Dating in the Age of Individual Will?

How to bate and date when everyone is self-centered?

The fractioning in geopolitical thinking we’re currently seeing is a drying chewing gum on the shoe, which will soon fall off.

Look at the disparities that took place with regards to Corona: people got jabbed, people didn’t get jabs, Canada is still fighting, but for us, here, in Northern Europe, the thing is ending without much drama.

It’s like we’re shrugging our shoulders and saying, been there, done that. It will eventually be the case for all of the world.

What was the fuss about, really, if we keep ending up where we started — in an ahistorical place where, if things are good and we’re feeling chummy, we are nice to one another, but if things are tense and overbearing, we become assholes.

History teaches only one thing, and you know what it is.

But! Does this mean we aren’t to trust and anticipate that there is a shift in paradigm, from one where individual will is merely trialed and not taken seriously, to one where it will really be:

to each their own.

The Age of Aquarius

The Piscean Age was one colored by Christian, patriarchal, top-to-bottom thinking. Classes existed and bureaucracies grew like weeds and warts all over the place.

Feminism came as a reaction — it came very late, in fact, as soon true egalitarianism in Aquarius will remove the need for such labeling in politics.

No more. What is coming will truly be yours and mine. Largely, of course, thanks to the internet, will global action be instated nodally from individual expression negotiated from the bottom up.

Such individualism has only two ways to go: either everyone becomes a tantruming baby, or we will be generously washed with a new type of compassion.

After all, if you are this eccentric and unique, there can only be the chance that the next guy is equally haphazard. There is empathy in this.

A lot of people aren’t lucky in the dating scene

Why is this, I ask myself?

There are several reasons why ladies and gents cannot seem to fix themselves with life-partners and monogamous congress.

For one, we still do not understand the internet. Just because we frontally interact with avatars on places like Tinder and Bumble, we seem to be thinking we are interacting with Tamagotchis. In short, we treat each other like shit.

And we’re confused because we can swipe endlessly. The selection of shit cannot be gotten to the end of.

Such applications have also digressed people from natural social muscle building. Certainly, guys are out there too early, without being true guys yet.

Unfortunately, there is an amateur for everyone, and they keep bating girls who themselves are drowning in the babywaters.

When you swipe this much, you are gnawing down the container for your depth, with which you love someone deeply.

Not only is this container for loving, but it is also for recognizing when love has entered the room when it is time to sleep with someone when the internet is gnawing your wits off and trying to sell them back to you for the price of a mineral supplement.

Ergo, the very thing that is needed to successfully identify and build love is done away within the process of swiping and speed-dating. Mix in a bunch of individual eccentricities and the nonchalance that stems from knowing you can move on with a sleight of hand if any crap is aimed at you, and you have a recipe for nothingness.

Personally

I thank Tinder. In the slew and jungle of pretty single mothers and Hornbyesquely tailored hipster girls and searchers, it has actually resulted in serious relationships for me.

Granted, they are now over, so you could argue it didn’t really work.

And in a way, I am arguing this. While, contrary to Obama’s cautioning, Tinder can work for finding long-term relationships, your chances are much higher of finding real love if you get off of it.

Because what is the one thing most people on Tinder lack?

Time.

And what is the one thing most people thereon have too much of?

Shit, they think they need to do.

They need however only one thing.

Want to hop the individuality train of Aquarius?

It is simple. Man will forever feel like he is a slave to destiny if most of his time does not belong to him. If he or she is working and attending the gyms and keeping up with the Joneses and Kardashians… how can a partner be anything but another accessory?

How can you yourself be anything but one?

People often use Tinder because they feel their social network is dry with romantic prospects and they do not have time to expand beyond it. Like a rom-com, a partner can therefore be downloaded, in order to save time.

But it is the lack of time that is the very problem.

People in a hurry have a hard time vibing.

If you free up time, you will ooze of individuality, and you will attract a partner organically pretty soon.

Unfortunately, it is precisely this simple and this difficult.

Selah.