avatarPranshu "Maverick" Dwivedi

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th, food scientists simply build on what we are wired to crave.</p><p id="a8dc">From <a href="https://www.webmd.com/diet/features/13-ways-to-fight-sugar-cravings#1">WebMD</a>:</p><p id="958f"><i>…Americans do overconsume, averaging about 22 teaspoons of added sugars per day, according to the American <a href="https://www.webmd.com/heart/picture-of-the-heart">Heart</a> Association, which recommends limiting added sugars to about 6 teaspoons per day for women and 9 for men.</i></p><p id="4b06">There is sugar in damned near everything, if it’s processed, along with additional salts and other crap you and I can’t pronounce. So it was easy to pack it on as some of us had to turn to packaged foods when getting to the grocer, or at least doing it safely, got harder.</p><p id="f572">Under Covid, many if not most of us packed on pounds, feeding ourselves “comfort foods,” many if not most of which included added sugars, if not were pure sugar, as in candies and chocolate bars. I know I did.</p><figure id="9904"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*2Yle9ir1P2JupdYN"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@heatherbarnes?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Heather Barnes</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="713b">For me, however, it was more about pure stress. It’s hard to make a huge cross-country move. That’s one of life’s biggest stressors. Add to that a trip to the hospital with a kidney infection and stones, then a nasty car accident, well. It’s been quite the year and it ain’t done yet. Hardly.</p><p id="2bc7">The extreme stressors of those events were just part of the overall circumstance set.</p><p id="a524">I had to completely overhaul my diet at 67, given that I have Interstitial Cystitis and kidney stones. IC is, to my mind, a catch-all phrase that means <i>we have no clue but we’ll give it a name to sound official.</i></p><p id="3708">I know what IC is like in practice. Bad enough so that when handed a long list of Do Not Eats, I was happy to comply.</p><p id="4e89">Now handed a much, much longer additional list to prevent a recurrence of oxalate kidney stones, I was also told in no uncertain terms that salt, and my beloved sugar, were off the table. Worse, NO MORE CHOCOLATE.</p><p id="7147">Even worse, NO MORE CHOCOLATE ALMONDS. As in <b>ever</b>.</p><p id="685d">Well. <i>Shit</i>.</p><p id="3ad0">While in some ways this is a blessing, I will confess that the forced divorce from one of Life’s Great Joys- milk chocolate almonds-was hard.</p><figure id="4e2b"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*lngsYribIcdTKR5w"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@grimnoire?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">emy</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="8e44">Unlike a friend, who, when faced with the same list I got, he intoned with great gravity, that he would “eat what I want and deal with the stones,” I like being alive. Those stones nearly killed me. Imagine eating what you want, but living with a potentially deadly Sword of Damocles over your head.</p><p id="8231">I can’t speak for anyone else, but kidney stones equal suffering. At least for me they do, and for anyone else I’ve ever spoken with who has experienced them. To that, and again I can only speak for myself, stuffing my favorite foods down my gullet out of the need to put my gustatory delights ahead of both my personal safety and that of others seems stupid at best, and foolish at worst.</p><p id="9c1c">The reason, at least in my case, that such decisions have the potential to hurt others, there’s this: I flipped my car because of a kidney stone in July. It was only stupid damned luck I didn’t land on top of a car full of kids, or cause oncoming traffic to swerve and kill off those occupants. You see my point.</p><p id="fb17">Our self-serving selfishness can indeed affect others in ways that we most certainly don’t intend. If, however, you and I learn that our desires can hurt others, and I am just teasing out food here, then it seems incumbent upon us to <i>back the fuck off.</i></p><p id="12f6">If what you and I ingest makes us unhealthy, causes us disease and other issues, then it’s most certainly not just about us. It’s very much about those who count on us, love us and want us to stick around a bit longer.</p><p id="cd30">But that’s just me.</p><p id="7086">In a country full of folks who can’t be bothered to wear masks because it protects OTHER people, why on earth should I expect those same folks to make better choices about their health for the same reasons?</p><p id="bc02">But I digress.</p><figure id="eb2f"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*G9hwJ4RPM6v3rvvE"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@ahungryblonde_?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Sara Dubler</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="4089">In my favorite <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/0767903692">book </a>by Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, he points out that you and I, when and if we are able to identify the source of our suffering, in this case for me both IC and kidney stones, we can choose not to ingest those things which cause us suffering. While in the largest sense this

