Dear Holly Thomas, You Don’t Know What All Women Want.

This is something I’ve been wanting to write about for a while now, but here’s the perfect opportunity.

Please stop speaking for all women, Holly Thomas. A lot of us appreciate and admire what Will Smith did for his wife.

Remember, there are women from other cultures who admire and respect masculinity. The world is made up of Asian, Indian, Hispanic, African and African American women, as well as Caucasian women from different traditions and nations. In these places, acts like what Will Smith performed for his wife are seen as admirable and would be celebrated.

Are they wrong? They are “misguided” right? Do only white western American women understand the “right type” of masculinity? Can you please define what the right type of masculinity is for the rest of us? I do believe toxic masculinity exists, as I have to deal with it every day. What Will Smith did for his wife wasn’t ‘Toxic Masculinity’ any more than a woman smacking another woman who talks crap about her husband is toxic feminity.

If the roles were reversed, and it was Jada who went up on stage to smack, say, Wanda Sykes for saying something about Will, would there have been all this uproar? If so I bet it is Wanda and Jada who would have been attacked. Not the sentiment of a AA woman protecting her AA husband.

Somewhere along the way, it became acceptable for AA women to be the protectors of AA black men.

But the other way around, an AA man protecting his AA wife seems to make the media very nervous. I wonder why…

You suggested Will would have been better off letting Jada go up on stage and smack Chris Rock herself. Really? REALLY? You think a woman should have gotten on stage and slapped a man?

And what if Chris Rock decided to hit Jada back, then what?

Furthermore, how do you think Chris Rock would have felt slapped by a woman instead of another man? He didn’t punch Will Smith back, and it’s attributed to him for strength, maturity and solidity. But if a woman hit him, this is a whole different vibe, it may have been emasculating. Not to mention how Will would have felt for his wife to storm on stage to fight another man. Before criticizing masculinity and deciding what is toxic and not toxic, perhaps understand how it all works.

And why do you want Jada to look like the stereotypical “Angry Black Woman” to hop on stage to fight a full grown man? The G.I. Jane jokes would never stop then. But now she looks like a well-loved Queen, Bald headed and fierce, with a handsome fresh Prince turned KING at her side.

I’m sorry, but THIS STORY is a whole lot better than the one you were trying to paint. The one you are trying to paint has no romance, no love, and possibly has two more wealthy black men going to prison, and probably Jada messing up her dress, mascara running all over her face as the police haul her husband away.

I gotta tell the truth, but some women have just lost touch with reality.

A woman doesn’t have the same strength as a man.

And I know you are not encouraging violence at all, you are just saying it would have been better if Jada had fought for her own honor, to which I say. No. No, it wouldn’t have. That’s lame, boring, and DANGEROUS.

Also, please understand that not everyone is as squeamish and sensitive about violence as you are, and that’s okay. We don’t all have to be so sensitive.

Sure, guns, knives, blood, death. All bad. I get it.

But bro, a slap? It was a slap. Ya’ll act like Will tried to bite the man's head off, like the *“Miami Zombie”.

Also, I know there’s gonna be a bunch of people trying to say “he didn’t do that for his wife, he did that for his ego” to which I say, so what? SO WHAT? Men do pretty much everything for their ego, as far as I can tell. 🤷🏾‍

But the Bible says: ”He who loves his wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5:28)

None of this is me justifying violence, or saying Chris Rock deserved the slap. I think BOTH of these are complicated issues. I’m not going to say violence is never the answer, while we spend billions of dollars on military spending in America.

I’m just saying that many of us women appreciate what Will Smith did for his wife. And I personally DON’T appreciate you talking for me, saying “this isn’t what women want”.

Did you come ask me my opinions? No, Ma’am, you surely did not.

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*Also about the Miami Zombie reference

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