Summary

The article discusses the complex dynamics of love and money in relationships and marriages, questioning whether women prioritize financial security over love.

Abstract

The article delves into the contemporary trend where women are increasingly seeking men who can provide financial stability, often prioritizing this over love. It explores the societal and cultural influences that may contribute to this shift, including examples from the animal kingdom where female animals choose the strongest males for protection and security. The piece examines the role of money in arranged marriages, suggesting that financial stability is a key factor in their perceived success. It also references literature and media, such as Eddie Murphy's film "Coming To America," to illustrate the allure of wealth in romantic partnerships. The article concludes that while money is important for security and stability, it is not the sole determinant of happiness in a marriage, emphasizing the importance of love, generosity, and spiritual lessons in relationships.

Opinions

The author suggests that the love of money has overshadowed the importance of love in marriages, with women increasingly looking for men who are good providers.
The article posits that security, once provided by the strongest caveman, is now equated with financial success and the ability to provide materially.
There is an opinion that arranged marriages, which often focus on wealth and social status, may be more successful than non-arranged ones due to their emphasis on stability.
The piece reflects on the idea that wealth can influence a person's ability to command respect and desire, including in the choice of a marriage partner.
It is noted that despite the importance of money, it cannot guarantee happiness or prevent issues such as depression or suicide among the wealthy.
The author cites religious perspectives, warning against the love of money while acknowledging that wealth can be a force for good if used generously.
The article emphasizes that a compassionate man may be more valuable than a rich one, as love can provide emotional support and stability during difficult times.
It is suggested that a balance between financial wealth and love is crucial, and that money should not be the primary factor in choosing a life partner.
The author concludes that true wealth is found in love and generosity, and that money should be used to help others, not just accumulated for its own sake.

Relationship/Lifestyle/Life Lesson

Do Women Really Marry For Love Or For Money?

The trend these days is to look for a man who is a good provider

Love is supposed to be the boon of a good and solid relationship, especially in marriage, but we have noticed the trends turning to how good a provider a man can be. What could be the reason for this? It is difficult to pinpoint, but the love of money has so taken over the hearts of women that love has since been relegated to the back.

I was discussing with a colleague, (the discussion sparked this article), about our common colleague who left her childhood sweetheart when he can no longer provide adequately for the family. I thought their relationship has gone past that stage, but I was wrong.

Indeed inside every person you know, there is a person you don’t know, meaning there are two bears or two bulls. This other person you don’t know will only come out when circumstances warrant it.

What Happens In The Animal Kingdom?

There are so many wildlife documentaries that indicate the female species are only interested in mating with the leaders of the pack. This is to get attached to a male who can protect her and her offspring. We often see battles of the males, with the weaker ones in the pack leaving dejectedly, thus allowing the strong ones to take over. Perhaps this is the kind of security the females want or needed.

Money is today’s security and protection of the twenty-first century. This conclusion led some to believe women only marry for money, and not really for love.

Let us Look At Arranged Marriages

In most arranged marriages, (common in African and Asian cultures), the families look at power, money and the influences of the families in question. These can easily be translated as money. They want stability, which they believe is influenced by how the man is able to provide for his family.

Thus arranged marriages are more successful than non-arranged ones.

Today, most women are well educated enough to build up personal wealth, even then, most women still do not want to marry below their standard. Men, too, feel intimidated if their women are more successful than them, so they shy away from high-ranking and successful women.

The Effect Of Wealth On Love & Marriages

Have you ever wondered why most women look forward to marrying a prince? It is wealth’s power. In Eddie Murphy’s film, ‘’Coming To America’’, the father changed his mind when he realised that the cleaner guy wooing his daughter was indeed a rich African prince.

‘’Women need security, just as they did when they married the strongest caveman to protect them from other men and invading tribes. Nowadays, the strongest man is the successful one bringing in the money!’’ Charles Kelly

In the book, ‘’The Millionaire Next Door’’, the authors, Thomas J Stanley and Willaim D Danko, narrated the effect of wealth on marriages. Although the scene was set in contemporary America, we can say these issues replicate themselves all over the world.

The book is encouraging every man to strive to be rich so that they can command what they desire in the affluent world, beautiful women, good education for their kids, a nice neighbourhood etc. In short, the book is recommending financial independence.

Would You Say Money Has A Say In Love And Marriages?

It all depends. Money cannot be all in all, and definitely not make you happy because happiness is NOT in things, it is in us. If money is all there is, we would not see some very rich and powerful people suffering from depression and committing suicide.

“Money can feed the body. Love will feed the soul.” Toni Payne

While the Bible does not condemn wealth, it has a strong warning for THE LOVERS OF MONEY, which says, men, have stung themselves over and over because of the love of money. 1 Timothy 6:10

My own thinking is that the universe is very balanced, the rich need the poor, and the poor need the rich equally. And the Bible says, ‘’The poor will never cease in your land’’ Matt. 26:11

“Money is like love; it kills slowly and painfully the one who withholds it, and enlivens the other who turns it on his fellow man.” Kahlil Gibran

Hence we cannot all be rich and we cannot all be poor, there has to be a balance. Do not look for a rich man, but rather a lookout for a generous man. A generous man will be generous in both money and love.

The Takeaways

Money cannot buy love, but it sure does help alleviate the pains of poverty. A compassionate man is better than a rich man. If one genuinely loves, it can provide an anchor in times of crisis in the marriage.
There is a journey one has to live, the main reason is the spiritual lesson one is to learn. If money is involved in the process of learning, it will be generously bestowed.
“A relationship is like a bank. When you have deposited money, you can make a withdrawal. If you don’t have money, your check will bounce.” Pastor Albert Ocran
Money cannot buy love, but it sure does help alleviate the pains of poverty. A compassionate man is better than a rich man. If one genuinely loves, it can provide an anchor in times of crisis in the marriage.
“Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.” Kinky Friedman
The number one tip for getting rich is to spend less than you earn, invest and save. However, do not miss the joy of living your life in full for the sake of amassing wealth. No one knows when one’s time is up, and whatever is left after one’s death is for those you left behind.
“A real woman is not impressed by money because she knows her love is priceless.” Unknown
One has to strike a balance between a basic need and developing and helping less privileged members of society. Whatever we are blessed with is not only for us but to help others as well.
“If you choose money over love, you will always be poor.” Unknown