#1 Reason Some People Succeed in Life and Others Don’t

Do you know the real reason some people are successful in life and others aren’t?

[THIS STORY WAS ORIGINALLY TITLED: Do You Know the Real Number One Reason Some People Succeed and Others Don’t?]

Kobe Bryant once said: “The moment you give up, is the moment you let someone else win.” His famous Mamba Mentality has been used by many, as a blueprint to success, not just for winning in basketball but for winning in life.

So often, when famous people take the time to tell us the key to their success, the truthful advice we receive is so painfully simple, it goes right over our heads.

What I’m about to tell you is the hard, cold, simple truth of why some people succeed in accomplishing their goals in life, and others seem to fail no matter what.

This is an important life lesson that you won’t want to miss out on. Now whether you’ll accept this reality and act accordingly is totally up to you.

Unsuccessful Experts

What I’m about to tell you is the REAL truth, and I don’t have to be a successful person yet to be in possession of this knowledge.

In fact, I’m not the expert on what to do right, but I am definitely the expert on what to do wrong; I’m highly skilled in that area, so of course I know the pitfalls to avoid.

Please don’t confuse my lack of success with a lack of experience. Experts on both sides of the coin (successful and non-successful), each base their knowledge on what they have experienced.

Okay, I see some of you thinking about ducking out on me like I’m a bad Lifetime movie, allow me to finish my thought first.

Like I told you in the subheading, you shouldn’t read this if you’re afraid to hear the truth, but now that you’re here, you may as well endure me a little longer. I’ might just surprise you, IF you listen with an open mind.

Before you decide either way, let me breakdown what I’m about to share, and that way you can make a decision based on “accurate knowledge” and act accordingly. Fair enough? Okay, so let me spell out what this information is and is not.

This is not some B.S.with me trying to tell you “don’t worry about having money, fame, fortune,” or whatever else you desire and hope to eventually attain.

In other words, this information can actually help you when it comes to MAKING MONEY and having SUCCESS in a FINANCIALLY lucrative way.

Now that you have more of an incentive to stick around, let me also inform you that this is specific information that directly relates to your mind set.

Once again, some readers may very well be ready to bail, so you might as well leave now, because face it, some of us are just way too stubborn (or not willing to even entertain the idea) of a change in mindset.

So for those close-minded individuals who aren’t ready for a serious change (for the better I might add), please excuse yourself now and leave the room.

Okay, for those who remained, that means you knowingly or subconsciously understand two things:

1) “If this information boils down to ME and the way I think about things, that means I’m the one truly in control of my future success.”

2) “Just because other people the majority of them might have bailed and not stuck around, doesn’t mean the information isn’t valuable.”

BINGO! That part! Successful people succeed because they’re willing to do with the majority of us are not willing to stick around for.

The 3 Top Reasons — Period

So the three top reasons that lead to some people succeeding in finance, investments, love, romance, physical goals, whatever; all comes down to the following three things.

The three things are PPE and it has nothing to do with Covid.

* Patience

* Persistence

* Endurance

Not only do all successful people just happen to have these qualities in common, but all three of these things are MANDATORY in order for success, and the first one isn’t at the top of the reason for nothing.

PATIENCE is at the top of the list because it’s the number one key.

Okay, I see the other remaining skeptics fumbling for the the mouse so they can click away. All I can say is thanks for staying this long (and for proving my point I might add).

IF YOU LEAVE NOW, at least you did better than some readers, and you got this far. But the average person will leave, once they fail to hear what they hoped to hear, and not the truth.

Successful people have a different mindset than the average Joe. I see your skin bristling, but I told you I’d be keeping it real and telling nothing but the truth.

Rational people would never admit it, but most of us want some magic elixir or secret password into the big baller shot caller club (okay, a little much, but you get my point). Sorry, but success just doesn’t happen like that.

People in general are way too impatient to hear that an answer we seek might involve time. We almost can’t help ourselves, because our society lives for instant gratification.

If we can’t even be patient enough to receive the right information, how on earth will we be patient enough to implement it, not to mention, wait for it to yield results?

And what about when we get the answer and it sounds way too simple? That’s another whole ball of wax, and it leads to scoffing, smirking, and basically total disbelief.

Well if you don’t believe me about the validity of a simple answer, maybe you’ll believe Steve Jobs when he says:

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

Okay, if you’re going, go on and go, so the grown ups can continue.

Importance of P.P.E Characteristics

Right now, really briefly, I’ll breakdown the importance of having these crucial qualities, if you ever plan to succeed in whatever it is you want to do.

