrative underscores the significance of communication in building trust and understanding, while also acknowledging the role of silent reflection in preventing unnecessary conflict and fostering personal growth.

Opinions

The author condemns the idea of indulging in delusions, believing it leads to a life of inaction and regret.
Overthinking is identified as a personal flaw that has negatively impacted the author's life, leading to missed opportunities for honest expression.
Trust in friendship can be compromised by assumptions and a lack of open communication.
Communication is essential to dispel misunderstandings and misconceptions about others.
There are situations where it is wiser to remain silent and reflect rather than speaking out immediately.
The author emphasizes the importance of understanding the right moment to speak, which is a skill that contributes to the richness of life's interactions.
The article concludes with the hope that individuals find harmony between their internal thoughts and external expressions, learning to choose the appropriate time for each.

Do You Talk Inside Your Head More Than You Talk In Reality?

May we all win the war between our minds and reality.

The human mind is a complex yet fascinating puzzle of emotions, thoughts and perceptions. We think more in our heads than we talk in reality.

But whatever we think is “nothing” but a mere delusion and we believe in a famous quote by Gen-Z, which goes, “Being delulu is the only solulu”. But I condemn a big no to this motive, as being in delusion will only leave you with a lifelong guilt of not doing something practically and just going with the flow with it being the solution to every problem.

Today, I will weave the fabric of my experiences with careful decisions and purposeful activities, for the genuine essence of life is revealed in the real and practical movements ahead.

Let’s get right into it. Well, when it comes to me, I don’t get ashamed in accepting the fact that, I AM AN OVER THINKER. An over thinker who thinks more than I talk or express in real life. But at the same time, I am ashamed to accept that my life has messed up because of my overthinking.

The things I could have said loud out, in reality, have always been stuck in my mind, causing me to worry and suffer because of them. Well, I feel like sharing with you all there, which made me suffer in silence, because I choose to talk in my mind than to talk in reality.

Once, I shared personal information with one of my closest friends and restricted him from sharing it with any other friend. But after a few days, I got to know that my “secretive information” had been known by another friend as well.

I felt like getting betrayed and promised myself not to share anything with that friend in future. For a few days, I was thinking about this thing and made me lose my trust in friendship.

But after a few days, I got to know that the secretive information was not only limited to me, the rest of the group friends already knew it and my friend didn’t share it with anyone. This thing made me learn a lesson, that is not to just talk inside my head but talk in reality.

We need communication to get rid of any kind of misunderstandings or misconceptions we tend to have about others, just because we talked and decided about it in our mind. What a foolish thing to do.

But at times, there is a need to stay silent and think about something in your mind rather than just letting it out. I remember, right after a few days of this incident, I was filled with the ideology to talk in reality about everything which bothered me.

Right at that time, I came across another incident, which proved this ideology wrong and absurd. So, basically what happened was, that my friends were out for breakfast and due to one misunderstanding they didn’t let me know this. Well, right after my first lecture of the day, as usual, I called them and asked where are they.

On asking, they told me that they were out for breakfast, and I felt heartbroken. Knowing that they didn’t tell me about their plan and went out on breakfast. With my old ideology, “Don’t talk in mind, talk in reality”, I decided to let it out this time.

I recorded a voice note and send that to our WhatsApp group, explaining how pissed I am. I told them that this was disrespectful to me, that my only friends in university hung out on themselves and didn’t even bother about me. I sent the voice note and left the group.

One of the friends called me and told me how one of them was feeling extremely unwell, and they just took him to the hospital. He didn’t have breakfast so they all took him to his favourite restaurant for breakfast.

The reason that they did not tell me this is because they knew that I had an important quiz in class and they didn’t find it okay to bother me for going to hospital with them. And the breakfast plan was taken on runtime. On listening to all of this thing, I thought for a second that yes, their justifications were valid and I just overreacted.

This incident made me realize that it depends on the scenario you are in. If you are sure that something you are thinking, needs to be talked about in reality then just do it. If not, then it is better to stay silent and talk in mind with yourself only.

My path from quiet suffering to vocal expression has been both enlightening and transforming in the subtle dance of ideas and reality. Overthinking may be a stumbling block, stopping the words I should have said from reaching the ears that needed to hear them.

The instance of mistaken trust showed me that communication is about understanding and being understood, not simply speaking. An important lesson appeared, instructing me on when to break the stillness and when to let the mind’s murmurs drift into the background.

The fabric of life is woven with pieces of dialogue — some spoken, others silent — each adding to the rich story of our existence. As I negotiate the maze of reflection and expression, I’ve realised that the contradiction of talking within my thoughts versus expressing in actuality is a delicate skill.

There are times when quiet is wonderful, allowing thoughts to grow, and others when vocalising is the bridge that bridges misunderstandings.

To summarize it all, I hope that all of us discover perfect harmony between the silent and the spoken in this symphony of existence, realising that the knowledge to choose comes within the rhythm of our hearts. May we all win the war between our minds and reality.