AMERICA
Dear America, I’m Super Shocked! Are You Building a New Afghanistan?
Women are holding up half the sky
With tears in my eyes, and my mouth wide open from unbelief, I’m watching TV these days. I’m not living in your country America. And I’m soooooo glad I’m not.
How come, you don’t focus on the important stuff? How come you are so superficial?
How come you are so blinded by men-controlled religion that you take us back 100 years in time?
Are you building a new Afghanistan? Or what?
We have a planet to save. Our home. We have to design flexible, sponge cities so they don’t get flooded with rising sea levels. We have to change ownership structures and hypercapitalism so people don’t get crushed in stupid bureaucracy anymore.
We have to see the bigger picture of what’s happening on our planet so we can introduce indigenous burning again and save many many many lives in California. The bushfires are already reaching people’s houses. We need women to be involved in all of these actions too.
We need women to have their minds free of group pressure.
And live their lives without feelings of guilt, shame, and doubt.
I really don’t understand you Americans!
First, this gun nonsense. And now, this. Abortion and pregnancy both are just between a woman and her baby. And you can definitely trust her to make a good decision. A mother is mature. She can decide for herself. After a good intuitive talk with her baby. And she will stand straight by her decision whatever happens next in her life. Supported by other women around her.
She’s the courageous one! And don’t you ever think she’s not.
Why is it that men try to rule everything for us?
Our bodies and our minds?
First, they rape us and say: “I just got horny, I can’t help it. You have to understand.”
And then they say: “You can’t have an abortion.”
It’s just plain stupid. And out of this time.
Growing the Economy
You, Americans, are all for getting rich and growing the economy, aren’t you? Don’t you realize that you need employees for that? Entrepreneurs? How do you think female employees and entrepreneurs can function well when our lives are messed up by feeling guilt and shame?
How can we combine everything you want us to combine? How can we be the sexy, loving, vibrantly alive beings full of innovative ideas and wisdom you want us to be? When you hold us captive? In a cage.
In America, the cage is plastered with imaginary diamonds.
In Afghanistan, the cage is black and called a burka.
Or is that it? Don’t you want us to combine anything? Do you just want to make our lives more complicated than it already is?
You wanna f*ck with our minds too!
“The caged bird sings with a fearful trill, of things unknown, but longed for still, and his tune is heard on the distant hill, for the caged bird sings of freedom.”
— Maya Angelou
And when we have lots of shit at home with our spouses, our boyfriends, our parents, and grandparents. You laugh at us and say: “See, you’re a stupid woman, you can’t even handle life!”
Don’t you understand that women are holding up half the sky?
We don’t need these laws. No federal laws. No state laws. Not any laws about pregnancy and abortion. Full stop.
We don’t need a court telling us what we can or cannot do with our lives. We don’t need other people pressuring us into some decision. Whatever decision. We are strong enough to decide for ourselves about our life and our baby’s life.
And if any mother is in doubt or she needs support in making the right decision, she will involve the father of her child. And women friends. And we will talk with the baby together.
Animal communication is possible. Unborn baby communication is very possible too. And mothers know this better than anyone!
She will know what’s the right decision after a good baby conversation.
And then all women will support her in this decision. Because the ordeal isn’t over for her yet. She will be called names. Tortured. Whatever decision she has made. Harsh opinions are flying around on the internet and in real life.
And like bullets, they tear our souls apart.
Women supporting women makes the world go round wiser.
The Future of Pregnancy
What’s a possible 4-step process when you find out you are pregnant?
- Feel the baby. Feel your life. Take your time NOT TO THINK. Just sit quietly outside. Or walk in the woods. Or swim in the lake. Why outside? It’s easier to feel outdoors (with the help of Gaia and all your five senses) what’s happening to you. Don’t panic! Concentrate on your breathing. Breath in squares to calm down. 6 seconds in. Hold it. 6 seconds out. Hold it. This feeling process may take several days. Make time for it. This is an important decision in your life
- Imagine your life with this baby and without this baby. Feel the future as if it is already real. After a while, you’ll feel drawn to one or the other option. With or without this baby. Explore with all your five senses. See, hear, smell, touch, and taste. Take your time for this second step. The future can be felt. Time is not only linear
- Invite the father of your baby to do the process with you. Feel the baby together. And feel your individual lives. Breathe together. Talk to each other honestly about your emotions. All emotions of both of you matter. Is it grief? About what? Is it anger? About what? Is it joy? What makes you feel joy?
- Invite wise women to help you in this process if you need support. It will be your decision and wise women will understand this. They will support you without manipulating you. And they will stand by you when the doubt creeps in after whatever happens next. Finishing the pregnancy or having the abortion
Don’t let America become a new Afghanistan. Women are really holding up half the sky. And it is time to take us seriously!
Thank you, Gaia, for giving me Wild Writing. © Désirée Driesenaar, 2022
