Summary

The article emphasizes the importance of embracing one's current circumstances as a meaningful part of life's journey, advocating for mindfulness and self-acceptance.

Abstract

The author shares personal experiences of feeling out of place, such as dressing modestly during the '60s, and draws parallels to the character Angus MacWhirter from Agatha Christie's novel "Towards Zero." The narrative suggests that our presence in a particular place and time can have unforeseen significance, echoing the nurse's advice to MacWhirter that one's existence is inherently purposeful. The article cites Deepak Chopra and Jon Kabat-Zinn to reinforce the idea that self-acceptance and mindfulness lead to informed decision-making and personal growth. It concludes by encouraging readers to embrace their current situation, learn from it, and move forward with love and understanding.

Opinions

The author believes that feeling out of place is a common human experience but also a crucial part of personal development.
The article posits that every individual has a unique role in the "tapestry of human life," regardless of how insignificant their actions may seem.
It is suggested that attempting to escape oneself, either through avoidance or drastic measures like suicide, is futile and counterproductive.
The author endorses the idea that trusting in one's soul's plan and accepting one's current position can lead to wisdom and clarity.
The article conveys the opinion that mindfulness and acceptance allow for conscious choices and personal empowerment.
It emphasizes the Beatles' sentiment that there is no place one can be that is not where they are meant to be, advocating for a loving and mindful approach to life.

Do You Feel Out of Place?

You are where you are meant to be

Have you ever felt out of place? I have.

As a teenager in the ’60s I wore dresses below my knees while other girls ran up windy stairwells and crossed their legs in classrooms wearing barely enough skirt fabric to cover their lacy panties. I was being religiously modest and knew that Mary Quant, the designer of the mini skirt, was going straight to hell when she died. But this thought didn’t ease my daily dose of feeling out of place.

As an adult I admire Quant’s business sense, and appreciate the inner strength I gained by following my own path despite the public humiliation.

I wasn’t out of place at all. I was where I was meant to be. I was learning how the world worked and — more importantly — how I worked.

In Agatha Christie’s novel Towards Zero, the character Angus MacWhirter first appears in a hospital bed after an attempted suicidal leap over a cliff. He argues with the nurse that it’s his life so he has a right to take it, but she disagrees, and haltingly tries to explain what she believes:

‘It may be just by being somewhere — not doing anything — just by being at a certain place at a certain time — oh, I can’t say what I mean, but you might just — just walk along a street some day and just by doing that accomplish something terribly important — perhaps even without knowing what it was.’

Later in the novel MacWhirter is a key witness in a murder case. Most of us won’t feature in such an important role, but the point made by the nurse is worth keeping in mind. We are alive. We are where we are. We have a role to play in the tapestry of human life.

Deepak Chopra:

Trust that your soul has a plan and even if you can’t see it all, know that everything will unfold as it is meant to.

Me hiding in the toilets to get away from the taunting or McWhirter leaping off the cliff to escape what he thought was a useless life helps no one.

We do these things to get away from ourselves. But that’s impossible. As the title of Jon Kabat-Zinn’s popular book puts it so succinctly:

Wherever You Go, There You Are.

There’s no getting away from yourself.

Accepting that where you are is where you’re meant to be puts you in a powerful position.

It allows you to consciously choose what to do next, because your acceptance gives you space to make an informed decision.

Acceptance brings space. Space brings clarity. Clarity brings wisdom.

The Beatles song ‘All You Need Is Love’ contains the phrase:

There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be.

Remember that.

You are where you are meant to be

Living with Mindfulness

You are meant to be exactly where you are right now.

Stop hiding from yourself and life.

Stop looking for the nearest cliff.

Stop fighting the setting of this moment.

Sink into it.

Learn from it.

Then move on.

With love, Marlane

Thanks for reading! I hope it helps you for the rest of your life. For more articles on Mindfulness, visit me at https://www.marlaneainsworth.com

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