I know all about these attributes because they were periodically lacking, in my own past struggles for success. Feel free to read all about my numerous jobs and diverse work history, not to mention my various internet ventures and online writing activities, including 2 self-published novels, and one novella. I’ve been taking notes for more than two decades.

As you read, remember that this concept is not just limited to making more money, or tackling some online venture that you hope will become successful.

You can apply these same principals towards ANYTHING in life that you want to be successful in (Yep even those difficult romantic relationships).

Forget all the other bull you may have heard about winning ways to have success, make money and live the life of luxury for the rest of your days.

I’m not saying everything else you might have learned thus far is incorrect (maybe it is and maybe it isn’t), but what I am saying, is that nothing you’ve already learned about success is as important as patience, persistence and endurance.

Any other elements and activities that you engage in will all end up tying right back to these three primary factors, so if you fail to employ any one of these variables, you will likely not succeed like you should.

PATIENCE

Successful people are the ones who were patient enough to see things through, and be determined not to give up, ever.

The one and only time a successful person ever stopped on their journey was the day they ARRIVED (and most of them keep going even then).

Can I prove this point? Sure. The evidence of any successful person’s unwavering patience is the fact that they are successful. Clearly, they remained patient and never gave up.

In a similar way, the moment that you, me, and all the others throw in the towel and refuse to press on, that is proof of our lack of success (I won’t say failure, but that’s exactly what it feels like).

Successful people have shown that they were patient to the end. They succeeded because they were still there, and actually showed up, at the exact moment their success was ready for them.

MORE KOBE QUOTES:

“Great things come from hard work and perseverance. No excuses.”

“We don’t quit, we don’t cower, we don’t run. We endure and conquer.”

PERSISTENCE

Persistence and perseverance go hand in hand with patience, and all three p’s are co-mingled. Just think about it.

You can persist in doing something, and persevere in your determination to stay the course, but what happens if you get impatient?

Not only is there a possibility of you giving up, but you might even make some stupid or erratic mistake before you do. Speaking form personal experience, impatience has compelled me to make a lot of outright dumb decisions.

So as you can see, persistence is crucial, but even persistence can’t survive without patience.

ENDURANCE

Successful people like Kobe, or others who make it to the top of their game, didn’t get that far without a lot of hard work and endurance.

Endurance is putting up with all the crap they had to put up with, in order to get to where they needed to be. In most cases, that means enduring internal, as well as external influences.

In all honesty, I’m not sure which is the worst. In my own case, I didn’t have a lot of outside influences telling my I couldn’t succeed, but I didn’t have anyone telling me I could succeed either.

My own internal voice had to be the one that constantly kept me motivated and built up and able to keep going. Whenever that failed, I always found my rate of success start to decline.

Endurance means holding out and holding on, even when crap isn’t going the way it’s supposed to go, and you feel like you’re all out of options.

If your patience level is where it should be, patience will enable you to go to bed, get a good night sleep, and get a fresh start the next day. That way, you’ll be in a better position to endure whatever else is on the horizon.

The TAKEAWAY

I could honestly sum up the takeaway by repeating the three words I’ve already emphasized: Patience, Persistence, Endurance.

That is the simple and the difficult answer to the question of how successful people succeed, while the rest of us continue to “not succeed.”

But if you’d like some advice on how to implement the information, and apply it to your daily life, try these valuable tips:

• Decide and state — in writing — exactly what your intended goal(s) is, and what you plan to work towards. You can’t possibly know if you’ve succeeded, if you don’t know what your objective really is.
• Start doing a regular job of monitoring and analyzing what activities work for you, versus which ones that don’t.
• Have a designated time to diligently check and compare your online stats, and any thing else that allows you to gauge your progress and success.
• When you notice a change in your stats, or other relative results, try and determine the reason. Whether the change is for the good or the bad; question why it occurred, and what you can do to repeat or delete.
• Create your own affirmation — at least one, and make it relative to you. Having a mantra or affirmation that you can’t even recall correctly doesn’t benefit you at all.

I thank you for taking the time to consider this information, and wish you all the success you desire. For some addition points on how to actually apply the information in this story, be on the look out for my upcoming title:

10 Self Defeating Attitudes that Interfere with Your Online Success

DEAR READER: The advice and opinions I shared in this story are not taken from a text book, nor do I profess to be an expert. I only aim to share how I handled the situation when this happened to me. The views I express are part of the many life lessons I discovered on my journey to self improvement.

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