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would be just as applicable to ingesting doom material, hate speech and the like, let’s just keep this to sugar, my beloved nemesis.</p><p id="f7b9">I was given long and difficult lists to redirect my eating habits to prevent stones. But also those nasty IC flareups which mean long nights on the toilet with no relief in sight and the unhappy prospect of having to wear Certain Undergarments. Look. For me it was easy. I have no interest in making myself suffer physically any more than necessary.</p><p id="5603">What that meant was that those foods were off the menu. Yeah, and forever this time. No more <i>next time</i>, or <i>just a little. Just one</i>. Because for me and my compulsive nature, Just One is an invitation to the Whole Damned Bag.</p><p id="e78b">I am as bad as a reformed alcoholic invited into a bar. Just a sip, that’s all.</p><p id="8e80">Not on your life, especially if it really does mean your life.</p><p id="fcfc">Since July, I’ve not had any of the foods on the May Not Have List.</p><p id="6458">Several things have happened. Not only has my weight, which had risen some 23 pounds, dropped back down (at first to sheer stress, and now it’s maintenance). The other gift, which has been echoed by fellow Medium writers, is that the tongue gets retrained naturally to enjoy what Nature has always offered us as natural candy: berries, bananas, apples, the sweet treats without the damaging <a href="https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323818">fructose</a>. Honey in my hot milk, for I had to give up tea and coffee because of the oxalates and tannins, is sweet enough.</p><p id="8033">A big handful of green grapes is about as sweet as I can handle. Those are my big, big treats. A Honey Crisp apple is nearly a meal unto itself. I have found immense joy in scarfing down a six ounce package of huge blackberries, and I never leave the house without two big apples in the console when I need consolation.</p><p id="a3e6">Why apples? There are all kinds of reasons that the old saw of an apple a day really is based on solid science:</p><div id="c1b4" class="link-block"> <a href="https://www.besthealthmag.ca/best-eats/nutrition/health-benefits-apples/"> <div> <div> <h2>13 Surprising Health Benefits of Apples That'll Have You Eating One (or More) a Day</h2> <div><h3>Sometimes the simplest foods are the best foods for us. You don't have to be a nutritionist to realize that apples are…</h3></div> <div><p>www.besthealthmag.ca</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*nwBspeSWAwx2gW2Q)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="30e6">If you can eat apples, have at it. As with all issues dietary, know what you can and can’t have.</p><p id="ba78">You may do that research and STILL eat shit. At that point, when the body rebels and we get sick, or get stones, or expire early, there really is just one person to blame.</p><p id="95c5">One Medium buddy had to do much the same thing with her body. She told me I could retrain my sweet tooth, and she’s right. While I will still use sweetener (certain kinds, not all), I have noticed that in the largest sense, giving up sugar has given me back two things: the body I had, which is much happier where I am now; better health from taking out those substances that make me feel heavy and logey; and better long-term health by removing substances that my particular body doesn’t like.</p><figure id="4e78"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*mIPHlZYL_YbLhX2a"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@elldot_?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Leon Ell'</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="6eb0">That last is likely true for all of us. I’ve written elsewhere that as we age, our dietary needs change. For some it’s just fewer calories. For others, for whatever reason, as we shift into life’s later gears, nutritional needs shift with us. Not paying attention can cost us dearly. Learning what we need, and still not paying attention, is just plain stupid, if not spiteful behavior towards the only instrument we have through which to experience life on Earth.</p><p id="24b9">Retraining my sweet tooth this year wasn’t strictly about getting my pre-breakup, pre-Covid body back. It wasn’t just about stating my gustatory freedom from the bad juju the breakup left behind. It was as much a statement of a genuine commitment to vibrant health as anything. While yes, you’re damned right I miss my chocolate almonds (which at one point my <i>Illumination </i>buddy <a href="undefined">Charles Roast</a> offered to send me express mail, bless his six-pack-protected good heart), I am done with them.</p><p id="873d"><b>That’s a statement of freedom.</b> From bad food, bad diseases, bad side effects. And the freedom to eat what Nature intended as our sweets, some of which (citrus, pineapple) I’ve also had to give up. But what’s left is plenty.</p><figure id="3621"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*b94AMNsik10wYjYD"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@clemono?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Clem Onojeghuo</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></article></body>

Dear Editors, Requests on Behalf of All Writers

Help us grow and it will help your flow!

