Inspirational Humans
Dear Human! If You Cannot be a Flower, Don’t Be a Thorn Either!
Life is not a bed of roses
People who decide not to be a thorn,
ultimately become a flower. (Ashfaq Ahmed)
This is the lesson I learned from my favourite writer, Ashfaq Ahmed.
His program “Zaavia” is full of life lessons.
Life is a relative term. If I ask you: What is life for you?
You will describe it with your own unique collection of experiences.
Surely, there will be some bitter experiences where there must have been pain like a prick of a thorn and loss of some blood. On the other hand, you must have pleasant experiences like flowers, including wonderful fragrances, comfort, colours, and softness.
All these profound events influence our lives and impact the thought pattern, which is the basis of how we act. How do we interpret life?
Most people learn to be cunning, clever, or self-centred as their defence mechanism. They become a thorn for others. Sometimes, they hurt intentionally, and other times, it’s because of the personality they have developed over time.
As the matter of fact is, we do not question our thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. It’s like we submerge ourselves and dive deeper into the ocean of experiences. If the experiences are bad/evil, we adopt them. Obviously, this is dangerous for the individual and people around.
Have you ever questioned:
What are the differences between human beings and animals?
In most of our lives, we stay stuck between physiological and psychological needs. So, we accept ourselves on the level of animals except for the complexity of these needs.
Animals can live a simple life with the same type of food, but we like variety. They live in a natural environment; we need a furnished house. Animals seem satisfied living in their tribes, but we have very complex relationships. And the list goes on and on, defining the complexity of our needs.
But what differentiates us is our longing for self-actualization.
Unfortunately, most people are so busy with physical needs or psychological drama that they completely neglect this need. So, in reality, to feel the intensity of others’ pains and sufferings, you need to dive deeper into the ocean of self-love.
- If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love anyone else.
- If you don’t respect yourself, you won’t be able to respect others.
If you are not a flower, you might become a thorn.
But you can choose NOT to be a thorn, at least. Putting this limit on yourself, you can save yourself from missing genuine happiness. Also, you will show some compassion.
I will share more of Ashfaq Ahmed’s graceful teachings in my articles.
So, please, keep following my writings.
Wishing you a blessed life.
