How to Define Your Own Happiness
The ultimate solution to finding happiness and peace of mind
Have you ever felt like you are doing everything right but things were not working out as well, or maybe they are not working out at all? Have you then felt demoralized or even demotivated?
You have gone to the right schools, read the right books. You have followed the ‘100% Ultimate and Effective’ plan to success. You have even copied a proven daily schedule of a successful person. You wake up at the ‘right’ time, as you read in the best self-help manuals. You have a schedule of tasks proven to get the best out of your day. It worked with the CEO of X Corporation, and so it inspires you, you want to be like him, you dream it, but most of the times you are feeling inadequate. You are angry with yourself. You blame yourself. You notice all the gaps. You’ve done all this and yet you can’t seem to get to where you want to be!
It sucks, right?
It’s time you took a break. Even take a sabbatical! It’s time to pull back and do nothing for a while.
Give yourself a deserved break. Be lazy! It’s not good to be too hard on yourself. In fact, no one has ever achieved anything by being too hard on themselves.
In life we set a certain expectations model that instead of helping us to better ourselves, does the opposite, works against us.
Sit back and let a fresh perspective re-develop within yourself.
Africans used to believe in curses. There were people who were cursed. They used to do the right things, but never ended up anywhere. So the advise given to them was that they were cursed and needed to be ‘washed up’. So the rituals would be performed on them, and they would wake up fresh, with a new sense of pride and direction. And then for most of those cleansed, things would change, and so someone would achieve their fete and be ranked among the greatest wizards.
The thing is, maybe nothing was done to them, maybe it was just a mental reset. They gained inner power, within themselves, and focused on what they wanted. The wizard directed them to what they wanted. That’s it, the ‘What I Want!’
Maybe you’ve been chasing a mirage, someone else’s dream. It’s time to find emptiness within yourself.
Maybe you have even achieved it!
Water, water, water…. There is no shortage of water in the desert but exactly the right amount , a perfect ratio of water to rock, water to sand, insuring that wide free open, generous spacing among plants and animals, homes and towns and cities, which makes the arid West so different from any other part of the nation. There is no lack of water here unless you try to establish a city where no city should be.
-Edward Abbe
Have you ever evaluated what, I (Insert your name here) really want?have you ever sat down and pored over what you have and what you don’t have?
Have you ever made a list of your wants, then made another list of what you have?
The internet, TV, radio, magazine, blog, book, e.t.c. is full of amazing models of successful people, people we want to become. People who got lucky, people who worked hard, people whose success was presented to them by their parents, people who got their opportunity. People who stole from others. People who plucked someone’s idea and ran with it.
And yet these people are our role models! We want to be like them, wake up when they do, follow their schedules, success paths, learn what they eat, how they talk!
How can we be them. Hell, how do we even know they’re happy?
Take a break from your goals. Clear your mind and let your own wants define you;
- Identify what YOU want. Forget everything you have read.
- Make a list — Just a list. Identify the things you are proud of having done, however small. Now make another list. Make a honest, wish list, call it a prayer. Human beings are known to be more honest and realistic with God.
- Make that prayer your list of wants.
- Memorize it. See it in your mind.
- Be yourself.
- Go for it. You don’t have to change anything. You just have to want what you want, forget what the world wants of you. Forget what you saw on TV, read in that fancy novel. Forget the nice car your friend bought and you want one like that.
It’s time to identify What You Want. It’s the only certain way of inner peace and happiness.
I pray you find a peace of mind.
