Distance

Summary

The poem "Distance" reflects on the complex relationship with the concept of distance, initially seen as a nemesis that takes away loved ones and familiarity, but eventually accepted as an old friend that teaches resilience and the ability to find joy in solitude.

Abstract

"Distance" is a contemplative poem that captures the emotional journey of the narrator who encounters distance at an airport, symbolizing a significant and permanent departure from their comfort zone. The poem delves into the initial discomfort and alienation felt by the narrator, likening the experience to an encounter with an unfamiliar language. As the poem progresses, the narrator grapples with the dual nature of distance—it is portrayed as a selfish entity that separates one from friends, lovers, and happiness, yet also as a lonely figure seeking companionship. Through introspection, the narrator moves towards forgiveness and acceptance, recognizing that both they and distance desire to be seen and loved. The poem concludes with the narrator's resolve to adapt to the presence of distance, learning to thrive independently, and finding solace in the memories of those left behind.

Opinions

The narrator initially views distance as an adversary, blaming it for personal losses.
Distance is personified, possessing a selfish nature that inflicts loneliness and disruption.
The narrator acknowledges that distance, like themselves, yearns for recognition and affection.
There is a shift in perspective as the narrator begins to see distance as a catalyst for personal growth and self-sufficiency.
The poem suggests that life without the constant presence of loved ones can still be joyful and fulfilling.
The narrator comes to terms with distance, recognizing its role in shaping their ability to appreciate solitude and the value of cherished relationships.

A Poem

We met at the airport, London Heathrow to be more specific. A couple of days after I had realized I had to leave. Not just for a couple of days. Permanently. And it almost made me cry.

And here you are pulling myself into your arms. Trying to comfort me but you feel foreign like a language I haven’t spoken for years, my pronunciation is off and my grammar all over the place.

You are an aunt who I have never seen before and who places a kiss on my cheek.

It stains from her lipstick that is way too dark for her skin tone.

She smells like smoke but I’ve given up cigarettes a long time ago.

Distance. A nemesis or an old friend. I haven’t decided yet.

Perhaps it was a nemesis who turned into an old friend because having it the other way would make everything so much harder.

But how am I supposed to like you?

You took away my friends and my lover, my house and my happiness. Everything that I knew and had come to love.

You took it all. It is your selfish nature and you don’t care who you hurt.

It seems unfair but I know that you are lonely and only clinging onto me so that you don’t have to be alone and that is why I’m forgiving you.

Because just like me you want to be seen and you want to be loved.

I will have to get used to you get used to you again. To your voice that will never shut up, your opinions I haven’t asked for and your slightly irritating habits like keeping me awake at night.

I hope that we can become friends during the time that we spend.

I will teach you that you will be okay even if you are without me. This is what you have taught me.

My life without you is joyful and I will celebrate with all the people I love.

Faces I had to leave behind and our laughter will meld into a choir.