Dating for Introverts

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son.</p><p id="4376">So how do you manage to actually date and get to know new people if you hate every moment of it so much?</p><p id="f0da">Well, I haven’t gone on a date for years. Instead — I’ve been on adventures.</p><h1 id="2ac1">Taking the focus of the ‘date’ and onto having fun</h1><p id="dc18">The solution is really quite simple. You just don’t go on a date! Instead, take the focus of this interrogation-like event where you’re forcing yourselves to get to know each other quickly and simply do some days out instead.</p><p id="6b53">What about a theme park? Rock climbing? Or even straight up camping. Whatever interests you share together, take the focus off staring each other in the face and simply do something fun together.</p><p id="3971">Don’t go on dates — go on adventures!</p><h1 id="e47a">Get to know each other slowly</h1><p id="b7d6">Nowadays there’s a hurry to do everything. Life is mapped out, and decisions have to be made fast. And sometimes, it feels like we have an ever-dwindling supply of time to do anything in. But this is no way to get to know a potential partner.</p><p id="8c96">Take a step back and allow the getting to know each other part to happen slowly. And who knows, maybe a date you thought would be perfect but you felt did

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n’t go so well would have seemed amazing if you were both getting to know each other perpendicular to a shared hobby.</p><p id="1fab">Don’t stare each other down and run the twenty questions to find out if you’re a match in the next two minutes. Take it easy, play a while, and see how things unfold. Life’s too short to be in a rush!!</p><p id="ea61">If you enjoy reading stories like these and want to support me as a writer, consider signing up to become a Medium member. It’s only $5 a month and gives you unlimited access to all stories on Medium. If you sign up using my link, I’ll earn a small commission.</p><div id="9b01" class="link-block"> <a href="https://medium.com/@LunaMoss/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link - Luna Moss</h2> <div><h3>Read every story from Luna Moss (and thousands of other writers on Medium). Your membership fee directly supports Luna…</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*q4-SzNmtFLnvepW6)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

I don’t go on dates; I go on adventures

There we sat across from each other. The fluorescent café lights shine down on us, and he asks me what I want to order from the menu. I begin to tense up at the thought of eating in front of him. What food should I order? What if I struggle to eat and have salad hanging off my chin and something stuck in my teeth, and he asks me a question? Oh God…the questions!

Maybe this seems a little mellow dramatic to some of you, but honestly, this is how I felt going on my first date.

“But it gets better”, some of you may say. Unfortunately — not for me. I have learnt this about myself after many years. I don’t like eating with people until I’ve got to know them a little. It’s just one of my little insecurities. And I hate personal questions — I’m a super insular person.

So how do you manage to actually date and get to know new people if you hate every moment of it so much?

Well, I haven’t gone on a date for years. Instead — I’ve been on adventures.

Taking the focus of the ‘date’ and onto having fun

The solution is really quite simple. You just don’t go on a date! Instead, take the focus of this interrogation-like event where you’re forcing yourselves to get to know each other quickly and simply do some days out instead.

What about a theme park? Rock climbing? Or even straight up camping. Whatever interests you share together, take the focus off staring each other in the face and simply do something fun together.

Don’t go on dates — go on adventures!

Get to know each other slowly

Nowadays there’s a hurry to do everything. Life is mapped out, and decisions have to be made fast. And sometimes, it feels like we have an ever-dwindling supply of time to do anything in. But this is no way to get to know a potential partner.

Take a step back and allow the getting to know each other part to happen slowly. And who knows, maybe a date you thought would be perfect but you felt didn’t go so well would have seemed amazing if you were both getting to know each other perpendicular to a shared hobby.

Don’t stare each other down and run the twenty questions to find out if you’re a match in the next two minutes. Take it easy, play a while, and see how things unfold. Life’s too short to be in a rush!!

If you enjoy reading stories like these and want to support me as a writer, consider signing up to become a Medium member. It’s only $5 a month and gives you unlimited access to all stories on Medium. If you sign up using my link, I’ll earn a small commission.