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When I started writing on Medium, editors of big publications were as good as Gods. I’d submit this story that in my mind was my new masterpiece, and then pray sincerely for the Gods to accept and publish my work.

These Gods had different religions and shrines — if writing, business, self-improvement, and relationships were religions, The Writing Cooperative, The Startup, The Ascent, P.S. I love you, would be the shrines.

And being the secular person (read jack-of-all-trade writer) that I am, I visited each shrine when I so desired. And then, all I had to do was to pray for the Gods aka editors to accept my little offering to the shrine.

I’ll admit I had some good fortune with some of the best publications — I’ve been published multiple times with all of the above publications and many many more. I’ve also had the good fortune of being welcomed to join the editorial team of Illumination, one of the fastest-growing and democratic publications on Medium.

I’ve also, within the span of a bit over four months, tasted the joys of Medium curation over 30 times. Yet, I have my frustrations as a writer, when basic consideration is missing.

Here are some basic tips and requests for editors to make the Medium publishing process an exciting and not an agonizing process for writers.

  1. Writers make your publication — not the other way round Most of the major publications have supportive and modest editors, who are all doing a big service to the writers by volunteering their time to edit and publish stories. Yet, one thing some editors or publications forget is that they got to where they are thanks to the contributors of the many writers that elevated the quality of their offering. So when editing stories, or leaving comments, one thing that’s easy to do is to leave out any condescending undertones or “I am above thee” feelings towards writers.
  2. Rejection is your right — but giving a reason is basic courtesy I absolutely understand when my story is rejected by an editor for a variety of different reasons — it doesn’t fit their editorial or content goals for the month, they have published a similar piece recently or addressed the topic often enough, or simply because it doesn’t meet their own criteria. But it is extremely frustrating when a story is rejected without providing even the courtesy of a single line of justified or unjustified explanation.
  3. Work With Us to Align Our Stories, Where Possible If a story is absolutely far from the mark or the objective of your publication, rejection is very understandable. A self-improvement story in a True Crime publication, or a discrimination piece in a fitness publication, surely makes sense to be rejected on the grounds of mismatch. But, oftentimes when a writer writes a story with a specific publication in mind, and is close, but not yet there, being an editor makes it your responsibility to help align them and get there. For example, Illumination offers a Slack group for writers and editors to combine and grow together — and provides support of a variety of different kinds. Other editors at The Startup, P.S. I Love You and many other publications are also helpful in working with writers to work on stories that have potential. So, please, help writers understand your “goals” rather than making them an opaque mystery box that no one can figure out.
  4. Medium Curation Isn’t the Be-All & End-All Even Medium agrees to this now — so it is high time we all do. I’ve had stories rejected at first, and then Medium-curated. This is when the editors often come back and say “well, maybe we were wrong.” Really? Your conviction in rejection was subject to a “Chosen for further distribution” tag given by Medium that suddenly overturns your decision? Let’s not just chase one goal and make sure this is a platform for the writers, by the writers and hence provide readers the best content possible.
  5. Not Everyone is a Native English Speaker I get it, you want writers to proof-read and edit thoroughly before a story is submitted. But, remember, good writing is not always subject to language proficiency, especially when Medium boasts of having writers from possibly over a hundred countries that contribute. Good content shouldn’t be subject to restrictions around a perfect grasp of the English language. If the writer has great content, why not help them work towards perfect or near-perfect English — isn’t that part of the job of an editor?
  6. Help Us Become Better Writers, and You’ll Benefit Too! In the end, the better the writers become, the easier the editors’ job gets. So why not help writers be a better version of themselves, and leave them with an experience that makes them want to come back and work with you? I have publications and editors I LOVE working with, and others that I promise myself NEVER to submit again to after a sour experience. Try and be in that former bucket, and you’ll see the joy you get from the gratitude that writers can often shower in return.

I am sure there are other things that I missed — so tagging others to provide any perspective missed. I’ll separately do a story with some advice for writers to make editors’ life easier too — because there’s always the other side of the story!

Dr Mehmet Yildiz Haimish Mead Lynn Dorman, Ph.D.; J.D. Tree Langdon Britni Pepper Dew Langrial Geetika Sethi Ntathu Allen Paul Myers MBA Dr John Rose Desiree Driesenaar EP McKnight, MEd Joe Luca Sumera Rizwan Thewriteyard Agnes Laurens CR Mandler MAT

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