Do This To Earn A Second Date In The First Few Minutes

Effective approaches for inexperienced males.

She wants to see you again.

That’s what you want after you’ve hung out together. A female agreeing to a second date is a clear sign the first one was great. If this doesn’t happen, you will wonder where you went wrong for a while.

It’s not the best feeling. If you want to keep having several dates, avoid scaring off your love interest in the first few minutes. You want your date to redefine their ideal man as someone with your qualities.

Women are often very critical in the few minutes of meeting you. You can’t make her think you’re the one by waving red flags at the start. Instead, you can get her to relax and achieve a second date by scoring high on her initial assessment of you.

Have An Inviting Smell

Some men believe body odor is the only offensive smell, yet most women think otherwise.

They choose to wear so much cologne their fragrance becomes overbearing.

A harsh odor, whether sweaty or store-bought, sends the wrong hygiene signal. Strong cologne says you are trying to cover up your natural scent. It implies you know you tend to not smell good because of a recurring issue or stress sweat.

Overbearing fragrances also force your date to create distance. And your love interest wouldn’t want to repeat such an unpleasant experience.

If you have a medical issue, visit your doctor. If not, try different deodorants. Your deodorant should do most of the work to keep you smelling great. Colognes are a pleasant touch.

Avoid Being Too Humble

It’s difficult for everyone to avoid extremes. It’s frowned upon to brag about oneself. I’d say the opposite of this has a similar effect; your date doesn’t want to hear you label yourself as the underdog.

Life is tough for everyone. And many people experience imposter syndrome. But it’s not fair to you or your date to be very modest about your accomplishments. Instead, state facts and offer examples to support your statements.

Constant self-criticism gives the impression that you undervalue yourself. Your date may even think you are saying these things to gain their pity.

There’s no need to mention all your achievements at the first dinner. Over time, let your love interest get to know your successes and failures. You can avoid excessive bragging or self-criticism by changing the topic. Or asking questions and listening, so the woman does most of the talking.

Ask For A Second Date And Stop There

Have some self-respect. It’s normal to think the worst when you don’t get a response within minutes of a risky text. But control yourself.

I won’t make my phone go below 15 percent, and on the rare occasions my phone dies, I am in a hurry to charge it. So chances are they saw and read the text in their notification bar.

For some, they need time to decide because of their emotions and past traumas. Others need to consult their group chat first.

I recommend waiting before firing off another text. If the woman does not respond to you in over 24 hours, do a follow-up. Limit yourself to 1–2 brief replies. Try not to take back your earlier request for a second date. And don’t ask “Are you still there?”; it comes across as impatient and insecure.

Instead, say good morning, mention that you had a good time. Or clarify something you talked about while at dinner. If your female friend ignores these new messages, it’s time to move on.

Good Luck on the dating scene.

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